Do you feel the need to hang out with other CDs/TVs?

[Nesreen]

Do any of you girls have this need to hang out with other Transvestites or CDs and have fun getting en-femme. You know, people who they can relate with your situation. Just for friendship. Most of my friends don't know that I Crossdress and I am actually officially a Transvestite. I take it more than just dressing up. I just feel the need to show off and have fun being en-femme with others. Being in closet all these years is killing me!

I tried Facebook but boy... God... I was shocked. Since I am from the Middle East everyone I met (from around where I live) is claiming to be a CD/TV but they are not!! most of them are homosexual predators with their mouth wetting for PICTURES PICTURES PICTURES!!!

I have nothing against homosexuals!! but those predators are nasty. When I look for someone with "character" someone decent... I just get flooded with sexual predators and people with personalities as flat as my chest! All what they care for is SEX!! They can't all be CDs because there must be some classy Ladies out there and they can't be CDs because a lot of them lose me when I start talking about makeup or even bra size!!

There are no more Ladies out there. They all died . I failed to find any loving Queens from the Middle East, not on facebook at least. All what I got is Bob who's only interested to see a picture of my butt

It's sad I just wish I can find someone who's into true friendship where we can share our interest together. But I guess that's impossible... at least for where I live...

What do you Ladies think? Is there a lot of lonely Transvestites/CDs out there? or am one of the few unlucky ones?

[Katie83]

I know exactly where you are coming from. I would love to have some cd/tv friends that live locally to enjoy being feminine with. But as you've found most of the people that make contact are only interested in one thing (not crossdressing). It is very frustrating.
Katie

[*Vanessa*]

Do you feel the need to hang out with other CDs/TVs?

YES!

[brassieres]

I would prefer to hang out with gg's myself. However, I am sure that I could learn a thing or two from other crossdressers though. Thats why I appreciate this forum. There is a lot of clsssy ladies here.

[VanessaJCD]

I would like to meet other cd's in my area.. One day I may be able to go out with others in a safe environment. My venture out this weekend was my first step in feeling comfortable.

[cassandra54]

yes is would be nice find other girls and ggs to do things with. but yeah, look in personal ads and on adult sites, it's just scary.

[bridget thronton]

This lovely group of folks in this forum are as close as I get to hanging out with CD's. Most of the posters I might be quite happy to meet in RL, some perhaps not.

[Eryn]

I certainly enjoy being with other like-minded folks. It's great to be able to talk about what comes into my mind rather then having to guard my thoughts as I usually do.

One does have to be careful, though. I don't think that mainstream conduits like Facebook or Craigslist are really a good avenue through which to meet other CDers. There are too many non-CDers amusing themselves by trolling there.

I think that this site can be a good place through which meet people. Most of the people here have a post history that you can read and it would be too much trouble for a troll to post convincingly here for months before becoming predatory. You still need to be careful, but at least you have some information about the person at the other end of the 'net.

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Hon, I mostly care about my friends for who they are as people, not necessarily because of what they wear. Anyway, once you get 10 posts PM me and we can talk about many subjects. It's nice to have someone to talk to who is a legitimate person in any case. Take care, Abby.

[Barbra P]

Hi Nesreen

I can’t speak to the Middle-Eastern culture; I’m referring to the Middle East term as applied to the world as a whole and not just the U.S. However Transvestite has sort of taken on a meaning that is somewhat different than a Cross Dresser in that Transvestite frequently connotes a connotation of someone who dresses enfemme for sexual gratification. I know my Therapist uses that definition for Transvestite to distinguish them from cross dressers who do not dress for sexual gratification. Others on here may have a completely different view on the term Transvestite.

To address your question, yes I like to associate with other CD’s and even TS’s. The support group to which I belong is primarily CD’s but there are a few TS’s, including the President of the organization. I also enjoy sitting and chatting with GG’s. I find it pleasurable to chat with GG’s and especially when they are accepting and treat me as just another woman, whether that is singular or in a group of GG’s. On the other hand chatting with other CD’s is nice because I learn firsthand their experiences and they are frequently more open and honest than many GG’s. Another CD may be more willing to be honest and tell you what you may be doing that is not feminine and what you might try to do to correct the fault – that is something you don’t get from the forum. People on the forum only have what you write to judge you by, they are not witnessing you firsthand, and even with pictures your demeanor and actions are not apparent.

I was recently surprised when another CD told me that when in the Ladies Room, or anywhere else for that matter, and another woman walks in and your eyes meet, just smile, don’t smile and nod your head because nodding the head tends to be a male attribute. I had some doubts about this but other CD’s more or less confirmed it. Recently I had a chance to try it out, I was in the Ladies Room and having come out of the stall I was touching up my makeup when another woman walked in, she glanced in my direction and our eyes met in the mirror, she smiled at me and I smiled back and she went on her way and entered the stall. I’m sure if I’d said anything I would have been instantly read and maybe if I had nodded I would have been read too – guess I’ll never know, but she showed no discomfort with me being in the Ladies Room. I half expected her to leave and go hunt up the restaurant manager but she went into the stall as I finished applying my lipstick. That incident really bolstered my confidence and I felt a lot more at ease as I walked back through the restaurant.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Given where you are from, I would also worry about being set up by the authorities or some group of vigilantes out to hurt others who are different.

I believe there was a TV/TS contact group out of Turkey where others could write and meet each other, but I don't know if it still exists (or in the current climate there would still be legal.)

[PretzelGirl]

First, I would say you are better off finding CD/TG friends at places like support groups or other places where you can meets face to face in a safe place. You never know what you are getting on the Internet.

For me, my need for interaction with others is addressed through a few groups I go to. But I meet some of them outside of groups and that isn't a need, that is friendship. Even some of the drive to go to groups is about friendships.

[celeste26]

If I dont get out and meet others it seems like I tend to collapse into my cocoon and depression and that is something I've done far too much of already. So I go seeking others to keep myself from going back to that dark place.

[Nesreen]

Thank you Ladies for your feedback!

I guess if I wasn't in-closet still I wouldn't have this "need" to be other other CDs/TVs. Since I am still in the closet and there are very few people who knows this private way of life of mine and I'm usually being my feminine self almost always alone which is killing me. I do enjoy the sexual side of cross dressing, however, 80% of the time I just want to be Nesreen the person... and be able to talk with others being Nesreen. Just normal conversation with people you like.. sexuality has nothing to do with it!

I'm not very good with terminologies and I actually despise them because I believe every individual is unique. However, sometimes they are helpful to explain yourself without writing a paragraph by saying "I'm a Transvestite" or "I'm a Crossdresser" but I'm not sure what the difference is. I always thought a Crossdresser was a person who likes to dress up in the other sex's clothes while the Transvestite goes beyond that by actually embodying - full time or part time - a persona of the opposite sex (or male to female in particular).

Oh, and what's a GG?

[t-girlxsophie]

I certinly dont fancy walking into the pub,dressed in all my finery and saying to my mates "alright boys,my round is it?" lol.I do like being with my TG friends,If it wasnt for them I would still be in the closet,but as I have grown in confidence,I have decided to start socialising with my GG (genetic girls) friends from work,my big outing being next week when they are coming to our house for a girly evening.Hopefully (fingers crossed) it will be a success,and maybe next time can go out with them.

Sophie

[JillyNylonz]

Yes I also would like to have CD friends to talk with, even dress with, but no sex. I do get plenty of offers from men, and even some cd 's for sex fun, but nothing beyond that it seems.

[Kittyagain]

Seems like another thread suggested doing a search using sisters as a key word. Like if you lived in FL then Sisters in FL something like that.

Although I have not been here long, I have only seen one possible leading post. The moderators need a good pat on the back for keeping the forum free of the bad post.

The PM's I have received have all been nice and often very helpful.

Kitty

[billie earls]

Yes I do have the need to be able to talk to others like me but being that I'm in the closet my time is very limited as to when I can get away and meet others. I would love to find someone within 15 minutes of me so that meeting even for coffee would be possible.

[kristinacd55]

Well, I joined meetup.com back in November of last year. Went to my first support group meeting in February and met some girls in person! And since then, I've gotten to know some of my best friends and it's changed the way I look at my whole tg experience. I go to a club once every 8 weeks and have a blast, and just meeting these gurls has been awesome.

[Cally]

Hi Nesreen

I have found that having CD friends has been really helpful. I was really lucky to have met a transgender girl who has been like a big sister to me. She has introduced me to many different girls, some of whom are a bit preditory, but you get that with some. However, they seem to get my message that "I'm simply not that sort of girl" (said with a nice smile) and it's all good from there. She has taught me many things and we talk about everything.

Being able to go out to places where I know CDs can socialise is great fun, and confidence and experience building, but alas it put pressure on the wardrobe. :-)

It sounds like where you are, this might not be possible, but at least there are good online support groups such as this one.

Good luck and keep looking

Cally

[Debutante]

Yes, we hae been lonely. But we also seek out other CDs through legitimate CD clubs and groups and support groups.
If there are none, you may have to form one. Lokk for best practices with groups around the world.
But define it carefully, to keep predators away, and to have it as a good support group to help other CDs in all ways...........

[Duana]

In the beginning, when I was less secure in public, I wanted to be with other TGs. As I became more secure, and because I have an SO who always goes out with me, I don't feel the need. I've really only met one or two CDs in Houston that go out regularly AND I'm interested in hanging out with. The group I'm a member of in Houston, seems to be made up of mostly gay CDs who want to transition. They like to hang out in the gayborhood and not the rest of the city. I'm ok with gay places but again, that was more for security. Now I hang out at straight places and feel very comfortable.

I would like more "solid" crossdressing friends, for example, those that are married and have a supporting SO, but the fact is, they are few and far between. Nothing is more frustrating than to be friends with a closeted CD who can only go out when the wife is out of town.

Anyway, we're really happy doing what we're doing now with very little contact with other TG people.

[Carol A]

YES!, since we retired and moved thier are a few other sisters in the area but nobody talks about it.
I know of others because of GG on a forum for my area. I miss being with my girlfriends and doing girl things.

[hiddenwoman]

First, I would say you are better off finding CD/TG friends at places like support groups or other places where you can meets face to face in a safe place. You never know what you are getting on the Internet.

For me, my need for interaction with others is addressed through a few groups I go to. But I meet some of them outside of groups and that isn't a need, that is friendship. Even some of the drive to go to groups is about friendships.

Well said, Sue, well said.

[Kaz]

This may sound wierd but here goes... I play guitar in a band that plays local smallish to mid-size venues... I did better gigs when I was younger... but am I interested in seeing other bands at my level? Not really... Am I interested in sharing stories about what it is like and how we can learn with other musos.. yes!

So with CDs... do I feel the need to meet with other CDs... not really (although I have made a few friends here that I would like to meet! And not for sex... but because I genuinely like them)... I know a CD guy at work reasonably well, but I haven't mentioned my status... we are colleagues on a level that I think is more important professionally.. one day I suspect and hope it will all come out... but I don't see that as being important.

So what am I saying? I hang out here. I dream of being with other CDs, but the reality is that I have too many barriers.