I've heard it explained that women can look good at being feminine (if they wish) because they've had a lifetime of practice. We, on the other hand, have had days or just hours to learn it. I think that some of it for many crossdressers is just trying and giving it a chance. And some of us will never make it --- I'm getting to the point, with aging, that I think going out again is not a good idea, that nothing will make me look feminine enough. It's a shame, isn't it? Believe me, you have my sympathy. Just don't give up too easily.
Michaella