Although my core values remain the same regardless of where I "am," I believe I am the person I prefer to be within the safety and sanctuary of this forum's walls. In the outside world, there is much controversy, complication, posturing, fighting, dishonesty, and misunderstanding. By the very nature of what I do for a living, I am enmeshed in a patently adversarial, combative process. I believe in what I do, and what I do is quite necessary and serves a noble purpose, but there is much that is meretricious about those within my profession. And seemingly every year, the process becomes more personal, aggressive, and vindictive. Taking the time to stop and smell the roses is looked upon as weakness, and weakness, in my world, is exploited.
In this, it has become quite difficult not to become callous, indifferent, and apathetic towards the goings-on of my world. The world in which I exist has degenerated. I did not sign up for this, but this is where I am at. However, I play the game as necessity requires, and I play it well. I cannot escape the feeling, though, that in so doing I am at risk of losing a part of myself that I hold dear and true to my heart. Compassion, love, and understanding are not well received in what I do, and yet these are the very principals that I require to maintain my own sanity and sense of self worth.
In here, in this forum, I am who I would otherwise be in an ideal, non-judgmental, honest, caring, and understanding world. I am compassionate, I express and feel love, I greatly appreciate and admire beauty, I shed tears in the face of both sad and happy stories alike, I value others for who they are, and I am not afraid that someone will seek to take advantage of me if I let my guard down for even one moment (although the latter has been tested, lately). I am a MtF crossdresser, and therefore a creature of great beauty, magic, innocence, and enchantment. I seek out and revel in femininity, and all that it signifies and represents to me. I do not strive to become someone I am not, rather, I aim to become the entire, total person that I am.
When I am here, I have no interest in pretense. I have no interest in putting on a show. I have no interest in being someone I am not, and certainly no interest in competing against others. Instead, when I am here, I flourish on leaving it all behind, and simply being.
Let me first say that the member that authored this quote is a very dear friend of mine, whom I respect and admire greatly! She is a fantastic girl, and I know that she means well, is looking out for me, and does not want to see me get hurt. My friend offered this advice with the purest and noblest of intentions. Indeed, she is truly a wonderful, kind, and caring friend of mine! That said, I know she is not alone in this sentiment. This sentiment, however, somewhat troubles me. In fact, it is this sentiment, and the quote in particular, that provided the inspiration for this post.Anne, your skin is still not thick enough yet.
Regardless, the person that I am, the essence of my being that I seek to regain and recaputure in this forum, is strikingly at odds with growing a thicker skin. My skin is extremely thick in the outside world. Too thick. Depressingly thick. In here, I desire to shed my armor, shields, and thick skin, and rejoice in the purest essence of who I am. I desire to be feminine, to be human, to be total, and to be a member of a like-minded, kindred collective and group of fellow travellers and pilgrims. I could enter this forum with my armor, shields, and thick skin in place, but for me, that defeats the entire purpose of coming here in the first place.
In this forum, I know that I am a better person. I am a better person simply by virtue of checking all pretense and the act required by the outside world at the door. In this I believe there is much beauty and enlightenment to be discovered in the truth of one’s bare, naked being and self, leaving behind the injuries sustained to, and disfigurement of, the soul caused by repeated exposure to a harsh society. And if we have the courage to do this, to simply be ourselves here, within this forum, are we not all better off for the experience?
In the comfort, solace and safety of this haven offered by the forum, who are you? Are you the same person that you are in the outside world? Are you the person you would prefer to be in the outside world? Do you seek to embrace the truth and wonder of your inner self, and discover the beauty that lies within? Life is finite, and opportunities diminish daily. Are you willing to seize the opportunity, and make the most of it? Life can be complicated and trying, but it can also be satisfying, fulfilling, and quite magical. There is much beauty in the world, if we only but look within ourselves, and take the time to appreciate all that is within and around us.