Would you date a Post-OP?

[NathalieX66]

You got that quote wrong, because she has never been a guy, only pretended. If you needed to say anything you would have been more correct to say "She had to have surgery to correct a birth defect". Before anyone mentions that this fictional Julia is unable to bear children, do you insist that every girl you ever consider going out on a date with pays a visit to the fertility clinic before you will take her out?

True.
Yeah., I'm still interested in bearing children. That's really my only criteria and agenda.
I can be on the female side of the tracks, that's fine. I really don't care what gender I am, I'm just a person.

[chloe23]

That was part of my point above. Some males are just not good candidates for SRS. Really tall or big boned, big hands, big feet, etc. And that's assuming they have taken care of the beard and possible balding.

Linda, It doesn't matter what they look like or how big their features are to be a candidate for SRS. What matters most is that they have the right counseling and are fully prepared for SRS and this is what they choose. Nobody see's what you have between your legs unless you show them, so what difference should it make. As long as that person is comfortable with SRS, an they are a happier person, that's all that should matter.

[SabrinaDubh]

If I was single, yes.

[Shelby]

I had to really think about my answer to this one. Physical attraction is involved regardless of man or woman or if they changed their gender. A TS doesn't walk around with a sign proclaiming they are one so unless she or he told you on the first date, you wouldn't know. I have been watching a few Youtube videos on some TS's that went through the SRS and FSS. One woman talks about a her dating life briefly. She mentions that she has gone on lots of dates. I wish our friend Julie (Zenith) would provide some insight into this subject.

There are a lot of very attractive TS women (such as Julie). If we were to use a scenario this is how I would respond. I see a beautiful woman and I start to talk to her. She seems pleasant, intelligent and willing to talk to me. We agree to go on a date and all goes well. Then she tells me that she used to be a man. I would be stunned, shocked and a little unsure how to proceed next. Yet, I have liked her enough to go out with her and I find her attractive. My only hang up would be that I want to be a Dad have children of my own blood. Now I know there are ways to deal with that but that would be the only reason to prevent me from dating a TS. I think that I would not want to see photos of her before the changes since that would damage the illusion that she has worked so hard to create. It is the same way for me with a female friend. She has seen pics of me dressed but doesn't want to meet Shelby since it would be hard to accept. By the way, here is a link to a woman who I have been learning more about on YouTube, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-szu...eature=related

[Adelina]

Pre-op, post-op, non-op, CD, GG, I'd date anyone as long as I find them attractive and caring. There's more important things to be hung up about.

[Jessica1984]

Pre-op, post-op, non-op, CD, GG, I'd date anyone as long as I find them attractive and caring. There's more important things to be hung up about.

I was trying to think of a way to say exactly this, you put it perfectly Adelina, I couldn't care less whether they were pre, post, non, CD, etc...as long as we mesh nothing else matters to me

[MackenzieMarigold]

I see it this way. Love is love. Some people love certain people, others love other certain types of people. It's all about what appeals to you. To me, post-op and pre-op are one in the same. I don't see based on genitalia, I see what you have on the inside (provided you show your true self to me) If you're a girl on the inside, it doesn't matter to me if you're a boy to the rest of the world, and only female in your head. If you are you, and I love you, then well, I love you!

But hey that's just me.

[lovemyboobs]

I have been kind of interested to meet a Post OP TG and have a conversation with them. And depending on what their interests were and if they jived with mine then I could see dating. I would have to do some hard thinking before marriage. I do want my own children someday and would appreciate it if they were with my SO as well.

[donnatracey]

To answer the OP's question - you betcha!......

[Lorileah]

absolutely (even though the question wasn't directed at me). I would date anyone I thought was a good match

[Rianna Humble]

I would have to do some hard thinking before marriage. I do want my own children someday and would appreciate it if they were with my SO as well.

Does this mean that you would ask a GG to be tested for fertility before you proposed marriage?

[helena.gcd]

i would. A post-op woman is a woman.

[ElusiveGirl]

Wow. I thought this was the last place I would see people determining gender by what someone looks like and what has been between their legs. I am happily married, but if I would ever be in a dating situation again it would totally be about the person and not the gender.

Well... gender is a pretty huge part of "person". How they look, act, dress, speak, socialize with... all of it gets factored in. If what is between their legs is obviously visible, well, that's part of it too. But I think I know what you are getting at: Judging a person's eligibility and entire worth based upon a below-the-belt surgical procedure is fairly reductivist and not nice. Really, it's a tactless question to pose in the first place.

That being said, some people will never be able to deal with it. I guess they lose out on having a nice companion. Of course it works both ways. I've run into several TS's who want NOTHING to do with CD's/TG's of any stripe whatsoever. I guess they also lose out.

In the end, we are attracted to what we are attracted to. At least we can be polite if another doesn't fit our criteria for whatever reason.

[MJ]

i just want to thank everyone there's hope for me yet I'm impressed

[Rianna Humble]

I know some of you are bi-sexual and the answer would be more likely to be yes. But for purely Heterosexual people how do you feel about Post-Ops?

I must be missing something here, why would a bisexual man feel better about dating a woman than a heterosexual man?

[*Vanessa*]

want a silly questions - sorry.
Don't mean to be nasty, but come on, I'm pretty sure I can here banjos playing. shesh

[lovemyboobs]

Does this mean that you would ask a GG to be tested for fertility before you proposed marriage?

Well I hope to put this eloquently but if a GG can not bare children then to me that seems different than someone that had surgery to have the parts of a female without the ability to have children. Hope that came out right and not step on too many toes.....

[Jorja]

Well I hope to put this eloquently but if a GG can not bare children then to me that seems different than someone that had surgery to have the parts of a female without the ability to have children. Hope that came out right and not step on too many toes.....

OUCH my toes!!!! I hope everyone can understand what your saying, I did.

[Rianna Humble]

I would have to do some hard thinking before marriage. I do want my own children someday and would appreciate it if they were with my SO as well.

Does this mean that you would ask a GG to be tested for fertility before you proposed marriage?

Well I hope to put this eloquently but if a GG can not bare children then to me that seems different than someone that had surgery to have the parts of a female without the ability to have children.

I'm sorry, you were making the ability to bear your children a condition of marriage. Unless you have already had children with a woman, you can only guarantee that they meet this condition by insisting that they (and you) visit a fertility specialist and get tested. So my question stands, since you make that ability a condition of being willing to marry, would you insist that a GG go through the tests before you considered proposing?

[Danni Bear]

On the the Date a post-op ? Of course not only dated but married
Now I am a post-op M2F and he is a post-op F2M. And it was a remarriage to each other. 44 years all total.
So to ayone who thinks that beng post is anything else let a. Post-op assure you. You are either a man after surgery or you are a woman. .which depends on the procedure. Me, I'm a woman. Nough said.

Danni

[linda allen]

Linda, It doesn't matter what they look like or how big their features are to be a candidate for SRS. What matters most is that they have the right counseling and are fully prepared for SRS and this is what they choose. Nobody see's what you have between your legs unless you show them, so what difference should it make. As long as that person is comfortable with SRS, an they are a happier person, that's all that should matter.

My post was in response to this question: "How would you be able to tell? "

I'm not saying that someone is not a candidate for SRS because of physical characteristics, but if Hulk Hogan had SRS, it would be pretty obvious that "she" was once a "he".

Let's be realistic here. Once we walk away from our computers, we are in the "real world" and have to face real people and real situations.

[chloe23]

My post was in response to this question: "How would you be able to tell? "

I'm not saying that someone is not a candidate for SRS because of physical characteristics, but if Hulk Hogan had SRS, it would be pretty obvious that "she" was once a "he".

Let's be realistic here. Once we walk away from our computers, we are in the "real world" and have to face real people and real situations.

True Linda, but not everybody is built like Hulk Hogan, lol

[kimdl93]

ok, I have to admit to some bi experiences, so I can't technically qualify to answer. However, I would consider a post OP TS to be female, not male, so my hetero side would be fully accepting

[Longing2be-Trisha]

I would say yes I would date a post-op since she is a woman.

Hugs

[wino_tg_girl]

Sure, why not? .......................