Am I normal?
Am I different?
Am I average?
Am I unusual?
Am I ordinary?
Am I exceptional?
Am I prevalent?
Am I commonplace?
Am I acknowledged?
Am I natural?
Am I supernatural?
Am I an abomination?
Am I a marvel?
Am I extreme?
Am I sexual?
Am I agamous?
Am I male?
Am I a crossdresser?
Am I female?
Am I transsexual?
Am I right?
Am I wrong?
Who am I?
Who are you?
Does it matter?
Nope not at all, Anne! The key is to be comfortable in your own skin. Once you accept, and love yourself for who you are it all falls into place.
agamous eh? I just learnt a new word. See kids, crossdressing makes you learn stuff!
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You present an interesting list of questions
I'll give you a few answers as I see them
Am I normal?
Normal is over rated
Am I different?
Its good to be different
Am I average?
Who settles for average
Am I unusual?
I hope so
Am I ordinary?
Ordinary is boring
Am I exceptional?
You bet I am,just ask those that know me
Am I prevalent?
Being prevalent would makes us average and ordinary
Am I commonplace?
Depends on who your friends are
Am I acknowledged?
Why does it matter if you acknowledge yourself?
Am I natural?
All humans are a part of nature therefore natural
Am I supernatural?
After death we all are
Am I an abomination?
Depends of who you ask
Am I a marvel?
I hope so
Am I extreme?
To not be extreme puts you with the masses and the masses are asses
Am I sexual?
depends on the partner
Am I agamous?
sexual or asexual is by choice
Am I male?
Am I a crossdresser?
Am I female?
Am I transsexual?
Everyone has the right to be what they want to be, regardless of birth
Am I right?
Some times
Am I wrong?
Sometimes
Who am I?
You are A beautiful ,unique, person
Who are you?
I'm a walking talking miracle that survived Vietnam
Does it matter?
Only if you let it
I don't think it matters at all. For me, all that matters is being myself. Luckily my wife fully supports, accepts and understands my need to crossdress and this does, of course, make life so much easier. I feel blessed to share my life with someone so wonderful.
I wish nothing mattered. I wish I could dress up and go out with out people judging me. But that's not the case. Very sad.
I COULD answer all of your questions one by one, Anne.
But, the simplest answer is the truest for me:
I DON'T REALLY KNOW!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
The only important question:
Are you happy?
Staci
I'm pretty sure you/we aren't supernatural..
But in the end, it doesn't matter. You/we are individuals living life however you/we want.
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Speak for yourself, crossdressing powers ACTIVATE!Originally Posted by Melody1985
Supernatural though, reminds me of something. Here in the UK we have this drama called "Misfits" which is basically a series where a bunch of troublemaking young adults get super powers. In the 3rd season one of them gets the ability to change his gender.
Imagine the possibilities!
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I am one of those that believe that it does not really matter in the end. You have too many questions and some of them you already know the answers to, so erase them from the list. There will still be too many to even think about there. So, then separate the remaining questions into one list that you can do nothing about because they are really beyond your control. The remaining ones which you can do something about now need to be sorted out into those that really need attention and those that would be nice to have an answer for but really will do nothing more for you. That remaining list of things that you can do something about is what you need to prioritize for action. You can't tackle all of them at once, so lay out a plan to address that highest priority first and then move on to the next. Now the most important thing to remember is to NOT add any more items to the list! Good luck and chill out. Life is just too damn short to worry about those things.
Are you an abomination? No. Are you normal? You are normal for you, although if your benchmark for normality is the percentage of genetic males who question their gender, then you and your peers form a small percentage. Geniuses form a small percentage of the general population too.
Are you a man, woman, CD, or TS? I don't know but you most definitely sound confused about this. You should do what my SO did, if you can. Stop trying to put yourself in a box, and just BE for now. Go with the flow. Honor your feelings as objectively as you can. My SO was able to do do this because she had full freedom to express herself at will. She was single for about 10 years and so there were no built up resentments over feeling she had to stifle herself for someone or something else. If you can get to the point of feeling you can dress whenever you want to and go out, then you will be in a better position to answer your own questions. But, please try to not make up your mind before you reach that point, since I'm afraid you won't be able to do so objectively. Not as long as you feel stifled as Anne. Be OK with not knowing for awhile.
In the meantime, you might want to try practicing this, no matter how you are presenting, but especially during the times when you feel you can't present as Anne:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...-in-the-moment
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Reine
How do you feel about these questions? I think how we feel about our selves, is the most important thing. If you don't like yourself, how do you expect others to like you.
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yes it matters to me that wake in my nightie and at least wear nail polish and panties all day. i think like a girl not like a man and love being a CD..................................di
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Hi Anne!
That's a marvellous list of questions.
My answer to every single one of them, except for the last three:
YES and NO!
Who am I?
You are you.
Who are you?
I am me.
Does it matter?
YES!
Gaby
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It matters. They all matter to my sense of myself and my sense of place in the world. I'm in the mode of re-examining several of the questions, including normal, different, exceptional, M/F/CD/TS, and even, unfortunately, abomination. The last in a natural sense, not in any religious sense. Right and wrong don't seem to enter into it, though.
I don't find it possible to simply be, ignore the rest of the world or my upbringing, to love myself and let it go at that, or anything similar. I need to understand.
I don't know who I am anymore. I get a pretty strong sense of who you are, though, Anne.
Lea
This tread really made me think. Thanks 2 u all!
Have you ever struggled with a challenging problem or technical question? Been stuck while doing research? Sometimes it feels as if the more we examine all known options, the more stubborn the problem seems to be. But then when we take a break and do something else, when we relieve the pressure somehow and stop thinking about it entirely, the solutions begin to unfold when we return to the challenge.
I've done this with the NYT crosswords puzzles for example. You'd think that after the first pass I should know whether I know the answer or not and if I can only solve 50% of it then that's the best I can do. This is not the case. When I put it aside for a few days, things invariably become clear when I pick it up again. Like one of those head thumpers when you think, "Why did this elude me before?".
So. A crossword puzzle you can put aside for a day or two. Gender questions? Maybe a year or two, all the while continuing to go with the flow (any degree of stifling will make the situation worse). Things will begin to become clear by themselves ... as long as you are able to express yourself at will and go as far as you feel comfortable going on any given day. And as long as you are mindful of the good moments when you are in guy mode too.
Isn't this worth a shot?
Reine
It occurs to me that there is both an existential and a pragmatic component to the initial part of the question. Put it on the stove, reduce by half, and simmer until this remains:
1) What is required to be happy?
2) Am I willing to take the necessary steps to do so?
Of course, it is all based on the premise that you are going to honest with yourself, first.
Hugs,
Torrey
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This is brilliant advice for everyone struggling with this..Have you ever struggled with a challenging problem or technical question? Been stuck while doing research? Sometimes it feels as if the more we examine all known options, the more stubborn the problem seems to be. But then when we take a break and do something else, when we relieve the pressure somehow and stop thinking about it entirely, the solutions begin to unfold when we return to the challenge.
I've done this with the NYT crosswords puzzles for example. You'd think that after the first pass I should know whether I know the answer or not and if I can only solve 50% of it then that's the best I can do. This is not the case. When I put it aside for a few days, things invariably become clear when I pick it up again. Like one of those head thumpers when you think, "Why did this elude me before?".
So. A crossword puzzle you can put aside for a day or two. Gender questions? Maybe a year or two, all the while continuing to go with the flow (any degree of stifling will make the situation worse). Things will begin to become clear by themselves ... as long as you are able to express yourself at will and go as far as you feel comfortable going on any given day. And as long as you are mindful of the good moments when you are in guy mode too.
Isn't this worth a shot?
It's similar to the idea of going with your gut...
When folks that worked for me asked for advice on projects, i'd look at their work, and often say they should just keep doing what they are doing and that the "answer will become apparent"...
One caveat to our neck of the woods is that there truly are unknowable things in the world, and lots of things around trans identity and behavior seem to be in that group..
I spent over fifty years trying answer some of them question. I ended up just giving up and decided the heck with everyone else and what they thought.
I decided to take the chance to myself and life has been wonderful since.
I had to look up agamous...but having done that, my answer remains "yes" to all of the above, except "who are you?"
The only thing that matters to me is my girlfriends here, there well being!
OMG! and is my lipstick on straight! Hugs!
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