Originally Posted by
DebbieL
I may be wrong, but IIRC, D/s is Dominant / submissive.
Not uncommon for transgenders and cross-dressers to take an interest in such things, since there is a strong emphasis on very feminine clothing both for the Dominatrix and the submissive ****, male or female.
The D/s scene also provides a counter balance to the pressure to be a man. Having a woman order you to get dressed up in lingerie, high heels, and everything else, then tie you up and tease you with a combination of arousal and pain often for an hour or more, can be an amazing turn-on for someone who has struggled to find ANY kind of support.
The one pitfal is that if a woman is truly sadistic and the man is truly submissive or masochistic, she can begin to inflict more pain by denial.
The ultimate masochist begs his mistress to beat him and inflict horrible pain.
The Ultimate sadist mistress, knowing that the greatest pain would be to deny the request refuses.
The ultimate masochist experiences pleasure in the pain and humiliation of being denied, and says with all sincerity "Thank you mistress", and takes pleasure in the fact that nothing happened.
The problem is that if a woman understands how cruel this can be, and uses it to inflict deep emotional pain on someone who isn't quite willing to take it that far, the submissive can experience very real self esteem and abuse issues. Some even need counciling for spousal abuse, or battered spouse syndrome.
It sounds silly if you just hear about it, but if you've ever had someone who knows your little "secret" of being transgendered, and they take every opportunity, numerous times a day, to tear down your self-esteem, to control your money, food, free time, and humiliate you publicly and privately at least once every 30 minutes, it can be almost crippling.
Fortunately, most women aren't that cruel, and most transgendered men will move on before allowing their self-image to get so bad that they don't even care if they live or die, unless their partner demands money, resources, and obedience even after the divorce. When the abusive partner leaves, there is literally no reason left to live.
Fortunately, the condition is so common among women, that many transgender councilors know that this can be an issue, and know how to treat it. Often, a substantial recover can be accomplished in just a few months.
. Dozens of panties and pretty under things, skirts, dresses, and blouses, titties and wig. Had painted toes all the time and fingers some of the time. I sold my paintings, taught evening classes to a group of adults that didn't mind the fem coming out every ones in awhile. You see I don't necessarily want to be a great crossdresser, that could take a stroll outside for all to see without heads snapping off. I just want to be me!
