Sometimes meeting another couple is merely luck. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there as tough as it may seem. I have been on the verge of telling my wife that she can out me to one of her friends if she thinks they will be understanding. So far unfortunately her friends have proven themselves as the sort to judge. That doesn't mean that everyone out there is like that. My pair of friends where one is a CDer and his girlfriend is accepting is a good example of what can come from being too open. She says she has lost all trust in him she understands that it is a big secret but his hiding it has harmed the relationship. Some women can handle it and some feel betrayed sadly it's impossible to tell when this will happen.