We always see tidbits of this kind of attitude both from group members in that you are not out.... you are not passable.... you are not <insert just about anything>. This is a support group and support can be loving and support can also include tough love. But it doesn't include putdowns (and there is a distinction between tough love and putdowns).
But there also is a flip-side (and this is not directed at you Suzy). We do need to not be so sensitive. Sometimes things get taken out of context and someone gets angry before it is clarified. A statement may not be about non-support, but can be misconstrued. So a few deep breaths when reading things here can sometimes be helpful.