Cross Dressing: Who u r? Or, what u do?

**Intertwined** · 10-15-2011, 11:56 PM

This may not be helpful?

1st, What am I: I am Human / Homo Sapien, my DNA makes me unique from every other Human.

2nd, Who am I: I am Marshall, aka, Marsha sometimes Intertwined, my Beliefs, my feelings, my experiences, my spirit, my soul, also make me unique from every other Human.

NOW, to your question; It is like trying to explain why, I like "Liver & Onions", I just do, most people I know would rather go hungry than eat it. Does this make me a freak? NO, it just means I have different tastes than most people I know.

**Angela2me** · 10-16-2011, 01:44 AM

I have been playing with this question for the past few months with this site as fuel. I do not expect to find any definitive answer, but to better understand where I am comfortable.
My answers so far:
I wear femme panties because they are more comfortable than any drab briefs I can find.
When I put on a comfortable dress, it just feels normal, comfortable, natural.
If I look at myself in the mirror wearing a dress, I see me looking normal.
When I put on makeup or wig or bra and forms, it feels like I am wearing a costume, not so comfortable.
If I look at myself in the mirror with the costume and dressed, I see me pretending to be someone else.
If I want to wear the dress outside my closet, I need to add the costume. It is a compromise to go outside.
I am me, a male who likes the natural feel of wearing curtain femme clothing items, it is not sexual, just comfortable. I have some male traits and some femme traits. I nice balance I think. I am in individual.

Angela

**Jessica86** · 10-16-2011, 02:00 AM

I am actually glad you look at this the way you do Sherry. I wonder the same thing sometimes. I think it's interesting to see the different types of people we have here. I always think I am alone, but the truth is a better term is unique. Each and every one of us are so unique, but we share a common interest. Someone might talk about being hetero or homosexual. Another about dressing for gratification or expression. The fact is if we are talking about hair styles, shoes, skirts and heels you have my full attention! That is what it is all about. I think more interesting things would pop up if we understood "how" and "why" we do what we do.

**sanderlay** · 10-16-2011, 03:00 AM

Originally Posted by Taylor186

My philosophy is that if you know why you do it, then you're not really a crossdresser.

This statement speaks to me because of who I feel like. I don't feel completely male and I don't feel completely female. And yet my life experience has taught me to act male... and think male. And yet my feminine side is still there. It comes to the surface of my personality wishing to express itself. And I do that in how I speak... how I react... and the clothing I wear.

Because I am anatomically male some call my feminine clothing crossdressing. They make a distinction between male clothing and female clothing. And my life experience with males and females has given me my own fashion sense of what feminine and masculine clothing is. I like skirts and I'm drawn to them like a magnet.

If there was a third gender that was male/female I would choose that. That's how I feel and express myself. But after much research I have found bi-gender and two-sprited person. These terms seems to describe who I am.

docrobbysherry wrote: Can u describe what it is, or does, for u?

The only way I can explain this, in some limited way, is to tell you if I try to stop. I have tried... I have removed all my feminine clothing from my life. I have submerged myself in male costumes. And yet the desire... the urge... nearly a compulsion to dress in feminine attire returns.

When I wear the clothing I feel great. It's almost like getting a pill that relives my stress... my anxiety. I feel like myself. Another person described it as an indulgence... and perhaps it is. Like a person has a drink or a drug to feel better about life. For me it's is the feminine attire.

I think the explanation is my feminine side need to express herself. If she does not I become depressed. I feel I am denied a part of who I am. And for me that includes my masculine side. I must express that as well.

**Tina B.** · 10-16-2011, 08:32 AM

For me, what it is, is a relief value, I go for a while, not dressing,and never giving it a thought, then one day I wake up and feel a urge well up inside, A pull to all things feminine. The feel of that silk blouse that hangs in the closet, calling out to me, the call of the hose as i search my drawer for a pair of underwear. I find myself watching chick TV, Project runway, and top model, longing to wear those clothes.
Then if I still put it off, I start to get grumpy,argumentative, and just plain hostile. Until I find myself unable to sleep, then I will rise up in the middle of the night, and get dressed, make up, wig, the whole thing, at that point, I start to feel good, good about me, who I am, and how I see the world, things are normal.What it is, I don't know, what it does, it keeps me fit to be a member of the larger society, and all that inward rage suppressed, in my case, it really does make me a better person, maybe not all that good, but better.
Tina B.

**kelsey52** · 10-16-2011, 08:42 AM

I know how you feel, sometimes it just hits you hard and you just can't stop it. I try to go to bed everynight in some type of sexy night gown to keep me CALM.

**KrystalA** · 10-16-2011, 08:43 AM

What it does for me is make me feel incredibly feminine. Maybe my imagination is overactive, but when I'm fully en femme, and properly tucked, I really feel (as much as it is possible for a male of the species to feel) like I have breasts and a pussy. I have no idea whether or not that is unusual for CDers, but it just feels so normal and natural to let my feminine side take over.