Hi everyone! It's been a while since I've posted here last, but I still love this place.
I have been wrestling with this issue for years: sometimes wanting HRT and at other times deciding that HRT is not right for me. I have seen therapists over the years (3) about this and I have actually decided to start seeing one of them again (made an appointment for this week actually). My family also knows of my interest in HRT.
I have doubts that I am transsexual. I don't have any problems with my male self, or my male body. I do not feel that I can no longer go on as a male. However femininity is a part of my personality, and I have no issues with this. I do like cross-dressing. I want to be able to fill out bras, panties, lingerie and dress up my body with outfits and not need false breasts, padded panties, etc.
After thinking about this for some time, I've found that the transformation aspect appeals to me. Knowing that I'm changing appeals to me. I'd still like to function as a male but also have the option to live as a woman as well. Gender fluid is the term that can be used I suppose. Having to slip on padded panties, breast-forms, etc makes dressing as Shayna feel more like a costume to me. I'm know I'd like having the actual curves and secondary sex characteristics to show off if I so desire. I also think about the psychological effects of this as well. I know that having more estrogen won't necessarily change what I feel or like, but that I'd likely be more emotionally expressive. I'm also aware that HRT is no "magic bullet" that changes everything just like that. There are different results for each individual.
For me there are many sides to this, and one of them is sexual as well. I don't know if "transformation fetish" would be a proper name for this. I want more sensitive skin and other features a partner would find arousing (whether it be a male or female one) such as breast growth, curves, etc. I do find a certain eroticism in looking in the mirror, and liking/enjoying the changes that would occur over time.
I have read about HRT a lot over the years and know this is a major thing to do to one's self. I'm aware that there are risks. However I don't want to struggle with this my whole life, wondering if I should or shouldn't pursue this. I've been dressing since I've been elementary school aged, and as of the writing of this post I'm now 25 years old. Going on both sides of the gender fence is a central part of who I am. I'm still young yes, but time is ticking on by, and you don't get time back.
Is anybody else dealing with an issue like this? What are your thoughts of "trying HRT" (under a doctor's supervision of course)? By trying I mean starting on it and stopping it if I find that I have an issue (health, etc..) I know there's a process of getting a note from a psychiatrist and the doctor needing that note, etc. I have no intentions of "self-medicating". I'd like to do this the legal, right way, under supervision. I'm pretty healthy. Not much of a drinker, I don't smoke at all, don't do any drugs, and I'm physically active. I've lost much weight and now it's just a matter of trying to keep it in the 155lb area.
What are your thoughts on this? Thank you for your time.
-Shayna