When I was younger, my niece found one of my fem items and gave it to my sister thinking it was hers. The problem was it was too small for her. My sister wanted to know if I had anything to talk about. I said no because I did not wish to discuss it at that time. She respected my wishes and that was it. The reason was because I did not want to risk religious condemnation from the community nor did I wish to undergo social humiliation from bigots.
Now, about a decade later I'm reading up on stuff and I read sites that say that everytime a crossdresser is ashamed or does not want to discuss his crossdressing it always means he is a sexual deviant or that the crossdressing for such people is always a sexual fetish.
That was not my experience. I did not want to discuss and the shame I felt was because of the social stigma attached to crossdressing at that time. I did not want to be kicked out of the church or banned from community events or harrassed everywhere I went. I did not want to undergo social humiliation. Sexual stuff was the last thing on my mind.
Maybe the people on those sites said that because that was their experience. But the fact is that is not my experience.
There are other reasons, besides sexual, that a crossdresser may not want to discuss his crossdressing. Reasons that are just as valid and just as true.