Would you...

[MandyTS]

Hello again,

I have been sitting her tonight at work thinking about gender dysphoria and more apt intersex conditions and gender reassignment. Just for some background I was just diagnoised with gender dysphoria (GID) after seeing a gender counciler for over 6 months. It has brought some radical changes to my life and how I percive things. I was given clearance to start HRT but am not going to do it right now, other reasons, family, etc although I stopped taking testosterone about 2 weeks ago and am going on a drug that is supose to help curve ostioprosis.

I am a little different that most people with GID. As I can imagine most people who are TS are well "normal" sized down between the legs functionally, repoductivly, etc. In effect going though SRS is effectivly removing a functional but not wanted organ. Some people though are born with non reproductive parts. This includes conditions such as micropenis, hidden penis, etc. There is no real treatment to either 1. make them more functional or 2. make them more of a normal size. As you can imagine it is a big problem with sexual intercourse etc.

Years ago if a boy was born with this problem they were assigned female. The doctors wanted to assign me female but my parents refused. For the last 23 years I have lived in a sort of androgious state, not possessive the male hormone testosterone (due to a genetic condition) or the female hormones (estrogen and progesterone).

Ok here is the question...

You have a condition simular to mine, getting dumped by girls because you can not perform, etc. You find out about SRS and have mild gender dysphoria. You find you can have a vigina, and function as a non fertile woman, and pass as a woman.

Would this be enough to warrent the life changing transistioning alone without any other gender factors?

[GypsyKaren]

I really think it's all about how you feel about yourself on the inside. If you feel like a woman I would consider it.

GypsyKaren

[DonnaT]

I would have to feel, deep down, that I was really a woman. The outer shell would make no diffference in my choice.

Note that during SRS/GRS they do not remove the penis, but instead invert it. Other techniques need to be employed if the penis isn't big enough to form a proper vagina.

[MandyTS]

As I said before I already know I am TS, whether transistion will happen is another story. I think the reason this came up again is because I just found out that as a male I would difinitly now not be able to have kids of my own (well with a woman) and there is one thing I have always wanted, to care and protect my own kids some day. It just makes everything more depressing.

I have always felt I was a women inside, but then I can not really talk to my parents about it, they know how I feel but everytime it comes up they either get really pissed off and threaten to throw me out of the house or they just close up and walk away. I don't know anymore how long I can wait, this is getting harder all the time, but I know I can not do it for a few years, mainly do to finances. I also much research California's discrimination laws in regards to teaching (I am currently a student teacher and hope to be in the classroom next year). If I was to lose this job I don't know what I would do. Teaching is my life, and it keeps me going everyday of the week.

[Julie]

When I went to a gender specialist, she started talking transitioning in the first session. She told me I could very successfully transition after I expressed serious doubts about it. My wife read up on TSs and told me that's me and she believed I'd be happier living life as a woman. With their support I began HRT and fully intended to transition. But when I saw the reactions of my kids I knew I had to stop.

You will see or hear again and again statements like, "If you really want to transition, nothing will stop you." Nothing could be more accurate.

You have to know this deep inside and without question. If you know you're TS and want to live life as a woman, it doesn't matter if you are a linebacker or a petite feminine man, you will follow your heart. Nothing else matters. Asking others what they think only tells me you have some doubts. If you have doubts, you're not ready.

[Jeanette TS]

It is going to slow for me, I have seen my GP i am still whating to see some one about my GRS and they are draging there feet. If you are a girl in the NorthWest well i feel sorry for you. As i have done every thing they wanted.
But still I saw my GP the other day and told him that it is to slow for me and i will be taking Hormons from now on.He just said will if you are going to that is up to you. Mind you he has been very good it's the PCT that is getting me down.So ye.

Lov Jeanette xx

[Star]

Have you tried living as a woman full time already and if so how is that going? If it works out you will know, if not you can move on.

hugs...

[MandyTS]

I am trying to build a wardrobe (shoes are the big big factor) so I can go on a vacation for about a week and try and live full time and see how it goes. Shoes seem to be the big problem right now. I don't know how long I can keep my cover, some I think at school already is spreading rumors. We will see.

In my heart I have ALWAYS needed to be a woman, but Gos has played a cruel joke on me in the large 6'6" body...

[Star]

it will all be ok sis....i sent you a message for the shoes...

[girlintouch]

I had to think about what you wrote. For not expericing you problem makes it very hard, I think a person with what you stated, might consider not having a gender to relate to. If I was in that position I would want to be to have a gender to relate to. I would most diffently go and get the SRS. I think that being able to carry a relationship with someone on a physical level with the SO would be important, it to me. I think it would help with mental sercurity with a SO. If it was me I would become a woman just to be able to be with my SO on all levels mentally as well a physical. Just my thoughts.

[Elizabeth]

Hi My58vw,

I am not so sure I would be in such a hurry to replace one set of expectations, with a new set of expectations. I would not recommend anyone get SRS unless they are absolutely sure of thier gender identity. I don't see your genetic condition any differently than any other transsexual trying to use a body they don't feel right in.

If you need to transition, you will. That is how I see it. Those who transition do so because they must, not because they choose to, as I see it.

Love always,
Elizabeth

[TGMarla]

My initial response is YES! But then I have to slow down a bit. I have most of my life wished that I was female. And if I had a condition such as yours, with the mindset that I currently have, I'd have to say that I'd rather be female. But there are other considerations. You say you're 6' 6"? That's really large for a woman. Of course there are women that big naturally. But let's face it. They stand out in a crowd. And I'll bet they are self-concious about it.

But the bottom line is this: if you feel like you are a woman, and that BEING a woman will make you feel right about yourself, then perhaps you have to consider it.

I would love to be a woman....but I would not love to transition. People like me are just not brave enough to put up with the horrid ramifications of transitioning.

Good luck with everything, Luv.