[SIZE="3"][/SIZE]Well it is that time again for me – time to pack everything I own and move to a new location. In the Army we do this about every 1-2 years but thankfully that means it is time for me to leave Korea and return to the states. I am spending this weekend cleaning and packing all of my various household items. After cleaning the kitchen I started packing my clothes. The first items of clothing I packed are all my male clothes – I figure I wear those the least now so I can pack them neatly and I will not have to unpack them for a while. As I am packing the various t-shirts, pullovers, football jerseys, ties, and such I became very reflective. I found my clothes to be very manly, something nice and appropriate for my age and profession and it made me very unhappy.
After reflecting some more I figured out what made me so unhappy was the fact I make a good man. I take care of my family the way a father should. I have a manly job, I work hard, and I am successful. I enjoy football and many of the lesser sports (defined as any sport other than football). I am an avid outdoorsman – I love fishing, hunting, hiking, and mountain biking. Being from West Virginia I can in fact skin a buck and run a trot line and this country boy can survive. I asked my girlfriend about this (she knows and supports my dressing) and she thinks I am an awesome man, a manly man (her exact words).
So why can I not be happy being the man I am. Why can I not accept that I am a man and throw this other side of me to the curb? My girlfriend asked me if I have ever been happy being a man and the answer is no, I have not. I play the part well but that is all I am doing – an actor in my own life pretending to be something I am not. But like a good character actor I have been type cast and I cannot break free.
I enjoy my feminine side so much more but I am so poor at playing that part – so inexperienced and so lacking in depth. But it is the part I am dying to play and I just hope I get better with practice. I just want to be the girl that I know lives inside me.[/SIZE]