Hi Hon,
I am so sorry to hear about your break-up. I do honestly feel your pain. All women handle it differently. I am dealing with the same issues with my gf. We are taking things slowly and seeing to what point she can accept my dressing. The bad news I have for you, is unless you are so new to dressing, it probably wont stop. I can tell you this, I cannot count how many times I told myself I would stop. I threw away countless wardrobes of cloths over the last 26 years. Ive been married and divorced, partly because of my dressing. Now my current gf knows. She is very understanding but it is hard for her. Take some time and if you can remain friends with her, maybe things will turn around. But take time and find out exactly who you are. Maybe in time you will find you can honestly stop, but you must do it for you not for someone else. If they love you they will love you for who you are, not for what they want you to be.
Be strong and you will have a happier life.