ever been kissed by a man ?

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

I think Reine's pic was much more in line with Nicole's presentation for that evening. She wasn't made up for a day of shopping, she was admittedly as glamorous as she could be, for her evening out at a club. The offending gentlemen may have certainly misread her signals, but he sure didn't misread her advertisement.

I don't agree, Nicole wears a lot of makeup and goes for a look that is glamorous, yes, but that is not the same thing as dressing as a sex bomb like the picture of Rihanna and the other woman whose name I don't know. They're not just dressed with *glamour*, they're dressed provocatively. Nicole only described her makeup, but the rampant sexuality of Reine's picture examples was located not in the faces of those women but a few inches south. In fact Rihanna is wearing very natural makeup in her photo, some eye work and some foundation, sure, but the emphasis is on her cleavage for sure. If that's the argument, then the woman on the far right in the red and white is wearing heavier makeup than Rihanna, and since she's the example of someone *not* trying to meet a man with her look, it only further underscores my point that there are other reasons women do these things than the sole mission of trying to attract a man.

All the words Nicole used to describe her look could also be used to describe the heterosexual, executive transvestite comedian Eddie Izzard as well:

[xcdmargo]

So, here's my experience on this subject. I've kissed a few men in my life and some I enjoyed and some I did not. I have absolutely no interest in kissing guys unless I'm dressed. I simply feel like a woman when I'm dressed and I enjoy being with a guy when I'm in femme mode. Sometimes it leads to more and frankly I enjoy that part of it too. I agree with Reni in that the feeling of melting into a guys arms, having him hold you and caress you is simply wonderful.
I will agree that I much prefer a clean shaven guy as well as one with good hygiene.

I enjoy being a woman in all ways and being a little ****ty from time to time well it just feels good

margo

[Sue Too]

Oh Yes!! I have been kissed by several. Some are just good and some are wonderful! I don't engage in romance with a guy unless I am en femme and then I put my whole self into the act. Kissing is wonderful foreplay. I don't enjoy guys with facial hair!! The kisses can be slow and gentle or deep and passionate. French kisses are wonderful. Each type has a place in my book of foreplay. I cauld write more but that would do nothing to help me sleep tonght.

Susan in Phoenix (68 and sunny today) (and tomorrow) (and the next day)

[Marleena]

No, never been kissed by a man. I'm just not interested in men at all, but I have no issues with anybody else that enjoys it. To each their own.

[Joann Smith]

Twice once on the cheek from a guy that I meet in Chicago ....have not heard from him since. And once on the hand by a really drunk guy in a restaurant ...have not heard from either guy since. Its cool though they both smelled really bad

[Patsy]

In femme mode I'm not totally opposed to the idea, depends on the man I suppose. In male mode - Yuck!

[seanmuscle]

So, here's my experience on this subject. I've kissed a few men in my life and some I enjoyed and some I did not. I have absolutely no interest in kissing guys unless I'm dressed. I simply feel like a woman when I'm dressed and I enjoy being with a guy when I'm in femme mode. Sometimes it leads to more and frankly I enjoy that part of it too. I agree with Reni in that the feeling of melting into a guys arms, having him hold you and caress you is simply wonderful.
I will agree that I much prefer a clean shaven guy as well as one with good hygiene.

I enjoy being a woman in all ways and being a little ****ty from time to time well it just feels good

margo

And for a man there is nothing more fulfilling that holding a woman in his arms and protecting her

[danielletorresani]

I've never kissed a dude before.

Even though I'd be interested and open to experimenting with a CD, I'm still kinda weirded out by the idea of kissing them. Strange indeed...I'd be willing to fool around with a CD but I wouldn't be willing to kiss them.

[Amymonroe]

i remember my first his name was steven. and i enjoyed it. we took it a lot further too.

[hmerkin]

Oh Yes,
The Man Was A Big Person wearing Nylon Panties, Pantyhose, a Slip and High Heel Pumps! She/He was bound and gagged....more than necessary... so a peck on the cheek surficed.

[CINDYO]

wow this question has generated a lot, a ton of views. Looks like people on this site are really interested on the topic "ever been kissed by a man". hmmmmm. I wonder when i read the responses if all those xdressers that say they have and would like to, or dream about it etc. identify themselves as bi-sexual. Just an innocent, relevant question from a GG. I admit i do not know much about xdressing, but i do know that a hetero man would never kiss another man, probably would not even look at this post as he would not be interested. Given the number of views, i just wonder. I know that the type of clothes one wears does not change change the sexuality of a person. That is something that does not flip back and forth.

[Mark/Rebecca]

Julia, you must be lovely. To get a man (let alone 2) to commit to a move in relationship meant a much bigger committment based also on romance. Im sure the pressure of being in a trans relationship was just too overwhelming. You have been dealing with it probably all of your life, and he mustve panicked? Ill bet if you texted something simple like "miss you" you would find that his feelings for you were deeper. I hope soon that we will be as commonly accepted as boyz

(ftm)

Hi,

Yes the first man I had a relationship with did the age old line of " I need space" Within a week he had taken his belongings from my apartment while I was at work.

The second guy pretty much mirrored the first even though he promised otherwise.

Everyone, don't get me wrong sex with men is an incredible experience for the most part just don't expect anything further and you'll be fine.


Julia

[linda allen]

Not me. If I wasn't transitioning I would be queer as a three dollar bill.

After a couple of surgeries I will be so straight even a conservative won't mind if I kiss a guy.

So that brings up an interresting point - what is the definition of "gay" ("queer as a three dollar bill")? If you are a male and have sex with other males, the world sees you as gay. But if you feel like a woman inside, are you still gay? If you are a male but dressing and living as a woman, and have sex with males, are you still gay? Taking hormones to feminize yourself? Have had breast implants but still have male genitals?

So at what point are you no longer gay, but just a "normal" woman having sex with males?

[linda allen]

wow this question has generated a lot, a ton of views. Looks like people on this site are really interested on the topic "ever been kissed by a man". hmmmmm. I wonder when i read the responses if all those xdressers that say they have and would like to, or dream about it etc. identify themselves as bi-sexual. Just an innocent, relevant question from a GG. I admit i do not know much about xdressing, but i do know that a hetero man would never kiss another man, probably would not even look at this post as he would not be interested. Given the number of views, i just wonder. I know that the type of clothes one wears does not change change the sexuality of a person. That is something that does not flip back and forth.

I can only speak for myself and I've already posted.

I don't identify as bisexual at all. Or homosexual. That said, I like to dress and "pretend" that I am a female. Part of that pretending might be to be kissed (or more) by a male. It's more about wondering what it feels like to be female than anything else.

As I already posted, it's not going to happpen for many reasons, but it's something I think about at times. The male in my fantasy has no face or name.

[sherri]

Actually this happens to GGs too. It probably happens at a much higher ratio amongst TGs but men can be pigs without discriminating. When out at bar and a club, guys looking to hook up are generally looking for someone who they can have sex with that night, if at all possible. Also with online dating girls get significantly more messages from guys, and every girl I know who dates online has at least one horror story or more about getting sent pictures of private parts or straight up propositions for sex on the very first message.

I think you know what I meant, generally speaking.

On the flip side, I will say that I have been hit on by guys at TG bars, and I have had some of them at least put in some of the courtship steps, such as asking about myself and trying to start a dialogue. The first time this happened I didn't quite clue in right away because I've never been a pick-up type guy, but I have figured out now, oh he's hitting on me. I politely excuse myself early on but I can see the courtship rituals being ramped up for sure.

I think you and I have radically different ideas about what constitutes courtship. Getting hit on or chatted up ain't it exactly. :-) But actually the word courtship may be a little over the top regarding my expectations. If a man (or woman) is interested in me, I only expect three things: 1) he has come to terms with his interest in TGs and doesn't feel the need to hide it (or me); 2) sneaking off to a motel room is not my idea of dating, and if he's not ready for dating, he might as well forget it; and 3) he understands that there must be mutual chemistry and the cultivation of some sort of relationship before sex is gonna happen.

[Kate Simmons]

Like I mentioned, Lori, we've become socialized to look a certain way and for women it means altering their natural appearance with makeup, particular hairstyles, etc, in short doing what she can to adhere to socially prescribed "rules" of feminine aesthetics.

But, what do you thing is the fundamental reason we feel that our natural appearance isn't good enough? When you compare both ends of the full spectrum of feminine adornment (from just a bit of makeup and a cute, cuddly sweater, to the full on smokey eyes, sexy hair, jewelry that sparkles and attracts the eye, and low cut tops), what do you think is the ultimate goal for a woman who goes all out, such as in the two first pics above?

Fundamentally, it boils down to the birds and the bees, even if this isn't in the forefront of a woman's mind.

Pretty much Reine. That's what a lot of them don't get. Unless you get a taste of that euphoria, you really don't have a clue what it (and life) is all about.

[Julia_in_Pa]

Thank you for kind words sweetheart. :O)


Julia

Julia, you must be lovely. To get a man (let alone 2) to commit to a move in relationship meant a much bigger committment based also on romance. Im sure the pressure of being in a trans relationship was just too overwhelming. You have been dealing with it probably all of your life, and he mustve panicked? Ill bet if you texted something simple like "miss you" you would find that his feelings for you were deeper. I hope soon that we will be as commonly accepted as boyz

(ftm)

[Badtranny]

So at what point are you no longer gay, but just a "normal" woman having sex with males?

Well I think the logical answer would be after SRS. As long as there is a sword fight, it's not a physically hetero situation.

In a deeper sense, I've never really identified as a man, certainly never felt like one so an argument can be made that in a spiritual sense I have never been gay. However, I think that sounds a little bit too much like pretend land. The fact is I was born a man and I have a man's body and sense I am attracted to men, at least one of us has to be gay right?

This is why I'm transitioning. I don't identify as a gay man so the life I want to live is impossible in this body.

[Tashee]

First time I had Zero idea this was going to happen. I was not attracted to men nor happy with my mate for coming on so fast. But I went along and ahhhhhh I Loved it talk about the old joke come to life. I Must have been good too. A month later I get a invite for Dinner after we have coffee drinks. OK that melted my heart. We go to his home his Mate was coming over soon. To My Surprise me and My man were into it his mate Well Our Mate came over. Dammit they had this planned, I heard sounds He was focus on me. Im Like Gladly! Soon I noticed 2 persons on me. I was Strangly frightened. They Calmed me down. The Night Lasted until 4 something AM. The Next Day and Days,weeks Had me wondering what kind of a girl Am I.Why I found so much pleasure in the sexual relief of other men. Yes It Bothered me Until I stoped worrying about it. This was Before I was Ill. Thanks For letting me share Girls.

[NicoleScott]

The offending gentlemen may have certainly misread her signals, but he sure didn't misread her advertisement.

I'm not sure I see the difference, but that's OK. Any signals or advertisement sent were not intentional, that is, with the purpose of attracting and hooking up. That's just how I make up and dress, always. I stay in far more than I go out, and I dress and make up over-the-top when I stay at home. I chose to go to a tg-friendly club because I felt I would be more comfortable there, even as an obvious cd, than I would in a more "mainstream" public place, or by toning it down. The point of my original post was that even after explaining my look and presence there, the words didn't register, as he firmly believed that my purpose was to attract and hook up. But as Reine said, it's going to take some time for people outside the community to get it.
This may surprise you, but as much as I like glamour, of Reine's three pics, I am attracted more strongly to the one on the right, the one who appears to be the least glamorous, or at least the one who appears to be the least overtly sexy. Funny how the brain works.

[cdliz15]

I have never been kissed by a man. I'm not attracted to men, but I have fantasized about being escorted by a gentleman, going on a date, some dancing, and maybe even a kiss. I must say, I'm glad to see I'm not the only gurl who has thought about that.

[Badtranny]

In femme mode I'm not totally opposed to the idea, depends on the man I suppose. In male mode - Yuck!

Maybe a couple of drinks would suffice.

This reminds me of the old Superman joke. Take of the glasses and Clark becomes superman. Put on a wig and you become gay. No wig, totally straight, yuk.

Wig, gay.

No wig, straight.

[moondog]

Nope. I'm still trying to figure out who I am.

By the way I think Badtranny (AKA Melissa) and Julia in Pa are absolutely stunning. That is not to say nobody else is, I just find you two super sexy and attractive...personal tastes and attractions.

[Lorileah]

I wonder when i read the responses if all those xdressers that say they have and would like to, or dream about it etc. identify themselves as bi-sexual. Just an innocent, relevant question from a GG.

I have posted many times before that yes, I am Bi. Your question is important here. I agree you can't swap back and forth, but having bi (or gay) fantasies does not make one bi or gay IMO. So many here transition in their minds when dressed to female that they also think about men in sexual ways. But fantasies go away quickly when they start coming true.

[moondog]

Lorileah,

I don't know if that's my situation, but I'm definately attracted to men when I'm dressed. I've never been made-up or gone out dressed, but it's this internal feeling that I need to be with a man, like the girl takes over or something. Currently I'm married and I won't cheat, although my relationship is falling apart because of other reasons. Will I try getting a boyfriend when I'm single? I don't know, this is all new to me. I hope I don't discover that I am a roaring heterosexual when I'm all dressed and made-up pretty and I've got a sexy naked man standing in front of me, that would really suck...and not in the good way.