Wedding Request

[Leslie Langford]

Chari,

If you need more inspiration, have a look at this thread from the Tennessee Bridal website, which deals with a similar issue regarding male ring-bearers, flower "girls", and bridesmaids. While the last postings to it took place some time ago, the information and POV's expressed in it are likely still relevant today. Bottom line - you would not be the first, and you won't be the last, male maid of honor.

http://www.tennesseebridal.com/fashi...ringbearer.asp

Seems to me that there was also another member of this forum, "gender_blender" ("Charlie") who served in a similar capacity at a wedding some time ago, and also reported on it here, along with pictures. Check the Forum archives to see if you can locate it, if you are interested.

[Diane Smith]

If the bride and groom are both comfortable with the idea, I think it's the opportunity of a lifetime. In fact, I'm a little jealous.

- Diane

[Marleena]

If the wedding party including the bride and groom are okay with it, it is a no brainer.

I think it is a wonderful opportunity and I would jump at it. Times are changing and people need to adapt or get left behind.

[Eryn]

Another thing to consider is the reception. In a formal reception the bride and groom are expected to dance first, followed by the maid of honor and the best man and then by the bridesmaids and groomsmen. Even in an informal reception there will be a lot more social interaction with people with whom you aren't familiar than in the ceremony so you should be prepared for that. Alcohol should also be taken into consideration if this is a reception where folks are likely to be imbibing.

Other variations are possible. Your female side could attend the ceremony with your male side attending the reception, for example. Work out the arrangement that will work best for you, remembering of course that it is the bride's day in the spotlight.

[Sophie_C]

If it's her choice, you've got to go with it. I'd do my best to make that point clear and to keep yourself out of the spotlight as possible. If she's as rebellious as she sounds, this sort of thing shouldn't be entirely unexpected, coming from her.

[Lorenqt]

Its her wedding, so I think you should go along with her request. The older, less accepting will just have to deal with it.

I agree 100%. It is her wedding, they're guests at her wedding. If they don't like it, they can leave.

[Chari]

Many "Thanx" for all your comments and information! The wedding plans are now in motion and everyone is anxious to help organize things. An open casual meeting with my cousin (the bride to be), her fiance, parents, other wedding party members, and the minister was held to discuss traditions, procedures, and personal feelings - which amazingly all but one person was very accepting, & understanding of my involvement. It was suggested that my cousin and I go to her hairstylist/makeup consultant for me to have an "early hairstyle & makeover" to avoid any unforseen problems. My cousin believes I will "pass" without question! Will I be the MOH? The results of the makeover will determine that! If all goes well, it's off to the bridal boutique for dress selections and fittings in about two weeks. Will try to keep the forum up-to-date on progress.
hugs, Chari

[Chickhe]

Awsomely cool... take photos if you can... I look forward to hearing the stories!

[Krista Doll]

yea I'm so happy for you, and you are so lucky too have an accepting cousin. if all goes well please post some photos of the happy day. can't wait!!!!!!!!!

[crossdrezzer1]

I was a male maid of honer.. wrote about it here,,, might i suggest do all the girly pre things but tux it on the day..

[vivianann]

Go for it. I would if I were you.