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    so how about an update? im no longer with my girlfriend she broke up with me and i alredy ordered an outfit and make up and have a guy waiting to have me over his house. i hope im making the right choice but this is wut i end up doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thicknatasha View Post
    most of the time im a straight male, but at random times i get the urge to dress up as ****ty as possible and have sex with black men. and its only that, black men. but i dont understand why. when i have a girlfriend it feels great, but then out of no where i get random urges.
    Sorry,
    But I think the whole ****ty thing is misogynistic and having sex with black men (as you describe it) is racist.
    Also, you might want to totally re-think your describing yourself as a "most of the time a straight male".
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    Quote Originally Posted by Momarie View Post
    Sorry,
    But I think the whole ****ty thing is misogynistic and having sex with black men (as you describe it) is racist.
    Also, you might want to totally re-think your describing yourself as a "most of the time a straight male".
    I do agree with you. If you're turned on by black guys, you're definitely not straight. Men are the exact opposite of femininity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thicknatasha View Post
    so how about an update? im no longer with my girlfriend she broke up with me and i alredy ordered an outfit and make up and have a guy waiting to have me over his house. i hope im making the right choice but this is wut i end up doing.
    Is it any wonder why she left you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Momarie View Post
    Sorry,
    But I think the whole ****ty thing is misogynistic and having sex with black men (as you describe it) is racist.
    Also, you might want to totally re-think your describing yourself as a "most of the time a straight male".
    Agreed Momarie. There is no such thing as "mostly straight" As for this fantasy... whatever flosts your boat. But I find it disgusting and in my opinion, in very poor taste to post it as a way of a first post. No doubt the OP thinks this is a porn site...it ain't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kathi Lake View Post
    You want explicit sexual fantasies? Great. Go for it! Just not here. You can get that crap on countless other sites. I would much rather this be a site that is for the support and education of crossdressers/transgenders and their families and friends. Some wives of crossdressers come here for information about the bomb their spouse sometimes just dropped on them. Many spouses already think badly enough of us without seeing posts containing every imaginable fetish or sexual proclivity.
    Kathi,

    Bang on the money. I joined this site because it had an educational and light hearted feel to it.
    The internet is full of this crap, so I wish these trolls would go elsewhere.

    If this kind of garbage is to be entertained, I'm out.

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    ZING POW and call the national guard. Yes, as a first post it was on the edge of what we normally expect to see....ok, a bit past it and make a left turn but...if it was an honest query then you need a shot of self esteem. If you spend the primacy of your youth chasing the next sexual high then you are not allowing yourself to grow as an actual individual. I think perhaps in my outhouse opinion you are bisexual with strong leanings towards men. You get a girlfriend and suppress it, so to punish and reward yourself (classic love/hate), you get involved in meaningless sexual encounters.

    There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex with men while you are dressed, but trolling craig's list and the internet is not going to find you anyone but a sexual partner. If you want to find anything worthwhile in your life stop hiding behind this promiscuous behavior, make some well thought out decisions and find someone to develop a relationship with, then if it builds to something more it will be so much better.

    BE FAITHFUL-no matter whether you choose to play outside or swing for the home team be faithful to the person you are with.
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    As mentioned in a previous thread along these same lines, you better actually know that man personally, or you may not be around to post on here (or anywhere else) again!

    As for that "thug" type (race doesn't matter), I have known a number of GGs who find that type of man attractive and have been involved with one. Not surprisingly, the GG ends up being treated like total garbage and it never ends well. Don't mistake dominance for exploitation, that kind of man does not love a woman, they only live to use and exploit others. If you wouldn't want someone living next door to you, you don't want that person in your bedroom, I guarantee it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kathi Lake View Post
    Silk,

    Yeah, I'm a hater. Everybody knows it. Psh.

    You want explicit sexual fantasies? Great. Go for it! Just not here. You can get that crap on countless other sites. I would much rather this be a site that is for the support and education of crossdressers/transgenders and their families and friends. Some wives of crossdressers come here for information about the bomb their spouse sometimes just dropped on them. Many spouses already think badly enough of us without seeing posts containing every imaginable fetish or sexual proclivity.

    The moderators try to make sure that this site does not 'devolve' into one of 'those' sites. Again, you want it? It's out there. Please keep it that way.

    Kathi
    I missed Kathi's post since this thread bothers me in so many ways. But I agree wholeheartedly too.

    Quote Originally Posted by reb.femme View Post
    Kathi,

    Bang on the money. I joined this site because it had an educational and light hearted feel to it.
    The internet is full of this crap, so I wish these trolls would go elsewhere.

    If this kind of garbage is to be entertained, I'm out.

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    I had a 7 year member PM me about how she is disgusted with some recent threads. She said, " I've been around here for 7 years and have just slightly over 300 posts. Theres a reason for that. Most of the threads I read here just make me shake my head, and they seem to be getting worse by the week. I had to agree.

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    We all have our types but sleeping with a black guy because of the stereotype that they're hung, aggressive, and dangerous is just so racist...

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    The concept that men of other races have well-endowed genitalia seems odd.....does that apply to their female counterparts who have big hoo-ha's?

    Race means nothing to me.
    This morning , I saw a robin, a blue jay, and a cardinal on my maple tree ...they look like birds to me.

    Once in a while I pick up my entertainment newspaper. In the back section, it has blonde escorts, russian escorts, asian escorts, ******* escorts. Not my thing.
    I'm a dude that dresses like a lady from time to time. That's all

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    Your anything but straight.

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    these sexual stereotypes about men of this or that race ARE racist... they objectify people and they're double-edged swords: stereotyping black men as dominant or as "thugs" makes it easier for society to be afraid of them and to lock them up or shoot them... it's all connected. as somebody said we all have our types but please think a little about what you're doing... race and sexuality are both complicated things and these stereotypes just simplify them and do a lot of harm...

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    I think you're all confusing the OP with another poster who said that almost a month ago.
    The standard faire applies, be safe and all that and remember you can say no.

    OP Finding black guys attractive: Not racist
    Poster who said they were uneducated/ect...: Racist

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    Wait a second, here.

    I think this is getting blown rather WAY out of proportion.

    Quote Originally Posted by Momarie View Post
    Sorry,
    But I think the whole ****ty thing is misogynistic and having sex with black men (as you describe it) is racist.
    Why is is racist? Lots of genetic women have that same fantasy, and it's anything but racist for them. Because this is a CD having it....that makes it racist? Sorry, I don't see how.

    Also, you might want to totally re-think your describing yourself as a "most of the time a straight male".
    Agreed. Definitely, the OP is NOT straight. If you are male, and you have fantasies about having sex with men, then you are, at the very least, bisexual. Someone who's straight wouldn't have those kinds of fantasies.
    Last edited by ReineD; 05-27-2012 at 01:53 PM. Reason: I've edited the TMI out of Urmilla's post and any responses to it.
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    Actually, since you have acted on this fantasy, you might as well just say you are bisexual. I don 't happen to share that tendency, but i don't understand the outrage of some of the responses. Do your thing and have fun.
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    I for one am more shocked at the responses than the original poster. I hope this thread is closed ASAP. For people to use such vulgar language and be so rude is to me a much worse offense than the original post. We are a community who is varied but I hope decency and common courtesy is still the utmost importance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adina View Post
    Nup, none of the mentioned fantasies.

    You need to decide whether acting on these fantasies is good for your own self esteem and health and good for any relationship you may be in now or in the future (given the increased risk of STD's associated with sexually promiscuous behaviour).
    Specifically, please use barrier protection and if possible, see if your prospective partner has a recent STI test. (that's not foolproof, but it's better than not having one... Having many partners safely is much, much Safer than fewer partners without barrier protection and precautions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by whowhatwhen View Post
    OP Finding black guys attractive: Not racist
    Poster who said they were uneducated/ect...: Racist
    It's not racist to find black guys attractive but it is racist to find them attractive because you think all of them are hung, aggressive thugs that just wants to rape you.

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    It is more than likely a healthy fantasy of yours.
    We all have fantasies and as we do not act on them we hurt no one.
    I have been caught out so many times wearing playboy bunny outfits, getting into trouble and having to be the maid to dominant women and going in beauty contests.
    Yes! it's all in my dreams.
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    Quote Originally Posted by msginaadoll View Post
    I for one am more shocked at the responses than the original poster. I hope this thread is closed ASAP. For people to use such vulgar language and be so rude is to me a much worse offense than the original post. We are a community who is varied but I hope decency and common courtesy is still the utmost importance.
    Agreed, where is the moderator this post has been a way out of bounds and should be closed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meg East View Post
    Agreed, where is the moderator this post has been a way out of bounds and should be closed.
    I agree, but I trust the decision on the moderators even if it's not what I think about it. But I might want it closed for different reasons that you do. I just find it offensive to our GG members. I support the GG's that have said as much with their feelings being known in their posts to this disgusting thread.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WyrmQueen View Post
    It's not racist to find black guys attractive but it is racist to find them attractive because you think all of them are hung, aggressive thugs that just wants to rape you.
    I should've been a little more descriptive but yeah, that's what I meant too.

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    I have just read through the posts more closely and although there are issues about political correctness et al.
    It is someone expressing a fantasy, if it was read on this basis it would not lead to all the stretches of imagination it has.
    I am the recipient of dirty jokes by a number of people some of them gg's. The rule is if you don't like the joke move on, if it is to your liking comment or forward it on.
    No hen fights or scratching eyes out just remember others see different things in the same situation.
    Fantasy to one person is porn to another, so it is good to see the background of how something was written.
    Remember a first time poster probably has less insight into the moral values on the forum than someone who has been here for a long time.
    Even I have foot in mouth disease and misread the temperature of a situation.
    Maybe I am wrong here but some posts need to be read with the experience or lack of the poster in mind.
    A further comment... The bunfight seems to have evolved later in the post I notice the first few posters have put the lid on it nicely.
    Also the thread is the original posters property and not some stage for later posters who have probably not even read the original post.
    Hey! Please enjoy the rest of the day wherever you may be.
    Last edited by Beverley Sims; 05-27-2012 at 01:11 PM. Reason: Typo and further comment.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thicknatasha View Post
    most of the time im a straight male, but at random times i get the urge to dress up as ****ty as possible and have sex with black men. and its only that, black men. but i dont understand why. when i have a girlfriend it feels great, but then out of no where i get random urges.
    I dated a black girl with a strap-on. That might be the best of both worlds for you.

    But I've met more than one white CD who is married and actually does do this -- dressing up as skanky as possible and picking up black guys. And still tries to say they're straight and love their wife. That's something we should all be offended by.

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    It's only gay if the balls touch...
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