Do you feel the need to hang out with other CDs/TVs?

[Frédérique]

Do any of you girls have this need to hang out with other Transvestites or CDs and have fun getting en-femme. You know, people who they can relate with your situation. Just for friendship. Most of my friends don't know that I Crossdress and I am actually officially a Transvestite. I take it more than just dressing up. I just feel the need to show off and have fun being en-femme with others. Being in closet all these years is killing me!

[SIZE="2"]First of all, I wish to congratulate you for using the word “transvestite” to describe yourself – well done! Many people around here have a BIG problem with that divisive term, something that has been discussed ad infinitum. I am also officially a transvestite, but I do not feel the need to show off, except to myself, of course. It would be fun to go somewhere with a couple of other transvestites for some femme activity, but I pretty much keep to myself as I try to make myself pretty. Because of where I live, I would have to travel quite a ways to find a sympathetic atmosphere for my (our) kind of alternative pleasure, and getting there would be an adventure in itself. Being in the closet does NOT kill me, in fact holding one’s precious secrets near and dear can be more fun than going out in public to spill the beans for no good reason. If the climate was more to my liking, I would go forth with alacrity, but, until then, I will be true to my “self.”
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[pink femme]

not 4 me. I am lucky enough to have spent time all dressed up in the company of a close GF. She made me feel feminine all day.

[Sarah V]

Let's just say.........YES!!

[marlaNYC]

need? no. desire...yes!

[JaytoJillian]

need? no. desire...yes!

Cool!!! my boss is talking about a trip to NYC--I'll make sure I go with him and look you up when I get there---gawd I love that city

cheers,


Jill

[Stacey Summer]

Sort of on topic for this thread. Does anyone know of a site or other sort of listing where I could find CD's/TS's in my area? Aside from the obvious dating/swinging/porn sites? Not interested in any of that, just friendship and sharing tips.

[susan54]

Well, no desire at all to hang out with other cross-dressers. I think we have a huge range of variation within our ranks, and apart from the clothes I feel I have very little in common with other CDs, and even there we vary so much. I love my clothes and I love women, I prefer to spend my time with women, no blokes, no matter how they are dressed. I have met with CDs - not a success. It could be them or me or both, but I just have no desire to go there again. If you just shop for clothes, go to beauticians and go to restaurants and hotels very easy to interact only with women. Long may it continue.

[Toni Citara]

I have hung out with CDs, and MtF Pre-Ops, gays, lesbians and bisexuals, straights, whites, blacks, asians, even some people from England!!! EEEK! LOL I will continue to hang out with people that I connect with because I enjoy their friendship. That said, I would like to find more CDs in my area not only to be friends with, but to help me with my CD appearance.

For those that don't want to hang out with a CD - look at it this way... if you didn't know somebody was a crossdresser and you met 'em at a game or shooting pool in a bar, they would be okay for you, right? Well, they are the same person as you are, with the same love for crossdressing. Nobody is saying because you have a male friend that CDs he is going to jump your bones! That mentality is akin to homophobia... afraid to be next to a gay guy because you're scared he will want sex from you. It doesn't work that way.

[michelle64]

never any desire..i have a wonderful GG..thats it for me....seems like all my normal guy friends just want to drink and watch sports..i hate sports and do not drink..so i spend my time working on and old international scout and a few old vintage hodaka dirt bikes i have (if you have NOS parts PM me)..of course applying makeup to my GG and daughters is also a fun hobby...i just have never had any desire to hang with the guys (even other CD's)..all they seem to talk about is degrading women on looks and features and well i just hate that..i vowed over 20 years ago to never be that kind of guy..but it is hard at time with me being a guy...the whole support issue i can understand but my GG knew everything from the first date and well we do everything together.....good luck..but none of this interest me at all..find a wonderful GG and you will never look back

ps: our only rule is simple...nothing is done around the kids...

[5150 Girl]

Yes, it would be nice to find others in my reigon, just so I know I'm not alone

[Annaliese2010]

I'd love to not because I need to just cause it would be fun...waaay fun I'm shore. Easier for me than many others tho...I'm free with nary a concern regarding responsibilities to eenyone on planet Earth. Not that easy to find others like me, m2f lez. Don't like men. In a minority within a minority, I guess.

[NathalieX66]

I hang out with everybody......just don't ask me to come home with you.

If I go out in public, it is me expressing myself as I am.

Making friends with other CD/TG/TS people, I'm talking everyone from the weekend crossdresser to the fully transitioned transsexual, straight, bi, gay, whatever is the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot about me, and other people in the process. Now I feel at peace with myself.

[docrobbysherry]

I have neither the NEED or the DESIRE to go out as Sherry! With anyone! However, I can say for a fact that my time with other girls at the SCC was the MOST FUN I've had in ages! PERIOD!

[fungril]

I wood love to find someone to share this with and talk to.It wood be cool to have a group of friends to dress up with or just one. I am in .S.F.L. if some one know of a group please tell me

[Risque_Christine]

A thread that surprised me for its diversity of opinion and made me think a little. Many of us feel very much alone and isolated, and are comforted by the fact that out there, someplace, are people like "us." But whether you need or want company from other CDs may depend on why you cross dress and where you think you are headed (something I don't know at this point, I admit). And it may also depend on how confident and comfortable you have become being a girl, at least some of the time. For me, when I go out as Christine, I really want to feel and experience life as a woman might and be treated like a lady. That can include anybody who is willing to accept who I would like to be, CD or not. Mostly, it has meant that I feel most comfortable in the company of gay men. So many people in that community (and others, too) have been kind beyond imagining in respecting Christine as a girl-- holding doors, kissing me on the cheek or hand, gallantly hailing taxis. I still find going out alone as Christine daunting. But I have to accept who I am, and take life as it comes.
Christine

[Toni Citara]

Here is another way to look at it... people that belong to "therapy" other groups to help them deal with any type of problem, (alcohol, drugs, rape, abuse, etc.), part of their safety net in life is to have other people that have BTDT and can share guidence and friendship. Why wouldn't any of us that cross dress want to hang with others that share our passions?

I, for one, welcome the friendship and mentorship that will help me grow as a person and to find my own personal happiness.

[marlaNYC]

I'll make sure I go with him and look you up when I get there

@JaytoJillian, you do that! lol

[ArleneRaquel]

I go out with the girls about every 2 - 3 weeks, at organized events less often. I would love to go with the ladies more often.

[Piora]

No, I don't have any desire to do that. I'm heavily closeted, with only my daughter aware of my dressing. This forum is as close as I will ever be to 'hanging out' with other cross dressers.