Does anyone not want to be a crossdresser?

[Tatiana]

I often think to myself about the shame and guild I have gone through over the years due to my cd’ing. As a young teenager would wear my mother’s clothes including her underwear. When I went baby-sitting I would try on the next door neighbours clothes. I’ve tried my brother’s girlfriends clothes when she had left some at our house. I even stole a girlfriend’s skirt that happened to be left in the saddlebag of her bike (she used to ride to work and change into a wonderful black pencil skirt that I just couldn’t resist). As I grew older I’ve bought women’s clothes and then had the purged. I hate to think how much I’ve spent. I made my girlfriend think I was gay by wanting to swap clothes. I’ve spent money I didn’t have on clothes for cd’ing when I desperately needed some drab wear. I could go on for ages. I never wanted to be a cd’er, but I am so pleased that I am!

If there was a magic pill I could take that would make me “normal” (or at least not cd) I would not take it. I think cd’ing is part of me. I may be all macho on the outside with as much chance of passing as a fart in a lift but within me is the thoughtful, caring and feminine self, the real me. I would not be without my cd’ing as I think it is what makes me into me. I never wanted to be a cd’er and still can’t understand why I love it so. I wonder if it is a case of I’ve tried the forbidden fruit and now can’t give it up.

Do others feel the same? If a give-up-cd pill was available would you take it?

[terrianncd]

No, I would not and could not give it up. I am female inside so it's not crossdressing really is it? In fact, are we not crossdressing everytime you put on that "guy" outfit? I feel this way when I dress for work as a guy. I'm crossdressing in that the outfit that doesn't match who I am really....

TerriAnn

[Diane Smith]

For many years I probably would have been happier if I could hang up the heels and never think about dressing again. But as I've aged, gotten out a bit, and become better at the technical aspects of putting together an outfit, doing my makeup and so forth, my attitude has changed quite a bit. I like the craft of crossdressing -- doing the best job I can to look like the person I want to be. And I've met some wonderful people and had a variety of experiences in the women's side of the world that have added a great deal of richness and satisfaction to my life. Although I have to be discreet about my activities to some extent, I now think of this more as a gift that has let me explore areas of the world normally off limits to a plain-looking 55-year-old guy, and overall, I think it has been positive for my intellect, emotional life and creative urges.

- Diane

[JohnH]

Oh, how I hate the term cross-dressing! We simply want to get out of the horribly narrow constraints placed on males as far as clothing and grooming are concerned. If only we could go back to the times when it was normal for boys to wear dresses and Mary Jane shoes, and have long hair - the 1940's and before. Some reprobates got it in their minds to spew forth their bilge about how "boys don't wear that", "boys don't do that", "Be a man" and how society got infected with those perverse ideas. Parents that say that to their boys in my opinion are engaging in child abuse that has resulted in the pandemic of "masculine anxiety" paranoia.

I would dare say that when boys wore dresses if a man wanted to wear a dress it was not such a big deal. Back then it was the women who were persecuted for wearing pants.

Now if a man could wear a robe or kilt and wear war-paint makeup with the acceptance of society we would not be seeing all the hang-ups that litter this website. It's a shame that 911 happened since it would be nice to wear an Arabic robe but that would bring back painful memories - look at SkirtCafe.org and you will not see men wearing Arabic robes or thobes. They wear skirts, kilts, and dresses.

John

[KARI AN]

No I like who Iam, only wish it was all the way forever, the female in me is real and I enjoy every minute of it.

[Rebecca Star]

Oh, how I hate the term cross-dressing! We simply want to get out of the horribly narrow constraints placed on males as far as clothing and grooming are concerned. If only we could go back to the times when it was normal for boys to wear dresses and Mary Jane shoes, and have long hair - the 1940's and before. Some reprobates got it in their minds to spew forth their bilge about how "boys don't wear that", "boys don't do that", "Be a man" and how society got infected with those perverse ideas. Parents that say that to their boys in my opinion are engaging in child abuse that has resulted in the pandemic of "masculine anxiety" paranoia.

I would dare say that when boys wore dresses if a man wanted to wear a dress it was not such a big deal. Back then it was the women who were persecuted for wearing pants.

Now if a man could wear a robe or kilt and wear war-paint makeup with the acceptance of society we would not be seeing all the hang-ups that litter this website. It's a shame that 911 happened since it would be nice to wear an Arabic robe but that would bring back painful memories - look at SkirtCafe.org and you will not see men wearing Arabic robes or thobes. They wear skirts, kilts, and dresses.

Most of society breeds on giving everything a "term" and loves nothing more than placing people in pigeon holes. I also dislike the label cross-dressing & or; CD & or; TV etc...etc but until society stops labelling people and just accepts each person as an individual these derogative terms along with there out-dated beliefs will be generally accepted - nothing changes if nothing changes.

If I were to suddenly become "normal"

What's normal to some is abnormal to others. What's your definition of "normal" Vanessa?

In answer to the OP question, no I wouldn't take a pill. Where there is ying there is also yang. I'm who I am today from experiencing everything in my life, good bad or indifferent and wouldn't want to change anything going forward.

[Joanne f]

For something that has caused me so much anguish over the years and no doubt my family you would think I would be very quick in saying Yes but somehow the answer is no I would not take a pill to stop me , I think it is the power of evolution some how force's me to do it ( well that my excuse) .

[ReluctantDebutant]

I would take that pill. After 15 years of excepting my crossdressing it has yet to evolve into anything more then playing dress up in the closet. I don't feel female inside at all. And I would really like to know what I could do with all that emotional energy if I could apply it to something else.

[Stephanie47]

If the premises is I would never have a thought about cross dressing, no matter what the cause, of course I'd take it.

[RADER]

I take enough pills now, I do not need more.
As for cross dressing, why would I want to stop? I enjoy wearing woman's clothes,
Am I a female trapped in a mans body??? I think not; I do not want to transition.
Just wear pretty things.
I remember when I was barley a teen ager, I would spend summer up at the
Grandparents house on a lake; They had dressing rooms for people to change into their
swim suits. So when they left them behind because they where wet, I would wash them all
at the request of my Grandmother. After they where dry, I would sneak them into my
bedroom, and wear them to bed at night. What a wonderfully feeling to feel the spandex all
over you at night. I will never forget those wonder full summer days.
Rader

[sierra_g]

Would a small dose of T kill our femininity?

[Frédérique]

Does anyone not want to be a crossdresser? I would not be without my cd’ing as I think it is what makes me into me. I never wanted to be a cd’er and still can’t understand why I love it so. I wonder if it is a case of I’ve tried the forbidden fruit and now can’t give it up.

[SIZE="2"]No, I like being a crossdresser. If I somehow stopped “doing it,” I know that, one day, I would look back and say (to myself), “I WAS A CROSSDRESSER!!!” This may come about when I’m in the company of conformist crashing bores who detest queer anything, and then paddle off to the nearest officially sanctioned form of personal entertainment. That’s when it’ll hit you – you were (or ARE) something truly special, i.e. a non-conformist of the highest order, a chain saw ripping through the neat ranks of gender correctness, and a poison to all those who don’t have the courage to BE. Life is all about eating that forbidden fruit, if you’re truly ALIVE, that is...


Just relax and enjoy being a MtF crossdresser, Tatiana – you’re one of the LUCKY ones... [/SIZE]

[Marleena]

Do others feel the same? If a give-up-cd pill was available would you take it?

Yes I would so I could stop dressing like a guy.

[geri-tg.]

NEVER NEVER NEVER. I feel blessed to be the way I am.

[Karren H]

Yes.... I would be happier if it went away... Maybe happier isn't the right word. My life would be sooo less complicated if it went away... But I do not feel guilt or remorse... I am what I am and there's no changing that...

[Cynthia Anne]

I just want my outside to match my inside! And not the other way around either! Hugs!

[Kaz]

Wouldn't it be so great if I could just be 'normal'?... and do what normal people do... sat in the middle of the 'normal' distribution curve... MOR... the mass...

NO! I want to be ME!

[Beverley Sims]

What hobbies does an ex cross dresser take up?

[Ally 2112]

After all the years working on overcoming the guilt and purging im at a fairly happy spot in my life (except for work) i would not give it up now ,i rather enjoy it and probally always will .Like i said to much work has gone into this to stop or wanting to stop

[Sandra1746]

I self identify as transgender so I couldn't stop my CD-tendencies.

Fortunately my wife is also fairly accepting, that makes life easier.

Hugs,
Sandra1746

[April Lyn]

I wish is wasnt crossdressing at all, that I was just a real girl wearing my normal girly cloths. But aside from that option, I would'nt give it up because it would mean loosing a valued part of myself that I have come to love.

- April

[Jeanna]

Me no, ask my wife about the pill, she crossdresses all the time! lol

[natacsha]

Hi Tatiana!! this is officially my favorite thread!! I love it!! and reading the reactions people have are stirring so many thoughts into my head right now. So I will just quote away. Don't mind me...

I never wanted to be a cd’er, but I am so pleased that I am!

If there was a magic pill I could take that would make me “normal” (or at least not cd) I would not take it. I think cd’ing is part of me. I may be all macho on the outside with as much chance of passing as a fart in a lift but within me is the thoughtful, caring and feminine self, the real me. I would not be without my cd’ing as I think it is what makes me into me. I never wanted to be a cd’er and still can’t understand why I love it so. I wonder if it is a case of I’ve tried the forbidden fruit and now can’t give it up.

Do others feel the same? If a give-up-cd pill was available would you take it?

NOOO WAAYYYYY!!!!! I used to think about it all the time. But the truth is in your words. Forbidden fruit though??? Where once I thought that I was doing something wrong (forbidden) I can no longer justify it that way because I realize it's in me. It's always been in me. I am her and she is I. Nothing forbidden about it! lol weeellll....,,,,it is forbidden to be this damn sexy!! hehe haha lol just kidding.

No, I would not and could not give it up. I am female inside so it's not crossdressing really is it? In fact, are we not crossdressing everytime you put on that "guy" outfit? I feel this way when I dress for work as a guy. I'm crossdressing in that the outfit that doesn't match who I am really....

TerriAnn

spoken like a true TG. It's cool. I'm the same way...and improving!! lol

I would take that pill. After 15 years of excepting my crossdressing it has yet to evolve into anything more then playing dress up in the closet. I don't feel female inside at all. And I would really like to know what I could do with all that emotional energy if I could apply it to something else.

If playing dress up with no femme feelings attached was all that it was for me, I wouldn't need a pill to stop....

Oh, how I hate the term cross-dressing!
John

It's not cross dressing.....it's cross sexxingggg lol

If the premises is I would never have a thought about cross dressing, no matter what the cause, of course I'd take it.

truth!

No I like who Iam, only wish it was all the way forever, the female in me is real and I enjoy every minute of it.

preach!

I take enough pills now, I do not need more.
As for cross dressing, why would I want to stop? I enjoy wearing woman's clothes,
Am I a female trapped in a mans body??? I think not; I do not want to transition.

And the buck stops there. I can't see myself transitioning either but I can't say that if and when the opportunity presents itself that I will turn it down. Just understanding now what I wish I knew then would have changed everything but in my young 30's and a life I've built behind me would make that a very difficult choice, regardless of how femme I am.

Yes I would so I could stop dressing like a guy.

A girl that knows what she wants!! go on wich yo bad self!! lol

I self identify as transgender so I couldn't stop my CD-tendencies.

Fortunately my wife is also fairly accepting, that makes life easier.

Hugs,
Sandra1746

you're just lucky lol

NEVER NEVER NEVER. I feel blessed to be the way I am.

Me too darnit!

Yes.... I would be happier if it went away... Maybe happier isn't the right word. My life would be sooo less complicated if it went away... But I do not feel guilt or remorse... I am what I am and there's no changing that...

Life would definitely be less complicated without this. Maybe this is what chaos dealt us? Could be worse....

[Nichola]

I'd often wish I could just be 'normal' & not crossdress but not so much anymore. I absolutely love it, I can't even describe how it makes me feel. Dressing up a little now & again is a lot of fun to me & is the best way I can deal with my obvious gender issues. Sometimes I take a break, because I like to be a guy too, but I always come back to it. It's a 'need' for me.
If there was a give up cd pill, I'd think about it for a second or two then flush it down the toilet

[Cassi3]

No way I'd take that pill! I've always felt female inside, and one day the outside wrapping will reflect who I truly am inside