I have been cross-dressing for years and my wife of 3 years is accepting of who I am. I am trying to come up with boundaries and asking for advice so we don't go too far too fast. We were only married for 2 months when I "came out" to her. At first, she thought it might be fun and we tried to dress me up together and it turned into a disaster in the middle of painting my nails. She already had makeup on me, but I still looked like a guy since I had no wig at the time. She shut down completely and instituted a "don't ask, don't tell" policy until recently. For the past few months, I have been able to dress in the house with her in another room and she has had no contact with me during that time. Just this past weekend, I was dressed and she saw me and interacted with me for a couple of hours. This time, she was ok with seeing me trying on some clothes that she handed down to me, but again, I had no makeup and no wig.
My question is How Far is Too Far...and how fast is too fast?
This was a huge step for her this past weekend and it made me feel fantastic - I can only hope she wants more as I do. I don't want her to shut-down again.
Does anyone have any suggestions for bringing her into my world slowly but where we can both be happy?
-T. Blaire