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    Does it MATTER?

    Am I normal?
    Am I different?
    Am I average?
    Am I unusual?
    Am I ordinary?
    Am I exceptional?
    Am I prevalent?
    Am I commonplace?
    Am I acknowledged?
    Am I natural?
    Am I supernatural?
    Am I an abomination?
    Am I a marvel?
    Am I extreme?
    Am I sexual?
    Am I agamous?
    Am I male?
    Am I a crossdresser?
    Am I female?
    Am I transsexual?

    Am I right?
    Am I wrong?

    Who am I?

    Who are you?

    Does it matter?

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    Nope not at all, Anne! The key is to be comfortable in your own skin. Once you accept, and love yourself for who you are it all falls into place.

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    The only important question:

    Are you happy?





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    agamous eh? I just learnt a new word. See kids, crossdressing makes you learn stuff!
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    I'm pretty sure you/we aren't supernatural..

    But in the end, it doesn't matter. You/we are individuals living life however you/we want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melody1985 View Post
    I'm pretty sure you/we aren't supernatural..

    But in the end, it doesn't matter. You/we are individuals living life however you/we want.
    Speak for yourself, crossdressing powers ACTIVATE!
    Supernatural though, reminds me of something. Here in the UK we have this drama called "Misfits" which is basically a series where a bunch of troublemaking young adults get super powers. In the 3rd season one of them gets the ability to change his gender.
    Imagine the possibilities!
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    I am one of those that believe that it does not really matter in the end. You have too many questions and some of them you already know the answers to, so erase them from the list. There will still be too many to even think about there. So, then separate the remaining questions into one list that you can do nothing about because they are really beyond your control. The remaining ones which you can do something about now need to be sorted out into those that really need attention and those that would be nice to have an answer for but really will do nothing more for you. That remaining list of things that you can do something about is what you need to prioritize for action. You can't tackle all of them at once, so lay out a plan to address that highest priority first and then move on to the next. Now the most important thing to remember is to NOT add any more items to the list! Good luck and chill out. Life is just too damn short to worry about those things.

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    Are you an abomination? No. Are you normal? You are normal for you, although if your benchmark for normality is the percentage of genetic males who question their gender, then you and your peers form a small percentage. Geniuses form a small percentage of the general population too.

    Are you a man, woman, CD, or TS? I don't know but you most definitely sound confused about this. You should do what my SO did, if you can. Stop trying to put yourself in a box, and just BE for now. Go with the flow. Honor your feelings as objectively as you can. My SO was able to do do this because she had full freedom to express herself at will. She was single for about 10 years and so there were no built up resentments over feeling she had to stifle herself for someone or something else. If you can get to the point of feeling you can dress whenever you want to and go out, then you will be in a better position to answer your own questions. But, please try to not make up your mind before you reach that point, since I'm afraid you won't be able to do so objectively. Not as long as you feel stifled as Anne. Be OK with not knowing for awhile.

    In the meantime, you might want to try practicing this, no matter how you are presenting, but especially during the times when you feel you can't present as Anne:

    http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...-in-the-moment
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    Quote Originally Posted by Anne2345 View Post
    Am I normal?
    Am I different?
    Am I average?
    Am I unusual?
    Am I ordinary?
    Am I exceptional?
    Am I prevalent?
    Am I commonplace?
    Am I acknowledged?
    Am I natural?
    Am I supernatural?
    Am I an abomination?
    Am I a marvel?
    Am I extreme?
    Am I sexual?
    Am I agamous?
    Am I male?
    Am I a crossdresser?
    Am I female?
    Am I transsexual?

    Am I right?
    Am I wrong?

    Who am I?

    Who are you?

    Does it matter?
    How do you feel about these questions? I think how we feel about our selves, is the most important thing. If you don't like yourself, how do you expect others to like you.
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    Human beings are greater than words turned into opinions, sometimes true other times false.

    To live we must balance on the razors edge between life and death, freedom and security, clarity and confusion, imprisoned by the bliss of ignorance and freed by the burden of enlightenment. The only mistake is to die without understanding love.

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    You present an interesting list of questions
    I'll give you a few answers as I see them

    Am I normal?
    Normal is over rated
    Am I different?
    Its good to be different
    Am I average?
    Who settles for average
    Am I unusual?
    I hope so
    Am I ordinary?
    Ordinary is boring
    Am I exceptional?
    You bet I am,just ask those that know me
    Am I prevalent?
    Being prevalent would makes us average and ordinary
    Am I commonplace?
    Depends on who your friends are
    Am I acknowledged?
    Why does it matter if you acknowledge yourself?
    Am I natural?
    All humans are a part of nature therefore natural
    Am I supernatural?
    After death we all are
    Am I an abomination?
    Depends of who you ask
    Am I a marvel?
    I hope so
    Am I extreme?
    To not be extreme puts you with the masses and the masses are asses
    Am I sexual?
    depends on the partner

    Am I agamous?
    sexual or asexual is by choice

    Am I male?
    Am I a crossdresser?
    Am I female?
    Am I transsexual?
    Everyone has the right to be what they want to be, regardless of birth

    Am I right?
    Some times
    Am I wrong?
    Sometimes

    Who am I?
    You are A beautiful ,unique, person
    Who are you?
    I'm a walking talking miracle that survived Vietnam

    Does it matter?
    Only if you let it

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    I don't think it matters at all. For me, all that matters is being myself. Luckily my wife fully supports, accepts and understands my need to crossdress and this does, of course, make life so much easier. I feel blessed to share my life with someone so wonderful.

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    yes it matters to me that wake in my nightie and at least wear nail polish and panties all day. i think like a girl not like a man and love being a CD..................................di

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    The only things that matter are whether you are happy, and that you're not hurting anyone else. Life is too short to spend much time worrying about everything.
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    Hi Anne!

    That's a marvellous list of questions.

    My answer to every single one of them, except for the last three:

    YES and NO!

    Who am I?
    You are you.

    Who are you?
    I am me.

    Does it matter?
    YES!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Anne2345 View Post
    Am I normal?
    Am I different?
    Am I average?
    Am I unusual?
    Am I ordinary?
    Am I exceptional?
    Am I prevalent?
    Am I commonplace?
    Am I acknowledged?
    Am I natural?
    Am I supernatural?
    Am I an abomination?
    Am I a marvel?
    Am I extreme?
    Am I sexual?
    Am I agamous?
    Am I male?
    Am I a crossdresser?
    Am I female?
    Am I transsexual?

    Am I right?
    Am I wrong?

    Who am I?

    Who are you?

    Does it matter?
    It matters. They all matter to my sense of myself and my sense of place in the world. I'm in the mode of re-examining several of the questions, including normal, different, exceptional, M/F/CD/TS, and even, unfortunately, abomination. The last in a natural sense, not in any religious sense. Right and wrong don't seem to enter into it, though.

    I don't find it possible to simply be, ignore the rest of the world or my upbringing, to love myself and let it go at that, or anything similar. I need to understand.

    I don't know who I am anymore. I get a pretty strong sense of who you are, though, Anne.

    Lea

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    This tread really made me think. Thanks 2 u all!

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    I had to look up agamous...but having done that, my answer remains "yes" to all of the above, except "who are you?"

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    The only thing that matters to me is my girlfriends here, there well being!
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    Looks like too many variables and not enough equations!! I are an engineer...
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    Am I normal? I like to think so
    Am I different? I like to hope so
    Am I average? No
    Am I unusual? I'm increasingly finding that I'm not
    Am I ordinary? No way
    Am I exceptional? Not always just most of the time
    Am I prevalent? I don't know how to answer that
    Am I commonplace? I can be but find a way to stand out
    Am I acknowledged? Yes
    Am I natural? I am naturally me
    Am I supernatural? no
    Am I an abomination? no
    Am I a marvel? probably not
    Am I extreme? Yeah I can be
    Am I sexual? Not often enough
    Am I agamous? Huh>
    Am I male? Yes
    Am I a crossdresser? Yes
    Am I female? No
    Am I transsexual? I don't think so

    Am I right? Of course
    Am I wrong? Well once in a while

    Who am I? I'm finding out

    Who are you?

    Does it matter? It does, we all should matter

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    Great post, and my answer to all questions is,

    I don't care, I don't answer to anyone, I am Jocelyn Quivers and that's all that matters!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    Looks like too many variables and not enough equations!! I are an engineer...
    Well, Karren, I tried multivariate analysis, integration, and simple regression, but they ALL have contextual meanings!

    Lea

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lea Paine View Post
    Well, Karren, I tried multivariate analysis, integration, and simple regression, but they ALL have contextual meanings!

    Lea
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