After reading all of these posts on who is out and who isn't and who wants to and who doesn't I am at a crossroads. I would like to come out to a few more people but how exactly does one start that conversation? I had thought to tell my sister, and at least two others. All female and all mature ladies who have been around the merry go round a time or two. With my wife it was one thing to tell her, seeing as how we have been working on communication since some infidelities Other people though not sure on. I guess the problem is that if I tell them I am assuming that it is something that they would want or like to know? Maybe that's a big part of the whole "out" problem? Is it that important for others to know? Are we that arrogant that we think it matters? Like I said just looking for some advice and discussion. Thanks