OK Melissa, you are probably going to scare a lot of people off, but I will play.
First 'transsexual' is a word that is used to describe a person who suffers from gender identity disorder & has a desire
to transition & live in a gender that is opposite to their biological birth sex. So it can't really be any of these things.
No, because when you are a MtF transsexual, you have already identified that you are woman are you not?
You can't claim to be a transsexual if you haven't already figured out you have the wrong brain, personality
& gender identity trapped in a wrongly configured body.
When you are a MtF transsexual you are really meant to be a woman, so if you have truly embraced
who you really are then there is no need to 'try to pass as a woman'. Passing is like pretending to be
something that you are not. I am accepted as a woman because I have embraced who I truly am &
always be my true self. If you actually 'be the woman' then that is exactly how people will accept you.
I know lots of trans girls who are not very feminine in their appearance, but they 'pass' because they
know who they are. They are very strong people who have complete faith & confidence in themselves.
Dressing up to be 'like a woman' reminds me of the drag queens who pretend to be pretty by being overly
flamboyant in their dress & their make-up while trying to be the centre of everyone's attention. Whereas
a transsexual on the other hand usually dresses to suit the occasion better & how they feel most comfortable.
If a person born male feels happier identifying a woman & feels more comfortable in presenting themselves in
female clothes then isn't this the most appropriate form of dress for that person? So anyway Melissa how should
a MtF transsexual person dress? It's getting freaking damn cold standing here with no clothes on.
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No, being transsexual is about having a desire to be your true self when your gender identity doesn't match your
outer appearance. Real beauty is something that comes from with, whereas the superficial beauty & glamour that
is on the outside will fade in time with everyone no matter how good your make up is, who you are & how much
money you spend on cosmetic surgery. It doesn't matter how much time you spend with the make-up in front of
the mirror, because being a good person who is lively & interesting to talk to & hang out with makes you a lot more
attractive as person to want to really get to know & want to spend time with.
Not everyone who is transsexual can have gender reassignment surgery for reasons relating from finances to their
personal health, but just because they haven't had the surgeries it doesn't mean they are not who they present
themselves as. The road to transition is long & gender reassignment surgery is only a small part of the transitional
process as a transsexual. There are many stigmas, fears & other mental issues to overcome before you can even
really begin. You have to start to think of yourself more & be more selfish about your own needs in life while others
around you try & make you feel guilty & ashamed, but you cannot care about what other people think as a transsexual.
There is a lot that a person has to deal with when they are transsexual, more crap will come along the way with more
hurdles to always be expected & overcome. Everything is never so clear cut, simple & dry. SRS/GRS is not the magic
bullet that will make you a female, being female is that person that comes from within when you truly are a transsexual.
Being a transsexual is about having the desire to be the opposite gender to the birth sex to which you were born. Having
SRS/GRS is the final affirmation step that will confirm your true gender identity if it is possible for you & if you believe that
this is what it takes to fulfil all your needs to help you to feel happy & complete as a person, but it does not define you as
a woman!
And being TS has very little in common with the rest of the TG spectrum.
So how did I do sis?![]()