Okay, then please answer this... at what point in a dating relationship should a man tell a woman he is a crossdresser? After two dates, five dates, six months? What if the man really, truly loved her and the moment he shared his "secret" she dumps him, tells all their friends, posts the shit on facebook, twitter, tumblr, and the guy is publicly destroyed, eventually loses his job, (officially not for being a crossdresser, cough cough).
Don't say it won't happen, because being "outed" as a Hetero-Crossdresser has destroyed a lot of lives.