My Daughter came out to us as being Gay in high school but later amended that to being Bi (now married to a man) My son is Gay and was in an LTR for almost 5 years. Broke up with his friend and now lives at home. He's seen me dressed and doesn't seem to have a problem with it. (Or at lest hasn't saud anything about it)
Heather J.
No, I'm the only one in the family as far as I know, but then the rest of them would tell you there are none in the family, sometimes we just can't know the answer to that question. It's called being deep in the closet, and many of us are, even to the rest of the family.
Tina B.
Magic is the art of changing consciousness at will.
Our son is gay, seems to have some chip on his shoulder, and as far as I'm aware doesn't know about me.
Tracy, maybe your son came out right after seeing you dressed because he was already dying to tell you, and was relieved to discover that his mom and dad would almost certainly be accepting. This could be true regardless of any angry words from him.Originally Posted by TSchapes
Lallie
Time for a change.
My 18 year old son is Bi or maybe gay. Since he came out he has only dated other males. His friends, all girls, recently posted a picture of him dressed up on facebook, but he quickly had them take it down. We recently found a dress in his room, that he said was his friends, and he left a sports bra while house sitting for my sister in law. Again he said it belonged to a friend. My wife and I have made it clear that we are accepting but he hasn't admitted to any crossdressing. He doesn't know about me.
When I found out my son was bi, my concern was for his safety. I would be supportive if he were a crossdresser but hope that he isn't. Although the world is a lot more accepting than when I was 18, there is still a long way to go.
I had a thought yesterday.
A lesbian mother transfers her genetic material to a son. If it becomes active, the son becomes a MtoF transsexual lesbian.
A gay father transfers his genetic material to a daughter. If it becomes active, the daughter becomes a FtoM transsexual gay man.
Just a thought.
I hope I don't get put in jail by the police for it!
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For those of you who are "accepting" of your GLBT kids but not out to them yourself, why not? What makes it ok for them to be out to you, but not for you to be out to them?
For me there are several reasons, not that any are good reasons.
1. My son's life is full of drama right now and everything is a big deal to him. I think that he is trying to come to terms with his sexuality and is living an emotional roller coaster, not that he will share anything with his parents. I think that he needs to become comfortable with himself before being exposed to a crossdressing dad.
2. My son wears his heart on his sleeve, and on facebook. He tells his friends everything. Being a typical teenager he can be mature and loving one minute, and hate our guts the next. I am in the closet to everyone other than my wife and think that there is a good chance he would tell someone, thinking they would keep the secret. When he first decided he was bi, he didn't want everyone to know because he was in high school, but told several of his friends because "they wouldn't tell anyone." He didn't understand how everyone knew.
3. My ego...I know this is a bad reason but I'm just now beginning to accept this myself, so I don't want my son to think of me as a crossdresser.
4. My wife has been very supportive since she found out, but she is not comfortable with anyone else finding out, including my sons.
On the plus side, it would be a lot easier to find time to dress if I didn't have to hide it from my sons, who both still live at home.
Last edited by steph1964; 09-16-2011 at 02:20 AM.
My father was transgendered - he said he was 75% feminine. I'm more like 95%. My son is very gentle, thin, and loves soft fabrics and bright colors, and has a wife who is a bit masculine. He knows I'm transgendered, but hasn't really expressed an interest or issue with his own identity. But then again, he was raised by his hairy stepfather and my wife liked to wear plaid flannel lumberjack shirts and corduroy pants, and very short hair. On a good day she looked like a 12 year old boy. Later she looked more like a 60 year old man. She's about 52 now.
My daughter and her husband are more flexible when it comes to gender roles. Sometimes she's the man and he's the girl, and other times she's very girly and he's the GI-Joe. It's great that they can have that flexibility with each other.
I'm glad I was honest with both of my kids, it gave them the freedom to be themselves, and to be open to partners who enjoyed expressing a wide range of gender roles and identities. I think both of them are more happily married as a result.
I'm gay, but both of my parents are straight. Go figure.
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Wow, that's far out. Did you know about it all along, or did he tell you after you grew up a bit. How did you feel when you found out?
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have a 23 yr. old son that acts gay although i have never seen him with a guy or a girl for that matter,i had a talk with him about 3 years ago it was the hardest thing i ever did, it was more hard on my my part than him i was crying telling him that i love him and he told me "dad i am not even sure" and yes all my kids know about me although i don't dress around them. so i wonder too if it is in the genes.
I feel that it is almost impossible for a gay gene to exist. Gay men seldom have children. So if there ever was a gay gene, it would have disappeared within a few generations. The gay gene would have dropped out of the human population thousands of years ago.
My children are straight (so far).
Does anyone think that crossdressers have more children? (Thereby passing on their genes more efficiently?)
I doubt it too...but I have brother who is also Gay while both of my parents are straight, go figure.
I can't say how scientifically sound this statement is, but it sure looks, sounds, and smells like a stereotype.
I can say with certainty that I know plenty of GLBT parents (not just men!) who would roll their eyes at it. There's a lot of parents out there who tried living straight and normal because that's what the world wanted - and in a lot of cases, still wants. What did they do? They got married. They had kids. They lived seemingly hetero lives until they just couldn't do it anymore and finally came out as gay. And those are just the ones you know about. I'm sure there are untold thousands or even millions more who remain closeted because they don't see a way out. That's not even counting those who have always been out as gay who still choose to have kids. There's a lot of them too and you might be surprised at how conventionally some of them make babies.
I am most certainly bisexual (as is my wife) and we reproduced. I dunno if there's a "gay" gene or not, but if there is, I believe there is there's no shortage of us passing it along.
I'm a bisexual GG with a CD SO and a gay son.
B
That's not true. Gay men can and do have sex with women in order to have kids. Up until the last 30-40 years or so, being married to a GG was a great way to hide under cover for being gay and I think this has been true throughout time, save a few blimps in cultural history here and there where being homosexual was not vilified.
Reine
I don't have any kids, but on the other end of the spectrum, I suspect that my dad is gay. This is based on many things I've noticed over the years. For example, when I was like 12 or so, I found gay porn stashed in the bonus room of our house.. I'm an only child and I'm 99.9999% sure that it wasn't my mom's. I told him that I found it, and he gave me a talk about how what was depicted in the video was not how people should behave. It was pretty awkward lol
But it doesn't like bother me or anything. I don't care whether he's gay or not. He's still my dad!
like shooting stars in a barrel
My mother had other kids before she met and married my dad and me and my sisters didn't know of their exsistance until receiving a phone call in the night telling us one of them had died after that I found out I had an older brother well before that time I had started cross dressing. Well I got caught with my stash by my mother and she sat me down and implied that it was normal and that my brother I had never met was also a cross dresser and gay. I haven't talked to him about it but maybe one day. Long story short we had a common ground with cd ing while never being influenced the same
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