I love it when my wife surprises me by putting me in a situation which she knows is a little uncomfortable but necessary for me to build confidence and be a better woman. Here are some examples:
- When we're out as girlfriends at a restaurant, I speak as little as possible because I'm self-conscious about my semi-masculine voice. Last Saturday, when our waitress came over to our table to greet us and take our drink orders, my awesome wife just kept her lips shut! "Oh great!" I thought. I'm going to have to do all the verbalizing. I had no choice, so I did. Of course, I did fine and it was great experience. My wife had planned that and I love her for pushing me.
- A couple of weeks ago, I was in male mode and we stopped at a dress shop to shop for me, mostly. As we were approaching the store, she says, "You go on ahead while I go to this other store. I'll be over in a few minutes." Now, I've shopped alone tons of times, but it was the unexpected change that caught me off guard. I browsed around, got a sales associate to help me find things my size and started a dressing room. 30 minutes later, my wife wanders in with a "oh, did I forget about the time?" expression and smile on her face.
- A few months ago, we attended a women-only "Girl's Night Out" event at our local art museum. The theme was to showcase local vendors of interest to women so the vendor tables were arranged along the walls of the very large main atrium. There were cocktail tables and high chairs scattered around the edges for attendees. Well, we made it in and found a table. I felt "safe" at that point. I had a home base and could kind of hide there. At least sitting down disguised my height. We had stopped by the "bar" on the way to our table and I was subconsciously sucking down my wine. Then my wife asks if I want another glass. Of course, I said I did. She said she wanted another one, too, and some more hors duerves. I thought she'd get them. Wrong! She told me to go get our drinks. I remembered how loud my heels were on this typical museum floor and the wine bar looked like it was 100 yards away. I took a deep breath and forged ahead. It was exhilirating although I had quite a lump in my throat.
I love my wife for slowly taking my training wheels away. She's just the best thing to ever happen to me.
Has anyone had a spouse or mate help them along this way?
Love,
Mandy