crossdressing is alittle unusual and it is quite difficult for a SO to understand, esp to learn late in a marriage. It is what it is and just have to learn about it and try to keep and open mind. I have learned lots here and I am feeling less and less upset and more and more positive about the situation. I really love being married and have a great family life. I want to keep that and I also want my husband to be happy, hopefully that involved me still being his wife
Crossdressing is one thing but (and i hope i am not being too forward here) what about the person that crossdresses then does his thing behind closed doors. That is really really hurtful to a SO. I know there are different levels of crossdressing, and this does not apply all crossdressers. But as a SO I wonder if this is just part of the whole thing and does not have any other implications to it. ( ie like i am no longer attractive enough to him, I just don't do it for him any longer but he does not want to hurt my feelings etc)
Again don't take offense, not trying to be rude, don't want any hostile responses but just wondering and just asking. Maybe I have a wrong take on it.