I too have performed #1 and #2. #3 is where it gets a little tricky for me...how do you tell your wife you think you might be a woman in a man's body? Not only that, how do you tell her you might be attracted to men as well? My therepist wants me to tell my wife, but I don't even know how or where to begin this conversation. I've jokingly told my wife several times that I'm a lesbian, maybe it was slipping out as a joke but was a deep truth that I was unable to comprehend when I said it to her.