Hi All , My name is Tina . I could use your thoughts. Like most everyone else ive dressed off and on my whole life ,with long periods of time in between. Been married 20 years to a very good wife ,for pretty much the last 18 years i never dressed at all ..( kids all grown up now) in the last two years ive been dressing and practicing my look every chance i could ,( in secret). Then it finally happened and my wife found my make up , a wig, a bra , some jewlery, . She did not find any clothes. Well i thought this was the end of my life...as i knew it.. But she surprized me by saying she understood that its kinda normal for some guys ,and that if im one of them she knows i have to be who i am and she can't change it. she dosent like it ,and doesnt want to see it. and divorce has been mentioned . This hurt her alot because i lied and was not honest . At the time i told her that i only put on make up and did not dress or go outside.(more lies) I would have loved to tell her before we got married but i had no idea i would ever feel the way i do now . I offered to show her some of my best pictures to show her im pretty good at it, but she did not want to see them . the desire to dress is way up , I feel fantastic as Tina. I go out when i can (still in secret). So question is how to approach her to tell her that i want to go out as Tina with her knowledge. ? ( i dont want to keep hiding) . I think shes understanding enough but this could also put her over the edge . I dont want to push it to far what do you suggest? I want to be honest from now on, but How to tell her? does she really want to know? (no more lies)