I think I may have outed myself in the worst possible way and boned myself in the process.
Since I know just how much people looooove reading script style conversations I'll do my best to recollect how it went down.
Brother: Time for a haircut man
Me: Nah, I'm growing it out
Brother: Seriously?
Me: Yeah
Mom: Why?
Me: Because I can, and I thought you knew already?
Mom: Oh right, you want to be a girl
Me: Yeah, is that going to be a problem?
Mom: Yes
She didn't look too happy after that and I quickly excused myself, cursing that I didn't lie or at least bend the truth a little.
There's no going back now, I can't unsay that and I'm still kicking myself.
That was about 45 minutes ago and I've been avoiding contact ever since.
Even worse, if she brings it up again I won't be able to lie either.
Let me clarify that I'm likely not in any danger of being suddenly thrown out, my worst fear all along was hurting people and it may have come true.