I told my date last nite. And, she kept saying--------------------------

**docrobbysherry** · 10-02-2011, 11:18 PM

"I don't know what to say." And, "U should stop. If u wanted to, u could!"

At least 4 or 5 times during the evening.

I've been dating her randomly for a couple of months. I decided to tell her because she wanted to hear all about the "conference" I attended. (The SCC).

I thot I should tell her the truth because I think we've been quite honest with each other so far. No one else pinned me down about the SCC like her. She asked for very few details after I told her. About the conference or anything else RE my dressing. So, I volunteered few. She finished the evening by saying, "You're a nice guy, I hope we can continue to see each other?"

We'll see what happens after she's had some time to think about it!

**ReineD** · 10-02-2011, 11:28 PM

Good luck, Sherry! Hope it works out. She ended the evening on a positive note and this is encouraging.

**Donna1** · 10-02-2011, 11:29 PM

Well at least you were honest with her!!! I am thankful that my GF is so accepting...

**larry** · 10-03-2011, 12:22 AM

I am in no way qualified to give you any advice. You have embraced your position and seem to be very good at it. "That" conversation did not seem like it was going the way it should have. "You should stop" hehehehe Good Luck.

**Ann Thomas** · 10-03-2011, 12:45 AM

Oh wow, um, I really don't think you could stop, Sherry. You put far too much into your dressing than I think she realizes. It's too much a part of who you are to 'stop'. I respect you for being true to yourself in that way. I also applaud you for being honest at this point with your date. I think you're better off in the long run if it turns out she can't handle even what little you've told her so far. All the best!

Hugs,
Ann

**VioletJourney** · 10-03-2011, 02:14 AM

Ask her why she thinks you should stop.

**SusanLCD** · 10-03-2011, 03:32 AM

Should she stop, too?

**eluuzion** · 10-03-2011, 05:03 AM

Uh Oh...

That "you're a nice guy" comment sounds very close to that "I consider you to be a great friend" comment that women make when they are informing you nicely that your application has just been moved from the "maybe" stack into the "NO" stack.

Hey, you usually cannot make any real interpretations at the time the play is in motion. You usually find out what they really think in the next interaction with her, where she is not in face-to-face mode.

I would consult my 8 ball and give you the results, but about a year ago something went wrong...and now all I can see is the little black triangle and a bunch of white ink blobs floating at the top of the window, blocking out the little advice responses. Shaking it just makes it worse.

So, I guess you are on your own...

Good Luck...we still luv u...

**Rogina B** · 10-03-2011, 08:03 AM

You should have asked her WHY she thinks you should stop having fun...She doesn't seem right for you...glad we support your fun!

**Amanda22** · 10-03-2011, 08:06 AM

I don't interpret her response as positive at all. I'm hearing, "If you stop CDing, we can keep seeing each other". Sherry, do you really want to beinvolved with someone who clearly disapproves? I may be all wrong here, but it sure sounds like she's bargaining with you as if to say, if you "stop" we can continue. That's manipulative, disrespectful, and not worth your investment of time. Don't settle for less than you deserve. Please.

**Karren H** · 10-03-2011, 08:46 AM

Except in the movies.... "Nice guys" rarely get the girl!! Good luck!!

**xristy** · 10-03-2011, 08:52 AM

I didn't tell my wife until we had been together for a while. It may be a little uncomfortable with this person now, but it makes it much easier for you to deal with it now rather than much later.

You are doing the right thing and being up front with her. That will make less heart ache down the line...

**Emily Ann Brown** · 10-03-2011, 08:54 AM

Sherry,

The ball is in her court now. Take your time. Let her weigh the "fors" and "againsts".

My love interest (of 2 years). On our first date her JAW WAS ON THE FLOOR when I told her . After a week she called and asked my out on a picnic. After the picnic she say "We can have something READY SPECIAL. I feel a contact with you. I can learn to love you as you are!" I didn't push her, and she went baby steps to total accepting.

Wait and see what her next step is...and....and then....

Em

MJ · 10-03-2011, 09:00 AM

Originally Posted by Karren Hutton

Except in the movies.... "Nice guys" rarely get the girl!! Good luck!!

well my friend there's always hope. continue to be open and honest with her. i wish you all the best may you find happiness

**Amanda22** · 10-03-2011, 09:03 AM

Originally Posted by Emily Ann Brown

My love interest (of 2 years). On our first date her JAW WAS ON THE FLOOR when I told her . After a week she called and asked my out on a picnic. After the picnic she say "We can have something READY SPECIAL. I feel a contact with you. I can learn to love you as you are!" I didn't push her, and she went baby steps to total accepting.Em

That's really beautiful. I'm happy for you!

**NicoleScott** · 10-03-2011, 09:06 AM

Originally Posted by VioletJourney

Ask her why she thinks you should stop.

AND...

Ask her why she thinks you COULD stop.

**Jenny Beth** · 10-03-2011, 10:00 AM

When she says "I hope we can continue seeing each other" that tells me she has already made up her mind and is being polite. Time will tell when she's had time to think but it was worth the try, it was the only way to find out how she feels about it all. 10 out of 10 for being up front.

**suchacutie** · 10-03-2011, 10:19 AM

I'm sorry to say that I also think the comments from her are very cautious. She was trying to be tactful from my read. I hope she responds positively the next time you see her, and I would NOT wait long before there is a next time!

tina

**JulieK1980** · 10-03-2011, 10:26 AM

Any time in my life a girl told me I was a "nice guy" I was usually single within a week. I hope it works out for you!

**kimdl93** · 10-03-2011, 10:38 AM

I really don't believe in mind reading. It seems that she is reacting to a surprise and probably needs to process what she's heard. Let's assume for the moment, she was actually saying what she meant. The "you could stop" probably reflects her understanding CDing as a choice. To some degree it is - we can all stop...to paraphrase Mark Twain, I've done it hundreds of times. Similarly, I would take the comment that "you're a really nice guy" at face value. And, the statement that "I hope we can continue seeing each other" as an honest expression of her thoughts as well. Assume nothing and accept her at face value.

**Marie-Elise** · 10-03-2011, 11:44 AM

Originally Posted by eluuzion

Uh Oh...

That "you're a nice guy" comment sounds very close to that "I consider you to be a great friend" comment that women make when they are informing you nicely that your application has just been moved from the "maybe" stack into the "NO" stack.

Hey, you usually cannot make any real interpretations at the time the play is in motion. You usually find out what they really think in the next interaction with her, where she is not in face-to-face mode.

I would consult my 8 ball and give you the results, but about a year ago something went wrong...and now all I can see is the little black triangle and a bunch of white ink blobs floating at the top of the window, blocking out the little advice responses. Shaking it just makes it worse.

So, I guess you are on your own...

Good Luck...we still luv u...

I agree about the friend thing. I would move on...but I have a low tolerance for the "friend zone".

**sissystephanie** · 10-03-2011, 12:27 PM

I do have to disagree with others who have answered your Thread. You can stop if YOU WANT TO!! The idea to crossdress is a built in mental thing which is in your mind only!! You are not being forced to dress, so you can stop. As one who did stop for 5 years, I can say that it is not easy!! Because that mindset is always there to tell you to put on the pretty clothes. BTW, as many of you know, I started dressing again only because my late wife begged me to do so. She missed Stephanie in her life!!

All that said, you seem to have a very smart girlfriend and I think she is a keeper!! I think she will stay with you. Maybe with more talking, to get more answers!!

**Vickie_CDTV** · 10-03-2011, 02:18 PM

If you are looking for a romantic relationship I wouldn't hold my breath. She clearly indicates she doesn't like it and does not approve ("why don't you stop?") and probably never will. She may indeed want to remain close, but I think she gave you the equivalent of the old "let's just be friends" line.

I am sorry this is probably the case, I know what it feels like

**Tara D. Rose** · 10-03-2011, 03:25 PM

Yes Sherry the moment she said "you can stop if you want to', means she doesn't approve.

**LilSissyStevie** · 10-03-2011, 03:39 PM

Originally Posted by docrobbysherry

"You're a nice guy, I hope we can continue to see each other?"

Translation: "Don't call me, I'll call you!"

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