In a couple weeks I'll be coming out to my friends about my crossdressing because I now know they don't have a problem with crossdressers and I'm hoping that I can become Katie while hanging with them. What I was wondering is if your friends treat you a bit differently when you become a girl (treat you like a girl, call you buy your girl name, etc.) or if they treat you the same way.
Thanks
Katie
I'll be honest and say, that sometimes friends seem to be open minded about how their friends choose to live their lives. I only have one friend that either calls me by Cassie or my birth name depending on how I'm dressed, otherwise he treats me as always, with respect, kindness and a friends unconditional love. The rest of my friends have gone from my life.
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Hugs,
Cassie
In the great words of Popeye: "I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam,"
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My answer is NO! But it's a great way to find out 'WHO your freinds are'! Hugs!
If you don't like the way I'm livin', you just leave this long haired country girl alone:
No, my friends don't treat me any different.
I wouldn't want them to. I am not a woman.
One of my friends, back in the service discovered my secret, during an ambush wrestling match he initiated. I was underdressed. He was sure shocked and broke contact very quickly. He kept his distance and silence. Recently, via FB he remade contact. Not a matter of topic but friendship has resumed and he "friended" another of our former shipmates who is "Out and Proud" and a bit of an advocate. So maybe he matured, maybe I was the first "contact".
Very true. I came out about this last year. I didn't loose any friends over it, but some people act kinda iffy around me.Originally Posted by Cynthia Anne
none of my friends care, they come over to play Xbox and I'm dressed sometimes and they do not care.
they just walk in and it's like,
Me: "Sup bro"
Friend: "Sup.......sis?"
Me: "ha ha, no dude, bro's fine"
Friend: "ha ha, fair enough"
I have recently come out to a few of my close friends and family about this side of me. Of the people that I have told they do not treat me any differently, but I have not been in their presence as Shannon and maybe when that day comes they will act differently. I really doubt it though since they have not taken this revelation about me negatively. Your true friends will support you no matter what. I hope that as I reveal who I am to more of my friends that the reactions will be the same.
Hi,
I have more real friends now over the last 8 years than any time in my 64 years of, & those i have known over 54 years are just the same with me , how they knew & saw me in some ways is very different so yes im different & yes im treated differently, because im a woman they did not or percive that i was , & they accepted who i am ,
...noeleena....
I've come out to a number of family members and a few friends now over the course of the last few months and so far no one has treated me any differently. Of course only two of all those have actually seen me in fem---my wife and one sister. Of those who have seen me dressed I have gotten no different treatment.
The question is why would your friends not treat you differently.
Julia
My SO and I have a couples friend that is a basher. Anything out of sorts, like guys acting "fem" or "gay", he gets angry about. He is very closed minded. I would love to say he is hiding a secret, but no. Very much straight, but needs his world to be straight. If he found out, I am quite certain he would walk away or possibly get physical.
We would stop hanging out with him, but the true friendship is between my wife and his.
Also, my mom is very closed minded and conservative. She got cat called by a lesbian the other night and it literally ruined her entire night. She went home immediately and was seething with anger.
Everyone else in my life will be very ok with it, I think. I hope.
Why should they Hon? I'm still the same person basically just more glitter.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
On Thursday of last week I came out as transsexual to my best friend. I am waiting to see what happens after they digest what I told them. It is my hope and wish that they will accept me. As they say time will tell.
A prisoner in a kings disguise - Styx
I'm very out-and-about and so we've come out to most of our local friends because it is very possible that they will encounter me someplace in girl mode and since I'm usually with my spouse they'd notice me.
Most all have been just fine. The funniest one is one of my best guy friends that I share many macho activities with, shooting, etc. I was terrified of telling him, but our good relationship has continued. His first comment was, "But we're still friends, right?"
He had expressed the hope that we would never run into each other when I was en femme and I agreed. But as it turns out, he has run into me en femme. The wildest situation is about to occur this week. As it turns out, he's hosting a business dinner at the same place I'm hostessing a Girls Night Out with a group of GG's including his sister!. He's aware of it and thinks it is pretty funny. Guess we'll see what happens.
Like Sierra_G we have one couple we're friends with and the guy gets very upset about anything alternative. They live quite a ways from us and aren't likely to ever run into me en femme, so we haven't told them, although I do often tell him that I think his knee-jerk judgements are wrong. He's a big bear of a guy but really a pussycat on the inside and the funny thing is he has recently told me he's been diagnosed as low in testosterone!
Some folks are not as happy about knowing as others, but most have adjusted.
Hugs,
Persephone.
"If you are living the life you want to live you've successfully transitioned to being the person you want to be." - Eryn.
"If you truly care about me you should damn well want for me what I want for myself" - Michael Westen (Burn Notice)
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It all depends what your motivation is. It will obviously change something...so the question to ask is, are you looking for everything to stay the same while you dress (which it won't) or do you just want to be comfortable and be treated differently? Think of like this... if you decided to grow an afro, while all of your friends were really in to chrome domes you are going to be the odd one out and you won't get invited to the bald events. My guess is, if its not an immediate rejection or embrace, you will have subtle changes that might be harder to deal with. Or something like that...
Chickie
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