After years of perfecting do you wish you were born female

[DeniseNJ]

I am not a trouble maker, and I know this question has be asked before . but I want to hear from those girls that have been perfecting their fememine self . The ones to a point that they like what they see in the mirror. I know many say hey!! I like being a man. Growing up I always envied those little girls that looked so pretty in their dresses and shoes. I wasn't one to play with dolls, but I think I could have taken to that easily. I feel we dress for a reason as if we are compelled to be a female. I will admitt, I wish I was born a female more now than I did 25 years ago. Can ones out look on life be influenced with years of dressing. One more {Q) in your eyes do you feel you look better dressed up as a woman or a man??? cause when I view the Boy / Girl mode shots the Girls WIN hands down..

[Debglam]

I will admitt, I wish I was born a female more now than I did 25 years ago...

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I think that the opposite may be true for me. While it is hard to see clearly 40 years in the past, I think that given different times and different circumstances l would probably be a long since transitioned woman right now. That is not my reality however and I am quite comfortable on the middle path, as tenuous as it is sometimes!

[Marleena]

Denise, I'm still perfecting my look but I think I look better as a woman. I'm going bald on top and a wig feels and looks great!

I'm glad I wasn't born a female because dressing and looking like one would be routine. Transforming to girl mode is the nicest thing ever.

[andrea35]

Hm... yes, I am submissive by nature I don't have a big body and when I was younger
a lot of times people could not tell by my voice on the phone if I was a man or a woman and I have been told that I am passable as a woman

[Karren H]

I've never wanted to be a female... Still don't.. Way too much like work to have to do that every day! And I don't know if I look better or not... Just different. Prettier but not necessarily better.

Hm... yes, I am submissive by nature I don't have a big body and......

Funny but I don't think I've ever met a submissive woman,, more like the opposite.... So I don't understand why "we" associate being female or feminine with being submissive?

[Ava Tryptyk]

I wouldn't want to have been born female, but I would have liked to have been born with a supernatural ability that would allow me to switch my gender at any given time, so that at some times I could be a man and do the things I usually do when not dressing, but at other times I could be a woman, wear dresses, hang out with girls.

[kimdl93]

hard question to answer. I never liked my male appearance, and I'm fairly certain that my female image is only barely acceptable. Yeah, I've had people tell me otherwise, but when I look in the mirror I see flaws. That hasn't stopped me yet.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I look in the mirror when I'm dressed and think I look pretty good for an old woman. That being said, I'm happy being the man that I am...

[Jenniferathome]

No, I have never wished I was other than a man. I wish I had been able to experiment and dress much more when I was young (and without the guilt) but I would never want to be woman, just better at expressing my feminine side.

[Annie M]

At times I'll see a tall slender woman and I have a real envy thing wishing I looked like her. But most of the time Im pretty happy with my guy side.

[Acastina]

... I know many say hey!! I like being a man. Growing up I always envied those little girls that looked so pretty in their dresses and shoes. I wasn't one to play with dolls, but I think I could have taken to that easily. I feel we dress for a reason as if we are compelled to be a female. I will admitt, I wish I was born a female more now than I did 25 years ago. Can ones out look on life be influenced with years of dressing. One more {Q) in your eyes do you feel you look better dressed up as a woman or a man??? cause when I view the Boy / Girl mode shots the Girls WIN hands down..

I can honestly say that I DON'T much like being a man, and I know that may put me in a minority here. The wish has always been with me, despite six decades of making do and doing without. As I wrote in a song 30 years ago: "Pretty good at playing the role". That's what it is to me, a role, not something I have a core identification with. I clean up just fine in boy mode; handsome, even, but it's simple self-esteem of trying to look nice however and wherever I am, not really pride. Many photos of me in boy mode kind of make me cringe: my dad's nose, thin hair, a kind of serious expression that can be taken as a scowl. Another song, from the late 1960s: "I'm just doing the best I can/Trying to be a man". That's how I felt in my late teens, and not much has changed in that regard.

So, I definitely prefer to see myself as Annie. It's a common phenomenon that CDs focus all of their efforts to be attractive on the girl; lots of bland or slovenly men who suddenly take an interest in their appearance when dressing, so you may be on to something comparing the boy/girl mode pics.

[ArleneRaquel]

I became " Katrina Maureen" in 2003, " Arlene", in 2007 (?), that fine with me. In present time I love living as a woman, I was born male, IMHO 2003 was my time bo become a woma, even in the very limited way that I am, just clothes, makeup, perfume, ect.

[Stephanie47]

If I were a young woman of today I wouldn't complain at all. It seems there are more women in college than men. There are numerous female doctors and lawyers and executives. Women are no relegated to the kitchen and household duties as the women of the 1950's and 1960's were. If I were a young cross dresser of today, I'd probably emulate women by wearing a business suit and heels. I'd probably want to dress for Halloween as a 1950's-1960's June Cleaver in a dress with a sweeping hemline and petticoats/slips, which I choose for my everyday wear now.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Size isn't necessarily related to being submissive though. I am a big person (always have been), have the muscle and skeletal structure of a male, and have an unmistakable male voice, but I am submissive/passive (to females.)

Some (albeit few) men would like to be homemakers, sadly it was more of an option for men and women alike in the 50s than it is today.

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

To be born a female and miss catching the twins in the zipper or getting a knock in them and causing pain? To miss the neanderthal walk, to miss the testosterone wash and grow a large, wide lat spread, good size pecs and massive thighs, be aggressive and read porn and enjoy?
HELL YEH!

[Richelle423]

I'm glad I wasn't born a girl, having to deal with "femine issues" I just like to dress as closely as I can as a woman.

[goodnhose]

Denise, like others have said i enjoy being a man but love the option to be fem. when i want to. Hands down i feel i look better as a woman. Take care.

[suchacutie]

I love having two sides of me, and I love both of them. My only complaint is that we didn't identify that situation sooner as we would have had a longer time to figure out how to carve out more time for Tina. It's just taking a long time to let her become her own person, but we are getting there

[sami1952]

after years of dressing in women's clothes and working on my appearance to look more like a woman,yes i wish i was a woman but i getting on with my years and just drssing up is more than enough for me.

[Diane Smith]

I'm not deeply upset about having male parts, but all in all, I think life would have been happier and more fulfilling as a woman.

- Diane

[Tuesday Theriot]

Wow! That makes me think. Sometimes, I might have answered, "yes." Most times, probably not. But, to be honest I really don't know how to answer. I wish I could be more decisive in this matter, but I'm still working on getting past the basics.

I didn't spend a lifetime perfecting my feminine side. I spent a lifetime of perfecting an imitation of manhood!

I love the idea of femininity. I love the way it makes me feel today and years ago. Right now, though, I'm a big, masculine looking and acting man. I've trained myself to be a "real man," and to hide any actions or feelings which may fall outside of southern norms.

Just posting to this board makes me nervous, and a little excited, but I still don't know how I'm going to get beyond where I'm at right now. I see it as a long evolutionary period, and I'm still in the learning stage. I still have facial hair, for crying out loud! I want to shave, but that is probably the biggest step I could take right now. I've spent so much time convincing myself that I'm something I'm not, that I know I'm going to have a very difficult time changing.

Sometimes, I regret not being more accepting of my own feelings when I was young and malleable. But, time moves on and before we know it we're middle aged and filled with regrets. Don't get me wrong, I've had a very interesting and full life life up to this point. I wouldn't trade the excitement of my life for anything. However, I realize that it's now or never. It's time to move on and move forward. This is something I want to do, more than anything else. I just wish it wasn't so terribly difficult.

[Calleona]

having a catholic upbringing gave me the guilt thing so I fought it for so long ,now I wish I had been more rebelious and maybe lived for me and not what people thought of me

[candice44]

I wish I were a woman, either born as a female or GRS.

[DeniseNJ]

All good points here, some make it sound like you can't have fun as a woman in todays world, I dare say a {Male dominated society} to me that phrase is out dated. Some make it sound like it is so hard to be female, if so I feel sorry for all you GG out there. Some say I like to have the both sides of me
and the fact that I can switch back and forth, I say we only switch back in our minds and can never be completely on the other side cause we are male. From all the reads I feel maybe we also enjoying being a more softer sided male. We all talk about shaving, polished nails, make-up, pretty dresses, fantastic heels. and when we revert back to the crude male self, some of the softer more feminine traits always come along. Do we all feel Macho, when we throw on jeans and work boots and let our facial hair grow out a few days. Some go to the extremes and want to look feminine when in girl mode, I am just saying the man in us has changed and some don't realize it.

[karanne]

If I were a young woman of today I wouldn't complain at all. It seems there are more women in college than men. There are numerous female doctors and lawyers and executives. Women are no relegated to the kitchen and household duties as the women of the 1950's and 1960's were. If I were a young cross dresser of today, I'd probably emulate women by wearing a business suit and heels. I'd probably want to dress for Halloween as a 1950's-1960's June Cleaver in a dress with a sweeping hemline and petticoats/slips, which I choose for my everyday wear now.

Well ... I don't know about the June Cleaver thing ... <grin> There are certain things that GG's undergo that I'm glad I don't, such as the Curse and pregnancy (that looks so ... uncomfortable!). However, since I'm still short of that last little >snip< and I pass fairly well as a woman (I don't know about young, though), having been working at it since high school.