I have received so much confidence from reading others experiences on this board, that I wanted to post my latest. On a recent business trip, approx 8hrs from home, I decided to check out of hotel around 9pm as Jane and drive part of the way home, grab dinner at drive thru then check into another hotel (as Jane) then again dress as Jane for the remainder of the drive home.
So get on the road. Instead of going thru drive thru, I ran into a Denny's around 1am that was empty, so decided to go in and sit down to eat. Even though empty I knew others could come in at any moment, and I still had to face waitress and other staff. Still required a lot of courage for me to walk in. Waitress was as sweet as could be. No one came running out of back to take a look. If she "read" me she never let me know it. Went to ladies room and when returning to booth noticed a young couple was sitting in booth next to mine, and had to walk past them to my booth. If they noticed me, I never knew it. Paid check and left.
Checked in to hotel, and male clerk never noticed until I gave him my drivers license. He said very nicely smiling, I had no idea you were a woman until I saw your DL. Very nice polite clerk.
Left hotel in morning as jane, and went to Chkfilet drivethru. No incident at all. Took lunch to Outlet mall parking lot to eat.
After lunch went into Leggs/Hanes store to buy hose. Was definitely noticed, and a few looks and stares, but not uncomfortable at all. Then went over to Dress Barn, and as I was walking in, a lady (approx 30-40yrs old) sitting on bench near entrance asked if she could take my picture. My heart and stomach sank. What a blow. SO went into DB and walked around, again definitely noticed, and looks, but not bad at all. Left DB and walked over to lady on bench and sat down to talk to her. I asked her how I looked and what gave me away. She said my makeup was excellent, dress was great, walked in the heels better then she could, but the Wig definitely gave me up. She said there was just to much going on with it. Also, the fact that I was 6.0 without heels, and wearing 3-4inch heeled boots was an attention getter. We talked for a while, very nice lady. She said she wanted to take my picture so she could show her boys that they should be themselves no matter what. That was very nice if she was being honest...
So I got back on highway and immed called a wig shop in Myrtle Beach, asked if they worked with CDers, they do, and would they so a discrete appt. I set one up for 5:30 that afternoon.Best thing I ever did. She found an excellent wig that I feel looks great. Very conservative, and not real flashy. She said I looked very good. She also said my height would give me alot of attention, so I needed to dress very nice. She was just incredible. She tried several wigs on me, look for one that worked with my face, then trimmed it as well. ALso gave me tips on makeup. I really love the wig.
After leaving wig shop, I drove into Georgetown for a walk thru the old downtown area. Some guys got out next to me and walked next to me then stopped behind to look in a window. IF they made me, they never let me know it, as I could hear them talking, and I never came up, that I could hear. Went over to CVS, went in, a few customers at checkout, they noticed me, and the women looked but the men did not. When I checked out, there were two clerks talking so I asked them how I looked. They were very nice, and said they knew I was a guy right when I walked in due to my guy build, (6.0 and 185lbs). But said I looked good.
Left CVS, and drove for a bit, changed back to a guy and went home.
What I have finally realized so far, is just as all of you say, 95% don't care, and the other 5% just don't matter. I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to pass 100%. Most will know that I am a guy, and that is ok. What I do want though, is to dress conservative/professional, so that when I am made, instead of making funny comments to themselves and friends, that they comment on how good I look, that wow he looks very good as a woman. If I can reach that, I will be happy.
I would never ever have gone out in public as I have without the confidence that I have received from reading other post on others experiences. I hope to be able to do the same to someone that is on the fence about going out. Take small steps, and it just gets better and better.
This is just an amazing feeling, to have spent that time as a woman. Now when I can't dress, or until the next time, I have these wonderful thoughts from this experience to carry me over.
Originally Posted by JaneCDX
