am i just weird, or is the term "transvestite", or "tranny" slightly offensive to any of you? i can't say i really dig being called either of these. really i just prefer "cross-dresser. what do you gurls like to be called?
am i just weird, or is the term "transvestite", or "tranny" slightly offensive to any of you? i can't say i really dig being called either of these. really i just prefer "cross-dresser. what do you gurls like to be called?
Absolutely! I, too, prefer "cross dresser." I think "tranny" is way more than 'slightly' offensive.
Hi natalie,
You might try a couple of searches, as this has been covered a few times. I suppose that these terms mean slightly different things, depending on where you live. Personally, I prefer TG or transgenered to transvestite or tranny. I'm okay with crossdresser too. YMMV
Dana Ryan
your right, shoulda searched it... it seem tho when i here some of these other terms i get a picture of herbert the pervert or somthing goin on in my head, and then i feel like a sicko, even tho i got no reason to.
TG is fine with me, but some confuse it for TS which i am not.
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you are right i don,t like to be called a transvestite or transgenered i am a crossdesser but i thank i prefer to be called a hybird crossover
Crossdresser... thats enough
I really hate labels.
I have read that:
According to the Oxford English Dictionary (OED), transvestite is defined as:
a person, typically a man, who derives pleasure from dressing in clothes appropriate to the opposite sex.
Crossdresser, in the same dictionary, is defined as:
a person who wears the clothes of the opposite sex.
( http://ts-si.org/guest-columns/28598...-as-pejorative )
Now, according to those definitions I'm probably a Crossdresser. The OED appears not to specify whether the pleasure derived is of a sexual nature or not. If it is, then I'm a Crossdresser (because I enjoy the experience in a non-sexual manner). If it isn't then I'm a transvestite. It's really nice to know where you stand on these things. :-)
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― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
I agree with you, but also understand that the word "transvestite" is what is also used in the UK for meaning crossdresser. I prefer transgender and am fine with crossdresser. I understand using "tranny" between friends in a light way, but when used by some on this board, more in the TS section, I think that it is used in a negative way, which to me is unfortunate choice of words that makes it seem that one is better than the other.
No more offensive than "gurls", just sayin'.Originally Posted by natalie james
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Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
Sunlight falls, my wings open wide. There's a beauty here I cannot deny - David Sylvian, "Orpheus" (1987)
i stand correctedjust a term i have heard used alot between other CD people on the internet.
I was talking to another gal about this same thing. For me these days I feel like I am "crossdressing" when I see my self in the mirror with out some makeup on - hate it! Transgender Woman is a apt description of me or TransLady. From what I have read, I thought "Transvestite" had some sexual connotation to it - the clothes "turn ya on" - I was probably there once. I think T-Girl is great term that I use frequently on various forums....
http://www.glaad.org/reference/transgender
No worries, I'm sure some find that term to be fine. Others, not so much.i stand corrected
Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
Sunlight falls, my wings open wide. There's a beauty here I cannot deny - David Sylvian, "Orpheus" (1987)
t-girl is fun. can't say i derive any sexual pleasure from dressing. if that was the case i would understand exactly why i need to do it.
Not really offended by Transvestite or Tranny, but like you, I'd prefer to be called a crossdresser. The definition of CD seems to be most appropriate for me, but having said that, I'm not really a fan of labelling certain groups etc.
I typed crossdresser into Wikipedia the other day which led to transvestite which led to transsexual which led to….. well you get the picture, so I like to be called Suzy.
I just look forward to the day where I am just accepted and do not have to hear a label. But it will probably will not be in my life time.
my sentiments exactly.
I try to avoid using labels to define myself seeing labels as a method of group classification describing traits, behaviors, characteristics, ect... Labels have the potential to be dehumanizing because we are individuals not groups. Many of these words are used as expressions of hate and contempt and I always avoid people who define themselves in relation to a group adopting it's prejudice and us against them mentality.
When people label me they are placing a plastic bag over my head and trying to suffocate my humanity.
Human beings are members of a whole,
In creation of one essence and soul.
If one member is afflicted with pain,
Other members uneasy will remain.
If you have no sympathy for human pain,
The name of human you cannot retain.
I'm offended by any term you might use, any term used in the past and any term you come up with in the future. So there!!!!
lol! i understand just fineI'm offended by any term you might use, any term used in the past and any term you come up with in the future. So there!!!!
I guess I am ok with any of the term. I dont have problems with labels because we all use them. Male, female, son, daughter, friend lover they are all labels. We all can be labeled in a 100 different ways. Now as for me I think transvestite sounds so scientific. Its kind of like calling me a homosapien. Tranny sounds a little more slang and colorful. Crossdresser is fine as well. T-gurl I have used in the past. Bi- closeted can be another.
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I prefer crossdresser. It is perfectly descriptive of what I am. Tranny can mean many things. Transvestite is just too academic but accurate.
Labels, everyone dislikes them, but we all have to fall back on them. Prefer Cross Dresser. Accept transgendered as I am coming to understand, and can recognize the friendly banter such as TGurl. So while transvestite may be the academic's term we can change their minds, and I think too many negatives attach to that term
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I prefer Trans Gender or Trans (insert your choice here). Aren't we trying to emulate our opposite gender? Just a thought...
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Tanga
Not bothered one way or another.
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