Hey ladies!! Hayley again. So Calvin and I think we're ready to explore his dressing together later today. Since this is my first experience with this, and his first experience with a girlfriend finding out the way I did, I was hoping you girls could give me some advice as to what the heck we should do..haha.
We originally thought that perhaps we should get a few drinks in us and start slow with him maybe just throwing on some fishnets. Then we got some great advice from a good friend here who said that I probably shouldn't see "my boyfriend in fishnets," but that I should see the whole package of Callie to disassociate Callie from my boyfriend. We feel that was great advice, because now that I think about it, it would probably be more weird seeing my boyfriend hanging out with me in a tshirt, boxers, and fishnets. Right? So I think we should start off with the full deal.
But what I'm wondering, is what we should do after he dresses so it isn't completely awkward for either of us? Do we just watch tv like normal ignoring the fact that anything is different, do we just lay in bed talking, do we play Rummy? Haha. I don't know. I don't mind being out of my comfort zone, but I do want him to be comfortable and not embarrassed.
So to help you understand a little more about him/us to help formulate your amazing advice, I thought I'd tell you a few things. He has told me that he doesn't feel like a separate person when he dresses, he just feels like him...in women's clothing. He doesn't feel the need to be called "she," "her," or by his femme name. So it seems like Callie is not another entity, and I appreciate that. His femme side doesn't have another personality, and there's no other person that I need to get to know. It seems like his dressing is very basic. Just simply dressing, with no other attachments.
So with that said, since "getting to know Callie" is out, what do you think we should do to minimize awkwardness when we're hanging out today? Thanks a lot!!
-Hayley
PS-Just an edit/update: He's never actually left his home dressed, so going out together is likely not an option. So, I guess we're looking for indoor things.