Hello,
just had some trouble in Germany. I was enfemme on way to a dancing event. First two forgeign man shouted at me and then through some small pieces of food in my face, fortunatley nothing glueing. After the evening one russian guy came to me and put his hand on my legs and embraced me, moving his first hand upward, ... I stopped him actually to kind. I was in a good mood and did not want to fight. Even at the dance event many gay people were there, at all nice, besides I am not really interested in guys. And at first I was somehow flattered by the russian and thought talking is fine. So he stopped the embracement and spoke partly German partly Russian. Things like why not..., I told him I am not into guys. And as the train came I moved away and said have a good evening. Some seconds later he stood up, graped my jacket, I got loose and then I felt the first punsh in my back. Probably with full strength, fortunately not well placed. He did not follow me into the train, but I was really shocked by the evening.
Berlin is somehow very open minded, most people don't care, some laugh, some look away. I never was in such position before and I felt weak. I am practicing martial arts and can somehow care for myself, but on highheels and a relatively tight skirt it was a higher risk.
The first to man were ignored by me, but this one.
Should I fight next time? Do not talk to anyone approaching me, maybe? Using lower heels and run away? You know I am not a victim in male mode, never - only by my own fault maybe, but I was never in panic or what so ever. I really felt weaker and vulnerable. And even if I fight and win, I have to deal with the police, I also can hardly try not to over do self defence if in such a situation
Any adives, I mean in US for example I assume it is even worse. So do you take caps/taxis instead of buses and trains? Or how do you deal with such situations?