Hi Natacsha
No I don’t consider myself feminine by nature. I really don’t know what that means. I have read many CDers’ post and blogs about how when they are (insert female name here) they feel more caring empathetic, loving, fun, creative, etc. You know sugar and spice and everything nice. I have look at those list and recognize in myself many of those qualities without needing to be dressed. You might say I am sugar slugs, and spice snails, and some very nice puppy dog tails.
I can act feminine sometimes but I don’t like to. It always seems fake and manufactured a stereotype and a mockery. I like to stay true to myself.
I like to thank you all for the concerns of my well being and the calls for me to soul search. It seems I may have misstated my dilemma. This is not a spiritual crisis as it is an economic one. Now keep in mind that economics isn’t just about money. It can also about time, emotion, and the acquiring of risk all balanced against alternatives. You probably all know full well the time and money spent to achieve the right feminine look. You might not consider the anticipation of joy or the fears of getting caught as an investment but it is if you think about it. One takes on the risk of running into a hater or being embarrassed if accidently expose (think of a wig falling off at the wrong time). I am sure all of us can think of more types of risks in crossdressing. We all handle risk in different ways but it is still a factor to consider.
Now after all that time, money, work, emotional investment, and the taking on of risk, me the closeted fetish crossdresser dressed to the nines, can spend the whole evening doing whatever I want, can link the only pleasure derived from the crossdresing to a few moments in front of a mirror and letting the mind’s fantasy link with the tactile feel of the clothes. (sorry for the long sentence). Yes I can do other activities while dressed and have fun. But that same fun would have been had without the extra cost of being dressed. And I have to compare the other things I could have bought or done with those resources. A new car, a new computer, a few house payments? I could get hours of enjoyment from a new computer or taking friends out to a bar/restaurant in the city. And these things all have a chance of making returns on the investment.
So what crossdressing is just one of the many economic decisions we make in our life. Yes I know and one I am sure to make again. But I can’t help but feel cheated because it comes from some strange compulsion that I can’t identify and doesn’t fit in with the rest of me. It’s there, yes. I can’t and won’t fight it, yes. It’s just a small sexually fantasy/fetish, yes. But it is an expensive one. It’s my life’s sex tax. And damnit I am an American and I have the right to complain about high unfair taxes.