I'm from Chicago and I'm looking for dating sites but all I find are those pay ones where you can't read or interact with people unless you pay.
I'm from Chicago and I'm looking for dating sites but all I find are those pay ones where you can't read or interact with people unless you pay.
Yes I have seen them, run away, A friend told me that they take your money, and you
get in return "Dates" with very undesirables that want $$$ for a date.
Sounds very Fishy to me.
Rader
Rader, that sounds like a form of prostitution, actually. Is that even legal?
Well; you are correct to think so, but they call it an escort service.Originally Posted by CloserthanthisGG
If there is a way to get around a law, some people will think of it.
I do not need anything like that; I married to my date 18+ years ago, and she is
the best girl in the world. Yes I know I am prestigious, But So what , I love her.
Rader
That sounds absolutely terrible, RADER.
So there are no decent dating sites for crossdressers like OKCupid or Plentyoffish?
I once asked around for the same once and received an answer that seemed good enough to me, would you like to base a relationship directly off cross-dressing? A chick who is looking for a cross-dresser online obviously doesn't care to much about the relationship aspect, I could be wrong, but my suggestion is try a regular dating site and let the chick know on the first date then you'll know shes in it for the relationship and whether she can accept you.
There are no dating sites explicitly for TV/TS that are free that I know of (I think there is an alternative dating site that includes TV/TS folks that is free, I can't remember the name offhand.)
You could try the various free social networks geared towards trans folks instead, maybe you can meet someone there.
Actually Joslyn, I'm not straight. So, it might be easier for me to find a guy that's into crossdressers than for a straight crossdresser to find a girl into crossdressers, I just need to know where.
And thank you Vickie, I will look around "general" dating sites that are free. Thank you!
I don't know if there is a US equivalent, in the UK I use tvchix (link in my signature). It is primarily a meeting site but does have a relationship forum and I met my partner via the site.
Edit - There are American T-girls and guys on there, but not that many YET! Hint lol
well as i read this post, this is exactly what confuses/concerns me as a long time wife of a person that i recently found out was a crossdresser. I realize after a ton of reading,the the scope of cders is huge and everyone has their own angle. Is this really what most cders want, even the married ones- " a date" and with who?. Pardon my questioning however this totally strange world of cding is new to me. Is this what most cders what, to date what? who? what is the motive? are you talking homosexual acts. I really wonder if this is what most cders want but just cannot face the facts. Correct me if i am wrong, i do not mean to offend anyone so do not jump on the band wagon and take this the wrong way. Every one is entitled to be happy. I read here so often that cders love their wives, are hetero, etc etc, but i truly wonder if all of these men are not gay and in denial. How the heck can a straight man want to were women lingerie, sexually excite himself, ( keep in mind he does have a wife to be sexually active with) wear lipstick, hose go out in public, become thrilled when a genetic man hold a door open for him, is thrilled when men take a second look at him and call himself heterosexual.. hmmm i do not get it, and trust me i have done more reading, much more that my cding partner has
I don't know of any one hundred percent free ones right off hand. Most of them I know of charge something to send or receive a message.
In response to CindyO, You are right that the scope of us cders is huge. I am single and looking to meet a woman. I am a member of a national online dating site that most of us all see advertised. I am very happy to be a man and most people would think of me as being a very macho male figure. I want a wife and children someday and do all the normal stuff that any husband and father would do for and with his family. I don't publish the fact that I cd and I even wonder at what point do I mention it. Most of the women that I have met and gone a date with never knew about this side of me and as in most cases, a 2nd date never occured for other reasons. I did date a woman for a month and I told her before we even met about my cding. She tried to accept it but eventually she just couldn't get over the fact that I was such a man yet happy to wear womens clothes. For me, it is a chance to feel softer, more civilized and perhaps more attractive then I feel when as a man. The fact that I can't seem to gain the interest of women makes me wonder if I am being driven to dress as a woman due to the lack of one in my life. Naturally, when I do finally meet her, I have every intention of telling her about my girly side since I want to be honest at the start. I assure you, I have no interest in men and the few times that I have been out dressed up, I was more interested in the women and even blew off a guy who was hitting on me. It is hard to pick up women when you are dressed as one. We all are looking for acceptance. We're not trying to change the world or demand equal rights. We just enjoy this side of life on occassion and would love to have a woman by our side who accepts us as we are. Well at least that is in my case.
Hi cindyo,
Just like all groups of people were all different. My self No I do not have a desire in any way to be with a man personally I think most men are jerks LOL. so insecure. As to why I C/D who knows I do go to consoling to help understand and jell the male and female as they fight for time. All I can tell you for as long as I can remember I've had dreams of being in female form of dress before I ever even knew how to read. I enjoy both my male and female side its not something I just like to do its who I am. I know if you don't live it it sure is hard to understand. like tonight Lisa is going to the consoler and getting hair done tomorrow its a lot of work shave beard legs chest under arms do up my hair makeup nails that part is a pain but when when I'm done Its just can't explain Lisa feels right and happy to be let out. You should tell tour S/O to find a consoler it helps so much and a C/D friendly couples consoler would do you both some good if you want this to work. It has I think helped make me a more empathetic caring :human being:
Hope it helps in some small way
Can I assume you're looking for Male persons, not Female? If I'm wrong, read no further since I'm approaching this from the perspective of a Transgender Girl who dates men.
It is very difficult on OK Cupid or Plenty of Fish or Match or other straight sites to post a profile as a Transgender. There is no such category, and you must either list yourself as a "man looking for a man" or a "man looking for a woman." I believe that those sites will ban a genetic man who lists himself as a woman, but that's an impression I have, not a fact I know definitely. I have posted under "man looking for a man" on all these sites, and the results have been tepid. I split my time between New York City and the hinterlands, and obviously have gotten more interest in the big metropolis.
I have also tried explicitly gay sites, such as gay dot com, and have gotten zero interest. Gay men are not interested in transgenders, and you can write that in blood at midnight during the dark of the moon! The irony of that is I am very attractive as a man, and have zero interest in meeting men when I'm in drab!
There are several "Meat Market" sites, the best known of which are Adult Friend Finder and Alt. Neither of them charges a fee for a non-premium profile, and they permit you to answer messages from premium members. Non-premiums are also somewhat limited in their ability to read full profiles and view photographs. I will not vouch for the desirability of the average person on the site. I can lump them into categories: 1.)Men who will send you a photo of their manhood and a "Wanna f**k?" message, and you can bet that 100% of them are wanking at the computer when they send the message. 2.) Married men who are bi-curious and looking for a Thrill Ride which won't imprint in their own minds as gay sex, 3.) Teens and Tweens who are just looking for a warm, moist place to use, and 4.) some of them are just lonely Admirers. The latter are usually decent people, I just wish more of them were height/weight proportionate and less interested in telling me that they have tried a bit of crossdressing themselves.
There are many other sites which actively seek CD profiles, but I think they just use them as advertising fodder. Crossdressing for example, won't let a person even respond to a message from a premium member if you aren't a paying customer.
If you live in a big metro area there is probably a GLBT bar somewhere that will have a monthly (or if you're lucky) weekly Girls Night Out, which are good things to attend for meeting other Trans-girls, and occasionally a real man. If you want to go to one of those, I suggest you visit the place a couple of days in advance, sometime in the late afternoon when it's open but not too busy, and scope-out the layout and ask the bartender about the local customs.
I should point out that I am a gay man and therefore (believe it or not) I am in the minority here. There is no, repeat NO link between who is gay/straight and who is CD/TV/TS etc, they are totally different things!!
The thrill people experience is that feminine feeling they are reaching so deeply to experience. Having doors held, getting makeovers, going out dressed up and yes, causing guys to look twice just helps that femme feeling to feel even better!
I should also point out that I posted in response to this:
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My apologies, I gotta start thinking bout the grander scale before I post, in my own little world over here lol
I do have a profile on TVChix. =)
But I feel like I'm just torturing myself because I meet all these nice, gorgeous British guys but the distance is so great and all we can do is talk on Skype. =)
You're confusing gender with sexuality.
Thanks for the advice. =)
Go to the Chicago Gay Pride Fest June 22 - 23 on Halsted in drag and you just might be hit on by cd/tg admirers. I went last year in my Wolves Cheerleader outfit and I got hit on by a guy and a lesbian.
No it isn't. Just as in everything else, it all depends on your attitude. I could "pick up" a straight woman rather quickly and I'm queer as a 3 dollar bill. (well straight now I guess, but you get the point.) Women are quite simple really, they just want to be appreciated for who they are. Actually in many ways, they're just like you, only prettier.
Here's one I joined years ago. Naively looking for CD accepting GGs! Ha ha! I stay on because I joined during a, "Completely free", opening and there's NO RESTRICTIONS on pics posted! Sherry LOVES THAT!
It's mostly populated with CD's and Admirers looking to meet or hook up.
Check it out, Queen. They let u join and try it out for a couple of weeks before u have to pay anything! Google: dateacrossdresser.com
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
would love to find one in australia
There are bi, straight, and gay crossdressers. There is not just one category. There are many, many straight crossdressers. If your husband tells you he's straight, then he's straight.
As far as dating sites, it's been 6 years, but AdultFriendFinder had a category for crossdressers.
Define "normal"
Why do women enjoy it? Its about acceptance not sexuality we don't take the time to get all done up and look our best just to be tossed out. And as many will tell you gender and sexuality are two separate categories. I plan on transitioning once I leave my home, it still doesn't mean I like men, there simply isn't an attraction there, and if that means I must live alone then so be it I'll still be happy with myself. I'm trying to put this all as nicely as I can, its just late and I'm tired so don't take it the wrong way. Just know that we know who we are even if others don't, I don't generally see the point in gender boundaries anyway clothes are but cloth, shoes are but shoes and hats are hats, history has skewed our understanding of what is and thats the fact that there are no categories, we make them, a door is but wood, same as a house, same as a match. Men and Women are but humans, nothing more or less how we decide to interpret it is based on those who taught you and your own thoughts built upon that layer, we are all the same in the beginning and end, raw material it doesn't help to take the time to make it something more, but thats just a general thought not exactly directed towards you.
Looking back at this now I'm wondering where exactly that all came from, I guess it is time to get some sleep
Last edited by Simply Joslyn; 05-22-2012 at 04:27 AM.
Try not to limit yourself to specifically cross dressers. If all you have in common with the person is cross dressing then the relationship may get stale quick. Like others have mentioned just check other non-paying dating sites and just be honest about yourself. Someone out there is bound to accept you. I wish you luck on your search (v^-^)b
Finally got to making a facebook
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003854850084
And now on instagram (got sucked into the hype). I go by frenchtoastowls. Yea you read that right!
If you're gonna add me just give me a heads up on who you are
please
adultfriendfinder.com you might try this site you don't have to pay if you don't wantto. Connie
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