If you go out, Public or Private?

[JessHaust]

For those who enjoy going out, do you go to Public places with lots of people like clubs, theaters, restaurants, shopping?
Or do you prefer a walk in the park, stroll along the beach, somewhere where you can be alone?

[2B Natasha]

Hi Jess.

When I go out its to places generally with lots of people. Downtown, shopping centers, restaurants et al. now that I'm comfortable with myself why shouldn't I go where I want. That is to say now. When I first went out it was to clubs. I did do one tg meeting. But it was a bit to much stitch and bitch for my taste.

For what it's worth. I find that at gay clubs I get far more stares and odd looks then if I just go out to a straight bar or club. I also feel more relaxed in those inviros too. I'm happy to leave the gay bars to the gay population and the drag queens.

Cheers

[kimdl93]

Personally iprefer being among people. I'm a fairly friendly and outgoing person and need the human contact. Also I think that a busy public place is considerably safer than a park, beach or empty street. Recent events in Winnipeg bear that out.

[debbeelee1]

Since I'm certainly not even close to passable, I perfer going to Girls Night Out type events. I guess I believe in safety in numbers!

I did have a major problems last night when I attended a Girls Night Out with my SO at the Funky Skunk in Warren, Ohio. After driving my car 2,500 miles on vacation over the past couple of weeks, it waits until I'm in a dress, hose and heels for a front tire to go down! We were just pulling in to town and the dash board warning came on. The right front tire was down to 24 psi. I pulled into a well lit gas station and I asked my SO to put air in the tire.

She fiddled around for a few minutes and I watched the pressure gage go from 24 to 20 psi. I hopped out ot he car and of course a car pulled in just then, filled the tire and hopped back in the car. Actually, no one gave me a second look! Time to teach her again how to put air in the tires!

[Phoebe]

I like going out in public now. Especially enjoy going to CLCC and being with others like myself. Spent to many years hiding in the closet as was scared to be ridiculed by trans-phobic people in public. Later found that probably would not have happened in most places I go now. I don't go to parks as a female but I do enjoy sitting in the park down the street from my apartment building over looking the Mississippi river. The park sits on a bluff about two hundred fifty feet above the river. Can watch freight trains being made up in the Union Pacific yard, watch barges being towed up and down the river, pleasure craft on the river and also a approach path for one of the runways to downtown St Paul airport and vehicles on the main road Concord St.

[Melissa Rose]

I don't go out for solitude or to find space away from others so by default I'm in public places. I'm usually doing everyday things which requires being around others.

[StephanieDragg]

very public, grocery stores, restaurants, theaters, malls, department stores.... everywhere... I have been very fortunate, everyone has always treated me wonderfully

[sherri]

For what it's worth. I find that at gay clubs I get far more stares and odd looks then if I just go out to a straight bar or club. I also feel more relaxed in those inviros too. I'm happy to leave the gay bars to the gay population and the drag queens.

I'm jealous. I would luv to make the switch from gay clubs to straight clubs, but most of the straights clubs around here are either cowboy bars or dive bars. Dangerous territory. :-P And so far I haven't met anyone brave enough to escort me to a straight club. :-(

[Holly]

Totally mainstream... shopping, grocery store, theater (just went to see the Blue Man Group last Tuesday), the DMV, restaurants, auto repair, dry cleaners, the dentist, clubs (gay and straight), movies, the bank, the utility companies, etc. I figure if people want my money, they can graciously accept from me, not the pretend person I was.

[Cynthia Anne]

I go out where there are people! I can always stay home to be alone! Hugs!

[JLynn17]

omg so ya im gonna have to go take my dog for a walk in park today dressed and get back to ya on the answer... i got a pretty lil pitbull who drags me everywhere we go, so this should be fun kinda hot daisy duke time :-) what what lol

[Michaelasfun]

Kind of a combo for me, I go to public places, but during the week when many folks are at work, so less people. Just my personal preference, I don't like crowds.

[katie_barns]

I would rather be in public. I like interacting while dressed. I can usually pass from a distance and don't get many looks but when I deal with people one on one up close; I usually can see in their eyes if I have been clocked. It's about 50/50. Even if clocked seldom does anyone say anything.

[Nikki A.]

I can be alone at home, I don't need to do that. I just try to do what I need to do however I'm dressed, been to restaurants, church, friend's homes and have been shopping fully dressed. Semi dressed I have run errands and everyday mundane chores, I just try to wander a little further from home for a little more anonymity.
I'm not a club person and I usually only go to them when there is a meet up or event and I know there will be friends there.

[Sallee]

I do both crowed places like malls and movie theaters and walks in the park. Just getting out is fun public or private but I like to go places where I see people and people see me How else do I know how I look

[STACY B]

All the chix here have the same feeling ,, The word is AFFERMATION ,, I think thats how you spell it ? To be afirmed ,On your looks an manerisms ,, Me too I like to go around people ,,,Hell Im a nice talkative person an get along well with others ,,No matter what Im wearing . We all want to be afirmed .

[Lorileah]

If I spend 1-2 hours getting made up and dressed, someone better see me. Otherwise why bother?

[ArleneRaquel]

Grocery shopping, going for a morning walk, are my favorite activities, but I also attend clubs, restaurants enfemme.

[Xena]

I have never tried public places, but then I use to go for walks and bike rides years ago.

[Vanessa Storrs]

I go most anyplace. I do not pass at all but I believe it is my duty to inflict my beauty upon the world.

[Nikki A.]

If I spend 1-2 hours getting made up and dressed, someone better see me. Otherwise why bother?

Also with what we spent on clothing and makeup & accessories. I agree 100 % with Lorileah

[JessHaust]

If I spend 1-2 hours getting made up and dressed, someone better see me. Otherwise why bother?

Really good point !

[Jenniferathome]

Always in public. When I am in girl mode, I want to to show myself. Kind of a strange validation of my female side.

[ArleneRaquel]

Always in public. When I am in girl mode, I want to to show myself. Kind of a strange validation of my female side.

Excellent post Jennifer, you some up my views completely. I love to be seen dressed as a lady.

[Lynn Marie]

[SIZE="4"]Do you realize that you have started 29 threads in just over 3 1/2 months! That must be some kind of record! Wow, you're really prolific.

I go out.[/SIZE]