Are things such as confusion, questioning, a rudderless sense of no direction, violent mood swings, backsliding, etc. normal on the path to self acceptance and discovery of one's true self\identity? Does experiencing these things mean that one is not TS? I am not one of those who "knew instantly that I was a girl," I just always felt different... Something was wrong\off, and I could never put my finger on what... I enjoyed playing sports but often shied away from rough and tumble stuff, and was fairly often seized by an extreme desire to go play with the girls at recess during elementary school, but it was something I always shook off because I was afraid and my social conditioning would not allow me to do such things... This spread to things like makeup\clothing etc. But I was always ashamed of having the desire to do these things and felt like a deviant... As a result I rarely explored these issues until recently... During puberty I had times where I was begging to become a female, even considering drastic measures to do it, and was almost always depressed\unhappy even suicidal but I could never put my finger on the specific reason... I always felt like it was a confluence of things, but even as I repressed these identity questions I knew they were still there... I have fought (and am still fighting to some degree) to be the son that my parents thought they had, but it is very hard for me to keep it up sometimes... Even though my desire to conform is strong, there is an equally strong desire to express the real me (whatever that may be I am still trying to work through it)... Now in college after years of repression I am beginning to explore this issue more fully... I am in therapy and have been talking to my parents and some carefully chosen friends (I am out to very few people) but I have up days where I am confident and fairly certain of who I am and down days (like today) where I feel like I have no clue and no direction... These days turn me from someone who is newly discovering self confidence to a crying mess... Some days I feel like I can make it as a male, others I feel like I should have started transition years ago... I am dealing with a lot of internal conflict right now and it is very difficult for me to concentrate on my schoolwork (something that was easy for me during repression cycles)... In short, I am a mess... Nothing brings any sort of lasting peace to me... But are these conflicting thoughts and feelings normal? And what should I do about them? How can I develop the mental toughness that is necessary for me to stand tall in the face of the near sure ridicule that I will face if I transition? Also, I can't really go into any deep exploration beyond therapy until after I graduate... Sorry for the long post, I've just got a lot on my mind today...