Question about this forum for CD-ers with SO's

[Wonderwho]

After 26 years of marriage my wife found out about my CDing because I failed to clear my computer system. It was the best thing that could have happened to us. I was forced to tell her everything, after many tears and long nights of conversation we have come to a simple loving connection. I set some boundries that I feel are in respect for her and what she is having to learn about. I am then able to do what I want, travel the internet where I want as long as I do not throw this new situation in her face. As in leave the browser open to the breast store site. I mention this site a few times, I do not want to pressure her into this world faster than she wants to go. I use my broswers in private browser setting, this closes all cookies at the closing of the session and leaves no history. I love the people of this site but as a just plain CDer with no aspirations of going out I feel this site may be a little hard on her right now. After all these years what's one more day. Wonderwho

[María José]

My SO knows that I´m a member of this forum, but she doesn´t read the boards ... because she doesn´t speak English!

Well, she know I´m a member of forums in Spanish but she doesn´t read them either. She is not interested. Sometimes she asks me what I´m reading and I tell her. And sometimes she looks at pictures of the girls here.

[Silentpartner GG SO]

As a GG and SO - recently (a few months) enlightened to my OH's cd'ing, I would say that I am glad I joined this forum. Topics here have given me food for thought and I ask my OH lots of questions - which is a good thing IMO.

There are threads which I feel are a bit bizarre sometimes, but I know my husband well enough to know that most of it doesnt apply to him. Only you can have a good idea of whether your wife is the sort of person who would ask if she were worried, rather than worry in silence.

All in all, if you have a good solid marriage, then your wife could find a lot of help here - with the caveat that you should maybe tell her that there are threads which are extreme and not everything raised here applies to you and your situation.

[Tamara Croft]

I'm the SO of a CD'er, he joined here before I did in 2004. Back then this forum was scary, no moderation, full of porn etc... was kind of a 'wipe your feet on the way out'... kind of forum. I didn't really stay, didn't like it, felt it wasn't for me but if he liked it then that was fine with me. I did however come back after a few months and got into reading a few threads here... back then there wasn't any private sections, no where for the GG's to talk amongst themselves, so I suggested this to the site Admin and it was created... then I became a mod of that section and eventually became an administrator. Did this board help or hurt me? at first it hurt me, it was a horrible forum, but over the years of building it up with the rest of the staff, it's become a huge help. Even now when I need help, I know there will always be someone here I can talk to

[kimdl93]

My wife knows I'm a member of this forum,but thus far hasn't elected to participate. Her primary reason is a lack of time. She was on Facebook for about a week, and hasn't been back since. She's a smart girl, she's known about my CDing since before our marriage, and would be able to sift through the wheat and the chaff, so to speak, for things that apply to us. That being said, I not so sure that would be true for every GG who came here, particularly if the individual had been shocked at learning that her SO was a CDr.

[Joanne f]

Yes my wife knows that i am a member on here and will occupationally read some posts , my wife had accepted me for what i am before i joined so that part was not really helpful to us although i am sure it is a help to know that there are lots of others similar to me .
One thing that i would suggest if you are thinking of letting your wife see or join is to explain that there are different categories of people on here and maybe tell her where you fit in first as not to confuse her as once you start to read some of the post on here can be easily done .

[STACY B]

I'm the SO of a CD'er, he joined here before I did in 2004. Back then this forum was scary, no moderation, full of porn etc... was kind of a 'wipe your feet on the way out'... kind of forum. I didn't really stay, didn't like it, felt it wasn't for me but if he liked it then that was fine with me. I did however come back after a few months and got into reading a few threads here... back then there wasn't any private sections, no where for the GG's to talk amongst themselves, so I suggested this to the site Admin and it was created... then I became a mod of that section and eventually became an administrator. Did this board help or hurt me? at first it hurt me, it was a horrible forum, but over the years of building it up with the rest of the staff, it's become a huge help. Even now when I need help, I know there will always be someone here I can talk to

An we all thank you for giving up your time for us ,, An for being SO BEAUTIFUL while you do it . STACY B !!

[Janelle_C]

First let me say that I'm glad to hear that you are trying to go past the DADT becouse that doesn't work. My SO knows of this site and has read a few posts but has not joined yet I'm hoping she does. She supportive of me finding my self but is nervous about where it will lead. This site has helped me a lot it made me feel not so alone. Just remember it takes time and communication. Best wishes Janelle

[STACY B]

Oh an by the way mine knows all about it has been on ,, Low attention span I guess ? When she wants to know about something she will get on an check it out an then she is happy ,, Dont realy care always knew anyway she thinks im CRAZY , I wonder what ever gave her that IDEA ,, A man that wears girl stuff CRAZY ? N aaaaaaa just SEXY maybe ,, An a MANIAC heel freak ,,, Shes just mad cuz I can run in my HEELS ,,,, HA,,,HA,,,

[Maria 60]

My wife has seen a big confidence boost in me ever since joining this site and feels that i could talk to her about things but there's nothing like telling your friends with the same things in common with you a great story or ask a question that only someone in the same shoe's can answer. She feels it's great for me to hear other people are going though the same problems as myself. For myself this site has complicated things for me, it has made me more complete and with this it take's longer for me to dress and i can't half dress anymore. I am not Maria without a wig and fully dressed, she is more complete now. My wife is pretty cool about everything but i feel that i try not to push to hard and take it slow with her. I hope this site helps you as much as much as it helped me

[Barbara Ella]

My wife knows I am a member, got her registered by her request, but no interest after initial introduction. She has continually said she is glad the people are here for me to talk things over with. i can dress any time i choose, and she is fine with being with me. We talk about topics here all the time.

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[Alice B]

Yes. No.Not applicable and not applicable

[StacyPump]

Well, thank you all so much for your honest and thoughtful answers. I really appreciate the full range of your thoughts and found this most helpful. I never dreamed I'd have the opportunity to hear thoughts and feelings from the spouses and GF's of other crossdressers. I suppose this is a perfect example of the power and beauty of this community!

Have a nice day all!

[PretzelGirl]

My wife and both daughters were completely accepting from the beginning. But my wife and oldest daughter came here to learn more anyway. They both read a fair bit and I guess that was enough as they haven't been back in a while. That is fine with me as it shows their level of comfort.

But I have always said here that if you are going to direct a family member or friend here to learn more about you, then sit down and talk with them first. There is a quite a variety of transgendered people here and someone who is not yet familiar with it all may think that something applies to you that doesn't. This is a very all encompassing forum when you look at each section, so framing how you feel gives the person something to work with when reading so they aren't thinking "he/she does that, and that, and that?".

[corrinediane]

She knows about this forum but is not a member. We usually sit together and one of us will raed the posts. She's more interested in the looks of the other gurls then what's in there heads. I think that's down to her trusting me. This is a great place for SO's. The sex is kept to a minimum and points of view are varied which is good. The help available for dressing is immense! Personally I don't care if she joins or not. Its just nice we sit and read the posts together. We talk about all the different situations the gurls are in and that leads to questions that concern us and it really helps our relationship. Its amazing what gets talked about and cleared up because of this forum. Stay away fro CD chat. They're all horn dogs there. (We've been there together too. Now its off limits to me) Just checked, they don't advertise it here anymore. URNA is another place you might check out. Good luck!

[5150 Girl]

If your SO is having trouble acepting or understanding this side of you, this forum can be a valuable recorce for her.