My opinion on acceptance

[Misty G]

I joined another what I thought was another crossdresser forum site a few days ago. After browsing around a while. I thought to myself that know wonder society is unacceptable of crossdressers. When the majority of the members there had pictures of them exposing their junk.

When people are doing research on the subject of crossdressing and they run across this what do they think other than crossdressers are perverts, . . . .

I just couldn't believe what I was seeing.

I added a post their say in round about words that I couldn't belive this. then tried to remove my membership.

[docrobbysherry]

And THAT, is exactly why this site is so unique and popular, Misty!

[Maria 60]

Some time's i couldn't believe how strict it was here when i even couldn't say the b word, and then i thought to myself that it's better this way, we keep the trash out and keep it a respectful site that we can all enjoy.

[Marleena]

Misty, I read the posts here for a long time before I felt it was safe to join. Websites like you mention are probably frequented by men just to get sex from other Cd'ers. When I'm here I know I can relax, and be my fem self. The moderators/administrators do a great job of keeping things clean.

Cd'ers have a tough enough time trying to gain acceptance without having that against them too. I hope they had a private section where that type of thing could go on. I assume, and hope the general public could not see that either. If people are looking to date, or have sex, or in that case expose themselves it needs to be kept separate.

I should also state that there are sites like that that cater to heterosexuals, gays, etc. and nobody seems to care. I really don't care if anybody is looking for dates, or sex it's none of my business.

I'm just here to make friends with people like me and have fun. I also understand the shock factor after you being a member here.

[cassandra54]

we have to remember that if want to be accepted, then we have to behave in an acceptable way. that means acting like ladies. exposing ourselves is certainly not part of that. especially when we are hopefully trying to pass as women.

i've seen a lot of icky things out there on the internet and on adult sites. i don't understand a lot of it either.

[Beverley Sims]

I have been lurking for a long time and all I can say....
This forum HAS CLASS!

[Marissa]

I have been lurking for a long time and all I can say....
This forum HAS CLASS!

LURKING, huh????? ok..lol..just teasing.. its funny that I see some members who join after lurking for a bit of time, sometimes for a year or more before joining..I have to say it took my first peek in to know that this site was not like others..it was not about a 'hookup' or finding that one, etc..it was a place to express and share.. uhh most times.. Still one of the best places that I know where its about finding who you are, at whatever level you want or desire to be.

[eluuzion]

Yep, you never have to search too hard these days to find evidence to support this claim:

"You don't need to join a circus to be a clown."

[Stephanie47]

I 'lurked' for awhile before I registered. The participants seem to be just what I am-basically an ordinary guy. I've seen some of the sites Misty is referring to. If someone was trying to peruse the Internet to find out more information on cross dressing habits of their husbands or boyfriends, I cringe at the prospect the woman would be led to one of them. If a person has a negative perception of cross dressers those sites do nothing but affirm that negative perception.

[suzy1]

I have recently looked at other sites Misty.

That’s why I know I will only ever be a member of this site.

SUZY

[jillleanne]

There are many sites on any subject that purport to be something they are not. Many of what you speak of are fetish sites, not gender expression sites. One can argue I suppose, since they are wearing clothing generally associated with the opposite gender they are about cd'ing, but in fact they are about the act of having various forms of sexual gratification. The clothing part is a fetish. Now convince the public of that.

[ReineD]

This is what I would like to know. Why do you all think the CDs who hang out in these other forums cannot get past the sexual fetish aspect?

I know we're like a little island here. Why is this? Why are there so many others who seem to be interested in the CDing just for sex? Are they repressing something?

[Shari]

For every site like this one, there's dozens more like the one you described.
It's an uphill battle and we're losing ground to the dark side.
I don't know the answer.

[Vickie_CDTV]

This is what I would like to know. Why do you all think the CDs who hang out in these other forums cannot get past the sexual fetish aspect?

For them, it might just be a sexual fetish and nothing more. From what I have studied over the years, there are far more on the fetish end of the scale, and it goes down the further and further as you go down the scale towards the TS end.

[suzy1]

This is what I would like to know. Why do you all think the CDs who hang out in these other forums cannot get past the sexual fetish aspect?

I know we're like a little island here. Why is this? Why are there so many others who seem to be interested in the CDing just for sex? Are they repressing something?

As Vickie said, a sexual fetish. Nothing more.
There is very little to interest them here.
I actually cringed and felt very uncomfortable when I looked at these sites.

[Raychel]

Like everone else said, That is what make this site so special. Just good friends all getting together to solve the proplems of the world.

[Rianna Humble]

For them, it might just be a sexual fetish and nothing more. From what I have studied over the years, there are far more on the fetish end of the scale, and it goes down the further and further as you go down the scale towards the TS end.

I sincerely hope that I have misunderstood what you wrote here, Vickie. There is nothing fetishistic about being transsexual.

[Julogden]

This is what I would like to know. Why do you all think the CDs who hang out in these other forums cannot get past the sexual fetish aspect?

I know we're like a little island here. Why is this? Why are there so many others who seem to be interested in the CDing just for sex? Are they repressing something?

Perhaps they do get past the fetish aspect. For many CD's the sexual aspect is temporary. It wouldn't surprise me to see that many members here started out at the sexual sites and migrated to more respectable forums, like this one, as the sexual aspect faded for them.

And the sexual aspect is the main thing for some here too, many admit that, but they aren't allowed to show that graphically here.

Carol

[Marleena]

The thing of it is there are fetish sex sites for anything you can think of, and some you never thought of. One day we were looking up hurricane katrina for the kids, and ended up with a sex site for the first search result.

The only thing we can do is point anybody talking about, or interested in crossdressing to this site.

[suchacutie]

I believe you did misinterpret, Rianna. Vickie is just talking about the population of the various manifestations of the "feminine self", saying that there are many fetishists and many fewer at the other end of the transgendered scale who wish to move to full time in their mental gender.

Since I came upon my transgenderism so suddenly a few years ago, I quickly scanned the web for sites to learn all I could. I joined a number of sites. A bit of time ago I was cleaning out my "favorites" and realized that there were many many sites that I hadn't been to in 4 years. When I went to them to remind my self why I hadn't been there, I realized that they were really sites for fetish purposes, and that really wasn't my interest.

tina

[LeaP]

I know we're like a little island here.

Mostly. I once checked out the link to chat at the top of this site. After one quick look I'd never go back. And it's presence is one big reason I haven't invited my wife here. I'm also not particularly thilled with the links at the bottom of this site's pages. I love the genuine nature of the forum itself, but the site overall is somewhat compromised by some of the stuff in addition to the forums.

Lea

[kimdl93]

You're right - people could get the wrong idea about CDing if they based their opinions on those kinds of sites. There are some really creepy people trolling on the internet... I suppose the sponsors may have set the site up for the purpose of exploiting these creepy characters. There's nothing intrinsically wrong with viewing CDing as sex act rather than as self expression. And I have nothing against porn, but I donot appreciate web sites that cater to that kind of crap...showing off privates etc.

But, sadly, I think these sites reflect societies misconceptions. The prevailing attitudes about CDrs and transgendered existed long before the internet.

[Marleena]

@ Lea, the links at the bottom of the page are automatic I believe. This bulletin board most likely generates similar board links like a search engine would. At least any bulletin board I have created does.

[Raychel]

It sure would be nice if we could turn off the link at the top and the link at the bottom and clean up this site. This site is the way that we want the world to conceive Cding as, not all those other nasty sites.

[kellycan27]

As far as acceptance goes... look no further than your own attitudes and see why some people see things the way they do. You look down your nose and call people perverts and weirdos because of their sexual proclivities. Why is that? Because it's not the "norm"? Your thing is OK because it doesn't offend YOUR sensibilities, but their's is not because it does? Is there a pattern forming here? "Societies" intolerance seems to be alive and well right here in your own back yard.