It can be difficult to truly know how a person is really feeling but over time you should be able to read one another's feelings on different things but in this instant i can be pretty positive that my wife does not feel trapped at all with my CDing in fact i would say that she is far more comfortable with it than i am , you are obviously concerned about it which is the right way to be so i think you are doing the right thing by giving her the space to take it at her pace.