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    My late wife know about Kim and it always turned her on when Kim would come out,and she was stright as an arrow. so I would say if I had ever left her she would have started to look for a cd to date.

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    Yes really , it looks that way to me. There are 5 or 6 or 7 single GGs that belong to our group and I know they love the gals there. But the gals don't give them much more than small talk

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sweet Sabrina View Post
    In my opinion, women are still looking for that partner who can be the strong and dependable person. I don't think many would seek out a feminine male.
    Perhaps, but I think more than this, a woman wants to feel desired by her man. It's hard to explain, but there are no distractions between a male who does not CD, and the woman of his dreams. He's all over her. Whereas, how many threads have we seen in this forum, where just about every CD responding says he'd rather "be" the attractive woman he sees and wear her clothes, than "be with her". There's almost a diffused state of desire for the woman there, watered down if you will. Like two yins, side by side, rather than the more complimentary yin and yang. It might take a while for GGs newly in love to see this and this is why I think we hear so many stories about GGs thinking the CDing is wonderful in the beginning, and then it eventually dies down ... unless of course they are attracted to feminine males to begin with, and they don't mind sharing their own female energy/role in the relationship.

    Think of the De Beers diamond commercial they show around Valentines Day. I know it's cheesy, but it reflects an average woman's fantasy, where her husband will adore her so much that he wants nothing more than to see her eyes light up when he gives her a pair of diamond earrings, and where he really gets turned on when she adorns herself. A CDer would want to get the earrings (or the lingerie) for himself (or maybe for him and for her). He wants to be the one who is beautiful (even though it is OK if she is too).

    Now ... every CD is different and if a CDer can make his wife feel as if she is the light of his life (as opposed to giving her the impression he loves nothing more than to CD), then I'm guessing there wouldn't be as many issues in the relationship. Generally speaking, of course. I'm guessing the CDers who are in successful relationships with GGs know how to make their GGs feel as if they are desired.

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    And yes I know a few women who are admirers. But it always seemed to me that the CD gals aren't interested.Presh GG
    Aren't interested?
    Really?
    These CDs probably want the same thing out of the relationship as the GGs ... to be loved and desired as a woman. Maybe they freak out at the prospect the GGs will expect more of them than they can give? Yin and Yin. Just a guess.
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    I happen to have a very good friend who is actively looking for a CD male. The femmer the better. She would love to meet a pretty CD who prefers women but it's hard to find someone in such a closeted community. I told her she should join this site but she hasn't gotten around to it yet.

    Also, I tend to meet a lot of women in clubs and bars who seem to be very interested in me until they find out I'm strictly dickly. I think the easy part is meeting women. The hard part is being comfortable enough with who you are that you're not creepy.
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    Reine is so right on this[at least for me].We have the ability to play the part of our fantasy woman and perfect her .Our energys go toward her and the SO takes the back seat. Perhaps a bisexual woman that doesn't really desire a "man" to complete her is more apt to be receptive to the T minded lifestyle.After all,most of us are still "able to get it done"when it comes to heavier tasks in a household. So,we do have some value ! lol I think perhaps a lesbian with a woman's clothes store or shoe store might accept us better than most.
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    Looking for CD admirers!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by KTcat View Post
    Hello,

    I would certainly be accepting of a CD partner, and have actively sought one in the past. It's just as difficult for us to meet you too!

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    I would think this web site would be a good place to meet, at least that is what I thought 4 years ago when I joined. For as long as I have been on here I have seen only one other post by a GG expressing your feeling. There have been many CDers stating how supported their SO are, but is the support out of admiration or out of not wanting to face the other options of ending the relationship. It seems most GGs are trying to understand why we crossdress, and are there other GGs dealing with this. From the responses of my prior post few women have any knowledge about crossdressing until they are confronted with it. If there are more than two CD Admirer out there, please let me know because I would love to chat!

    P.S. I am straight?
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    they are out there..me and my GG do everything together and truth be told i dont like it when she is not with me..its been said here and everywhere..the CD must put her first and not be so damn selfish..another thing that constantly comes up is all the lieing..what gives..you can say it on the first date.."i am a crossdresser"..quit lieing...yesterday i went to mac and nordstrom (nice store but pricey)..i ended up buying her-her favorite type of eye shadow at mac and my daughters fun socks from nordstrom...then i got selfish and went to sephora for me..i ended walking out with some great perfume for my GG and me a cheapo brush set...you all can find a supportive GG..just put them first

    ps: my daughters loved the fun socks and she loved her perfume..my day was complete

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    i'm in az if any ggs are looking out this way lol
    man, i feel like a woman

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    one would think this web site would be perfect to find the right person. they must be out there, the question is how do you find them ?
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    I signed up on a dating site hoping to find a Female who would accept a Cder, I seen only one woman that lived near by. She wanted a passable Cder and she also wanted one that was not in the closet with dressing. That was way to much for me to even think about responding.

    I am dating a GG now that is very understand and accepting, I am pretty sure that if we even went our own way she would not on purpose seek another Cder, she would seek compainionship ..
    I do not!! Claim to be an expert on any topic, when I post a new thread or reply on any thread my imput is strickly that of a crossdresser. Not to offend Gay people , Transexuals or any other life style, I am only commenting on one of my own.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinto View Post
    How many of them are out there and want a real CD'er/TG etc. instead of a so called "straight man"? Are there really such women? Does anybody have experiences?
    This is what I want. Actually the GG should also be a CDer, so we can enjoy full role reversal. too good to be true.

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    While most women would probably be turned off by the idea of a crossdresser , most like the personality traits of a cd .

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    Oh, they are out there. Good luck~

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    Quote Originally Posted by Presh GG View Post
    Hi Pinto,

    I guess I'm just curious why you're asking . You've presented yourself as a Married crossdresser.

    And yes I know a few women who are admirers. But it always seemed to me that the CD gals aren't interested.
    This from the sidelines as I'm a Married wife of 37 years.

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    Hi Presh,
    i didn't ask for the reason to find such a woman I just wanted to know. Ok, if i would meet such a woman you never know what will happen but mainly i am curious.

    Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
    Think of the De Beers diamond commercial they show around Valentines Day. I know it's cheesy, but it reflects an average woman's fantasy, where her husband will adore her so much that he wants nothing more than to see her eyes light up when he gives her a pair of diamond earrings, and where he really gets turned on when she adorns herself. A CDer would want to get the earrings (or the lingerie) for himself (or maybe for him and for her). He wants to be the one who is beautiful (even though it is OK if she is too).


    These CDs probably want the same thing out of the relationship as the GGs ... to be loved and desired as a woman. Maybe they freak out at the prospect the GGs will expect more of them than they can give? Yin and Yin. Just a guess.

    Reine,
    I agree 100% and I think that's exactly the reason most women freak out when they hear one is a crossdresser. A lesbian relation where the CD'er gives her the feelings described by you will be the best foundation for such a couple.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pinto View Post
    Reine,
    A lesbian relation where the CD'er gives her the feelings described by you will be the best foundation for such a couple.
    This is sooooooo silly. It might indeed be the foundation for A couple but certainly not every couple. There are plenty of women who are actively looking for a hetero CD and there are plenty more who would be 100% accepting. All you have to do is be real. Be confident and comfortable with who you are and most of all, be FUN. I have yet to meet a woman who doesn't want to spend time with a good looking guy who makes her laugh and what you're wearing is really secondary as long as she knows you're interested. I'm not saying EVERY woman is into CD's but they are definitely out there. Shy and insecure men will always have trouble with the ladies, no matter how they're dressed.
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    I agree with Melissa, that before a GG can begin to become attracted to CDr, they'd first have to be attracted to the person. I think that all illusions and fantasies aside, the personal chemistry between two people is what matters most. If there is an attraction - in all the physical, emotional, and cognitive dimensions - then I think that many women (I won't say most, won't even guess how many) - can accomodate a CDing partner. Some subset of the GGs out there apparently do enjoy and some even seek out CD partners. But more often than not, these are chance happenings. My wife had some bi experiences and she taps into that part of herself when she relates to me. But that wasn't what she started out seeking in a partner....and I like to think I bring more to the relationship than sexual variety

    Bottom line is that to be successful in relationships - even in dating - you gotta get out there and engage other people in a genuine manner. I suspect that the fear of failure or rejection prevents too many of us from even trying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinto View Post
    How many of them are out there and want a real CD'er/TG etc. instead of a so called "straight man"? Are there really such women? Does anybody have experiences?
    There are probably at least 3 answers to that question.

    Based on my experiences on Match.com, about 1 in 300 women were actually LOOKING for a CD and wanted to meet me BECAUSE I was a CD/TG.

    On the flip side, I've spent most of my life as "one of the girls" hearing what they say they want in a man, and for most, they will describe a TG, yet they will be physically attracted to the traditional man. More important, a traditional man is easy to get, they will go after the woman if she is even just reasonably attractive, while a CD is nearly impossible to find.

    In between is another answer. Offer a woman a chance to meet a man who is so cute he's almost pretty, has a sweet soft voice, a gentle touch, listens to you talk, wants to please you in every way he can, loves taking his time while making love, loves foreplay, and loves to go clothes shopping with you and for you, and he's not gay and not married - and about 90% would say "when can I meet him?".

    As CDs and TGs and even TSs, we often have the desire to feel like a woman as well as just dress like a woman. Even if we don't want to BE a woman for the rest of our lives, we are more sympathetic to the issues of women. As a TS/TV/CD I know exactly where to scratch that will make a woman purr with glee. I know how to listen in a way that she almost can't stop talking, because she knows I am really interested. I know how to treat her in public, I know how to complement her in a way that she really feels acknowledged, and I know how to make sure she is completely satisfied not only in the bedroom, but in the dining room and the bathroom as well.

    When I explained to my wife which parts of me were Debbie and which parts were Rex, she realized that she liked Debbie MUCH more than Rex. Of course, I had the benefit of 12 step programs and Landmark Education courses to help me really understand which was which and why.

    The thing about a TS/TV/CD is not that they are feminine, or want to be women, it's that they don't feel they are allowed to be feminine or express their feminine traits when they are in "man mode". Ironically, the more we express those feminine traits, the more attractive we become to the kinds of women who would like a TS/TV/CD even if they don't realize it at the time.

    Often the bigger problem is that we are too selective. Because we are so aware of femininity, we often seek out the women who are the most feminine and most attractive. The problem is that we are competing with dozens of men who will use their power and masculinity and initiate and be sexually aggressive. Often, when a woman is dressing in a very sexy and feminine way, this is exactly what she wants.

    But a woman seeking a more feminine boy is more likely to dress LESS feminine, and is more likely to reject direct advances from "macho men" and more likely to be seeking out and initiating with more effeminate men. Very often, women like this will even flirt and joke about gender role switching and really appreciate when a man not only recognize that this is what she is doing, but let her know that they really LIKE that she's doing that.

    Halloween is probably the ultimate opportunity for a single CD or TG to meet the woman of her dreams. Coming to a costume party looking like a French maid or harlot or any other really sexy feminine outfit that suggests submission and pleasing a partner - will often bring out women who might not be as likely to pick us up if we were walking down the street or a shopping mall, or even in a club on any other day of the year. She doesn't have to worry about what her friends are thinking, because many of them are hunting for their fantasy boy or fantasy girl or fantasy boy/girl or girl/boy themselves.

    This is a great time to go to as many parties as you can, and GIVE OUT your phone number to as many girls as you want. You might only give it out to 5-10 girls, but you are VERY likely to get a call back. I liked to put my femme name on the back of a business card that had my home and office number on it. Very effective.

    If we were open to ALL of the offers we got, no matter how subtle, and we were able to recognize them, we'd probably find that about one in five women would LOVE to at least take us on a date and get to know our femme side.

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    Kim - I agree, I am attracted to the person first - labels are so constricting as, IMHO, sexuality and gender identity is entirely fluid.

    This is where I also agree with the lovely DebbieL there are personality traits I equate with a TS/TV/CD that I find attractive - do I consider them to be femine personality traits? No, but I'm happy to call them that for convenience.

    I belong to a Vegan forum also - not a lot of 'manly' meat and two veg men actively want to date vegans you know - and there was a huge discussion as to whether people on the forum would date a non vegan or even vegetarian! I'm sure you can imagine there were strong views on eother side. Again, I am wary of labels as what veganism/vegetarianism means to an individual is fluid too.

    I was a CD admirerer, long before I was vegan - I am many things, I would just like to meet a person compatible with my lifestyle choices. Believe me, at 40 it is begining to seem like too much to ask!

    Just thinking back to the initial post, how would you describe your ideal GG? With regard to their positioning on the sexuality/gender identity spectrum?

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    My guess is there are even fewer lesbians seeking a cder.
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    Hi Dary04,

    I see this is your first post, you need 10 post to be able to contact/be contacted by others. I found it really difficult to reach my first 10 posts, but please keep posting, as you will find a lot of wisdom and strength here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DebbieL View Post
    If we were open to ALL of the offers we got, no matter how subtle, and we were able to recognize them, we'd probably find that about one in five women would LOVE to at least take us on a date and get to know our femme side.
    Now THAT is funny .......
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    OK = you have to also realise that GGs are unikely to make the same moves as male cd admirer might. Or indeed, that you yourself might make in you male guise.

    GGs hav e been conditioned by society too of course. And making the first move is perhaps not a comfortable stance. So where can we meet in the middle - online is of course the obvious answer. However, we do not all live in largely populated areas. Some of us might prefer a more global perspectve? How do you, the CD community propose that a GG might best meet a CDer?

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    Quote Originally Posted by KTcat View Post
    How do you, the CD community propose that a GG might best meet a CDer?
    on line is of course just one answer. but what about events like sparkle in the UK I'm sure there are others like scc in Atlanta that way you get to meet up in a safe environment
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    Keep looking hun. It will happen someday.
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    Yes there are women that want a relationship with a CD, I always state on my profiles that I am gay and into masculine guys and even with that I get on a few ocassions a lady that seems to be interested on me...it always freak me out

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