I Need to Share: Tried a Personals Ad, Got a Reply

[Natalie D]

I hope Thursday goes well for you.

I've been single now for about 2 years and I've meet a few women through dating sites. Nothing has come of it and I think part of the problem is my CDing. I'm happy doing what I do and don't want to stop. This is the problem, when do you tell someone about your CDing? The longer you leave it the harder it gets. But on a 1st date do you say Hi nice to meet you and by the way I love to wear woman's clothes.

The way you've gone about it is the the right way and something I've never even thought about to be honest as I think it's something I'd have to address in the future with the right person. Perhaps I'll change my "add" now and see what comes my way.

Once again I hope things work out for you

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

Pof is cool... but they dont letcha post triple x pics. Glad for u wino tg girl.wish i cld find a gg close by..not a thousand miles away..thats what i find fruatrating. Like...omg there she is the hottest chick..oh wait she's over there 8 states...dam its always that way!! The publicf##kbook is a good site, so is meetlocals but idk how many tg's on them...probly few. altcom prob the place to go and of course adultfriendfinder..anything goes.

Those sites are fine if someone is looking for a casual hookup, but not so much if someone is actually trying to date someone. And from my experience when I have ventured into such sites looking for girls who might be in to CDs, the responses I get are all spambots. They have this set up where the first email is very generic, like "Hi, I liked your ad, I'm new to town and looking to meet new people..." and then when you reply, the next one will have a link saying "Come to this site, I'm on here more" and then it's just a cam or porn site that wants you to sign up.

[cordgrass]

I signed up at okcupid yesterday and did searches on crossdressing and crossdressers and got nothing.

[TG-Taru]

I'm on okcupid, don't mention the word crossdressing, transgendered I do. Haven't made any searches myself. No real success, a few people have sent a little message, a bunch visited, some liked, but not left any message.

[wino_tg_girl]

I owe you an update!

Our dinner date went well. I showed up with flowers and really wanted to make a good first impression. She was very surprised by the flowers and was obviously flattered. I am not going to play hard to get with this girl and it was a good choice.

We met at a little mexican restaurant because the beer tasting I suggested was pretty far from her house. We chatted about life and work over dinner. We chatted so long that we didn't realize the restaurant had closed, we were the only ones left, and we were keeping the staff from their closing duties. The restaurant was busy when we arrived and I was so focused on her that I didn't realize it had emptied out. When we walked outside she was very into a goodbye hug. We then chatted by the cars for a while. Once we were out of the restaurant she wanted to talk about Evelyn and was more flirtatious. She told me that she is attracted to my male side but really wants to see Evie too. She is definitely into my feminine side. We chatted about girl stuff for about ten minutes.

She isn't really a girly girl. She wore a baggy tshirt and jeans. She is a little plump but I honestly prefer larger women (which I did put in my ad). I only dated larger girls even back when I was athletic and thin. She has long very pretty straight blonde hair and a really beautiful face. I got the impression that she isn't confident in her appearance. I honestly expressed to her that it would be difficult for me to find her more attractive. She is short, curvy and has a naturally very pretty look; I am very attracted to her. I think she sees herself as being much more overweight than she actually is. Pop culture is too rough on women who aren't thin.

Once we were outside and talking she was much more flirtatious. I gave her a quick peck kiss when we had our final parting hug. She gave me a very genuine smile as a result. If I wasn't so concerned with scaring her away I may have given her a much more romantic kiss (I definitely would have if she only knew me as Jeff and didn't know about Evie).

When I got home we texted back and forth for a while. I told her that I plan to work on makeup Saturday morning. I have some naturally female pics that I shared with her, but my makeup skills don't hold up well to close inspection. If she likes my female side as much as she likes my female pics I think I'll be in femme with her on a fairly regular basis, and I love that idea. I love dressing but it is kind of depressing to just dress up and hang around the house alone.

She didn't come right out and say it, but I think she is bisexual and is attracted to both men and feminine women. I'm no manly man but I'm definitely not overtly feminine as a man. In some of our correspondence she told me about a man who she is friends with who she spends some of her free time with. She expressed her frustration with him not taking it to the next level. Because of this I know she is sexually attracted to men and I'm pretty sure she told me this to let me know that she's not just a tranny-chaser. It also makes it clear that she is looking for romance.

I like her a lot. If I had run an ad describing exactly what I am looking for in a woman I couldn't have done any better. I'm really excited to see how and if it progresses. At the very least, I found a new girl-friend. Hopefully it will become more but I'm happy either way.

[donnatracey]

Thanks for the update - glad it went so well. Fingers crossed the relationship will develop further as time goes on...

[Nicole Erin]

Just if you see her again, make sure and tap that while you got the chance. Cover up the ol Johnson though, no need for kids to be coming 9 months later.

[wino_tg_girl]

Just if you see her again, make sure and tap that while you got the chance. Cover up the ol Johnson though, no need for kids to be coming 9 months later.

I'm kind of a girl that way. Quick **** masturbating into a girl isn't really all that fun to me. I can get off fine on my own if its all about the orgasm. Firstly, I'd rather keep her as a friend than just have quickie sex and never see her again. Second, I tend to get kind of attached when being that intimate. I won't have sex with someone who I don't want to have a monogamous relationship with. I also feel very hurt when sexual relationships end. I'm not into one night stands.

I'm disease and kid free at 38. I know how to be careful. Plenty of experience. Thanks for your concern (I guess).

[IMkrystal]

There is hope, its so nice to hear someone might find that "someone special", I'm so happy for you.

I have posted on both sites with no luck both in male mode and cd mode, although never together, with no luck. I am afraid someone from work will recognize me if I combine both profile together. I have been online dating for many years and have yet to make a connection. I have even posted in the "meeting Form” on here with no replies. I congratulate you on your luck, but I have a better chance of being struck by lightning than meeting a woman where there is mutual acceptance.

[Kristi Moore]

I was on POF with my avatar pic and an honest (non-sexual) description. My account was deleted after 1 week, no notice, no email saying why and no response to the (so far) 12 mails I have sent to them asking why!

Beth I don't believe Avatars are aloud. Your pic here is lovely

[Leelou]

Wow, how cool is that, Evie! Thanks for the update--it sounds like the first date went super. Good luck and good for you being so up front about it.

I must say, though, I'm very disappointed to hear from those who have had their profiles deleted for the mere mention of crossdressing. Just goes to show the discrimination we face. I'm glad Evie's profile wasn't deleted before she met this woman.