Given that a lot of people are less bothered by men wearing women's clothes (to various degrees), if you where to change job would you ever tell your new employer that you crossdress and ask if they would object you you wearing female clothing to work - even if in a limited form?
I.e: You are offered a job and accept it. Would you then say to that employer something like: Just want to be upfront, at times I dress in more feminine clothing and often carry a women's bag. Do you have any objections if I turned up to work in appropriate clothing but wore female trousers/shoes/had a shoulder bag at times (or a mixture of male/female clothing for example)? Possibly even go as far as to say I am trying to understand myself and this is part of that and it would help me if I could do this.
I only ask this as with my recent ventures, I sit here (and at work) and often wish that I could tell them what I do so I could bring in a large shoulder bag rather than my male ruck-sack or wear female jeans or trainers to work (we only wear business attire in the office if we have clients in - otherwise it is jeans and t-shirts for us). But my bosses would most likely have a mental at me if I even asked them this now after being there around 2 years, as they are not the sort of people you can be open with and are purely focuses on their business and running it. But part of me wishes I had said something when I accepted the job as the people I work with (13 of us in the office) would not care. We had an openly homosexual guy work with us for 6 months and his dress sense was very female (including carrying shoulder bags) and no-one cared or was bothered. So I sometimes wonder if this would apply to someone like me.
Just wondering what others think or if anyone has actually done this. And I am aiming this at people who purely crossdress, not those who are or would consider some sort of gender realignment and do this as part of having to live as a female full time in run up to this, as I think employers would be more tolerant and understanding of this - over someone who dresses purely because they like/want to.
K