Hey Marleena. Don't feel to bad, the first time I posted a thread the moderators closed it almost immediately out of concern for the welfare of others because of the subject matter and my second was not related to crossdressing so was closed, and my third did not last long either. heee heee. Sometimes I think I really am the devil or at least seriously crazy.
Your heart was in the right place. Life is therapy all you have to do is learn what love is and what it is not.
There is a strong economic theory that says that one should only produce what one can do most efficiently, and that one should outsource or purchase everything else. What I produce most efficiently are certain technology related ideas; it is most economically efficient for me to concentrate on that, and to leave situational and interpersonal analysis to those that produce that most efficiently (i.e., therapists.) It would take me a lot of studying over a long period, and a lot of "knowledge maintenance" in order to address life problems as easily as a therapist does, so the rational thing to do is to rent that expertise on an as-needed basis.Originally Posted by suzy1
I am not at all sure what "a good grip on life" encompasses. I have seen it put forth by some on this site that, pretty much by definition, if one sees a therapist, then one does not have "a good grip on life". I consider such definitions to be baseless sophistry, and tantamount to penis-waving challenges along the line of "I'm a stronger / better / smarter man than any man who would consider going to a therapist!" I stopped playing such games about the time I became an adult.
Maybe Dr. Phil could help us? He is a therapist right? Frankly there would be no way of knowing if they were for real. I also wonder if giving such advice online is in a clients best interest. I pay for my therapy and it takes a few sessions to be understood, so on paper it sound's good but I will pass (pun intended, and I wish).
Have you ever broken down the word "therapist" ?? Kinda scary. You can go with "The Rapist" or with "Thera Pist" the latter meaning an eruption of anger !!
just sayin
We do have some Professional people on the forum
It is there personal choice to contribute where they feel it will be useful
I have never been to a therapist, but I am sure for some people they provide a valued service. It has been said before a threapist will take time to get to know a person and their problems. Also we should also remember they are here during there free time.
If we had therapist on the panel, I would think the only professional advice they could give is to go see a therapist since they don't know the person seeking advice well enough to offer professional help. Perhaps the many pieces of advice, opinions and experiences we all contribute is as good as any professional can do under the circumstances of not knowing the person or situation well enough to do any better then some of us that offer our comments.
Please file under bad idea.
No, you got people to talk. That's what a therapist does, so your's was a self-fulfilling idea in a way! Feel better now? :-) Want a job as our new therapist?
I doubt very much if you could find a therapist with sufficient specialist training to be able to offer much on here - we would need at least 2 anyway, a TV/CD and a TG/TS as a minimum just to keep everyone more or less happy. Then they'd get into hissy fits with each other and we'd all have to council them. It's really not worth it. ;-)
**-* Kath *-**
Let them see that their words can cut you and you’ll never be free of the mockery. If they want to give you a name, take it, make it your own. Then they can’t hurt you with it anymore.
― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
Thanks Shelly, I never knew that there were some here. I think that if a therapist even tells people it's not a big deal that they CD could be helpful. Coming from a professional might put some minds at ease. I understand about the one on one sessions being needed. I also get it that they decide when to participate here.
Oh..and no Kathy I don't want the job!
Marleena, I agree and yes you have had the initiative to ask. I remember sitting in tutorials during the first semester in my first year at Uni and never asking a question. I was open to listening and others asked a question I wanted to ask. My attitude changed in second semester, I asked questions no matter how stupid they seemed to me, others also wanted to know.
It would be nice to have an expert to answer, but there will always be that one person who will try and put the teacher down just to make themselves out a hero. Usually they drop out of the course. I also don't think they would want to be subjected to criticism when they are offering their services for free. Then how do they stand legally if someone takes their advice and stupidly applies it to their own position without consideration of their own predicament.
Thank you for posting the topic.
Thanks Tania, it did get people involved in the thread so all is not lost.
I don't think we need a therapist.
I've seen and am seeing a therapist and I think she does 2 things:
1, She creates a judgement-free zone.
2. She asks questions, like what do you think or how do you feel about this.
She does not try to tell me the answers about myself or tell me what to think.
She will tell me, from here experience, the best way to approach my wife about this.
I think we get all the benefits of a therapist on this forum without having one.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
When my wife and I saw a therapist to talk over my CD'ing the first thing he asked was if I had found a good forum. He seemed to think that being a part of a community like this was one of the best things I could do. I think he was right.
Raychel
For me this site is the best therapy I could ask for. All the members are individual therapists for me, I don't want to sound too corny but its true. I've been to therapists before about other things and after several hundred dollars I get a few good pointers at best. It was still worth going to those sessions. Here I get so many view points from peers and most of you are going through or have gone through the same things as me. Thanks to all of you!
Agreed! Every time members gives heartfelt advice or their considered opinions, they help the OP.
And collectively, we engage in all kinds of therapy: collaborative therapy, conflict resolution therapy, dream analysis, interplay, shock therapy
Reine
Just my experience with therapists, is that the medical community is not as well versed as this board is. I have been to a number and I've had to teach them more about transgender than you would believe. I even took my son to a sex specialist that concentrates on couples and gay issues (he's gay), and he surprised me by how many questions he asked about my crossdressing.
I will tell you, that in conjunction with this board, if you can attend a conference or a support group, they will prove invaluable as everyone there has walked the walk and talked the talk.
-Tracy
Everybody's normal until you get to know them. - Tracy Schapes
An opinion should be the result of thought, not a substitute for it.
- Jef Mallett
Blog: Tracy's Happy Place
Ok Most therapist might do it for a fee but think about it a minute after work in this field all day long do you really think you would be willing to take on every one questions every night every night of the week for free not me I like helping people but I need a break form it
WHEN IN STRESS WEAR A DRESS
BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF IT ALL YOU GOT
I agree with an earlier post ReineD is our therapist/counselor.
Thanks to those of you who nominate me as the resident whatnot, but really, I'm not!!
I'm just a very opinionated person who likes to get into everyone's business but my own, and who often gets it all wrong.
Seriously, it's the collective effort that makes it work here. We all teach each other stuff.
Reine
I don't trust gender therapists. I feel like a lot of what they do may be quackery, because I can't think of a way it can be done without some kind of humanistic or psychodynamic BS.
Actually, you can find the answer to most questions if you search for them. Not only here, but using google search as well. But it's work; and most people aren't willing to go through the trouble, not to mention the ones who already have an answer thay want to get just to support a decision they've already made about themselves.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
My feeling is that if you had a hundred different therapists there would be one hundred different opinions on any one subject. The more experienced the therapist the more their opinion(s) would vary.
Been there, done that.
I might have posted before somewhere that I am a mental health therapist. 10 years experience but none with cross-dressers, so it would be difficult for me to answer all questions. I could however; give my best educated guess. What kind of questions are you proposing?
Paulette
Thanks Paulette. The most basic of all questions----> Are crossdressers considered "normal". Should we feel guilty, or stop CDing because society has trouble accepting us?
Also be ready for disagreements to some of your answers. Nature of the beast. P.S. Do you crossdress too?
Marleena
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