I have started the next page of my journey and started going out in public dressed. My wife is constantly giving me advice what a 'real' woman wears. While I can see some of her points and value her help, I respectfully disagree with her on many items.
#1. Women don't wear dresses anymore. From what I have noticed, it depends on the location, time of day, and the occasion. Everyday driving through downtown around quitting time, or when I go to church, or even walking their dog through the park, I see several gg's wearing dresses.
#2. Women don't have long nails. It depends on the definition of 'long'. She thinks my nails are too long, but I think mine are just right. They are long enough to be noticed as feminine, but still short enough to do tasks (buttons, picking up change, etc)
#3. Women don't wear pantyhose anymore. While I agree that unfortunately pantyhose has dropped off drastically I still see gg's wearing them often. Usually while 'dressed up' for work.
#4. Women don't wear high heels. See it all the time. In fact I am having difficulty finding a nice pair of non-heel dress shoes. Seems all these stores (Target, Walmart, Meijers, etc) sell high heels. The few 'flat' dress shoes look awful.
#5 Women don't wear lingerie (satin gowns, corsets, lace, etc. / also I'm not talking about wearing this in public!) While granted I don't see my wife wearing that stuff, I'm pretty sure that there are some gg's that do wear satin pjs, and maybe even a few that like the feeling of satin. While lingerie may not be her thing, it is mine.
#6 Women don't go all out on makeup to go to the grocery store. This I concede to her on in principle. Yes, most women don't bother putting on foundation, powder, blush, and lipstick on to go buy a gallon of milk, but I have to give myself as big of a chance on passing as I can. While I don't pass all the time, I have less incidents of getting 'read' while wearing make up; even to the grocery store. If I don't wear makeup, I would get clocked immediately; guy in a wig. While wearing makeup, I tend to blend in better. People see makeup and look right over my face without actually looking at me if I put the effort in.
I discussed this topic with my therapist in great length and she made a good point. "Don't wear what other people tell you to wear, wear what you want to wear." Just because my wife and a lot of other gg's don't dress up or wear makeup, satin, or heels, doesn't mean I shouldn't if it makes me happy. If I was born a gg' I know I would be just as feminine as I am now. I love my long painted nails, my pretty blue dress, my lipstick colors, my satin pj's, and the feel of hose on my smooth legs. That is the type of girl I am. There are many different types of people out there. Some women are feminine and some aren't. Nothing wrong with either. Guess I will just be me.
Amber