Hello Ladies
My fantasy at this point is to go out in public dressed to the hilt.
Question for you that have been out and are married w/ family and they do not know about your CDing. How did you pull it off?
My Fantasy
Hello Ladies
My fantasy at this point is to go out in public dressed to the hilt.
Question for you that have been out and are married w/ family and they do not know about your CDing. How did you pull it off?
One time when my wife was away for a week I jumped at the opportunity to go out in public fully dressed as "Marcie". It was wonderful. I tried to dress very conservative so I wouldn't draw too much attention. I wore a pair of my wifes skinny jeans with high leather boots, a pretty femine sweater with black and white stripes and of course under eveything, I had my lacy bra and panties. I took my time with my makeup and wig because I just wanted to look natural , not ****ty. My first stop was a small coffee shop just outside my home area, then on to a convenience store to pick up a few items, and then with my nerve up, I walked through the local mall. It was a great experience I'll never forget.
You are so courageous girl. Wish I had your nerve.
You should check with Karren Hutton, I think she has changed in about every type of place you can think of, at least, a couple more than I would have thought of.lol
Bur I think you need to be fast and devious to make it work.
Tina B.
Magic is the art of changing consciousness at will.
Business trips and vacation days around the burgh. Crossdressing on an expense account is an amazing fringe benefit! Many times doing quick gender changes in public unisex restrooms. It a lot of fun.
Lol. Not EVERY one.Originally Posted by Tina B.
I can say that I do not envy you in that your wife is unaware of your CD'ing, especially given your desire to present as female in public. There are no easy answers. I'm sure many who are in the same secrecy club can offer some practical advice.
Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
Sunlight falls, my wings open wide. There's a beauty here I cannot deny - David Sylvian, "Orpheus" (1987)
Before I was married, I did it very much like Karren. But my late wife did know that I was a crossdresser when we married so there was no problem then! In fact, she did my makeup and fixed my wig before I went out in public. My children never knew until they were grown up.
If your wife does not know about your CD'ing, you are asking for trouble!! I would definitely reccommend telling her!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
My fantasy is to go out in public during the day dressed up. But I really need to buy more blendable clothes (a nice summer dress and some comfortable shoes). And I need to work out my makeup regimen just a little better. I've gone out at night in a few big cities. People just look at me and treat me as if I'm a woman. A few chuckled cause I guess they knew. What I really want to work out is making it to where people won't guess. They'll think I'm a woman. Oh, and a plus to all that is that guys were hitting on me. That's pretty hot
A few members of my family know about my CDing. Both of my sisters know. I lived with one of them for 2 years and ordered clothes from ebay when I was there. I even opened the package a few times and showed her what I got. LOL! She also tried on a few of my wigs. It was really funny. My family's really cool about things though. I'm lucky.
Last edited by FemmeElastique; 06-03-2012 at 11:57 AM.
My wife knows I am a cross dresser. We are in a DADT relationship. Her knowledge does not confer acceptance. When she goes out of town to visit relatives I go out in the evening en femme. Before I retired I went on business trips which allowed me time to be Stephanie as much as I wanted.
In some cities there are support groups that maintain changing rooms for a small fee. I know there is such a facility in Seattle. There maybe one in your area. You could also use an inexpensive hotel and pay cash. If you use a unisex public bathroom you could leave your home with as many undergarments on a possible, so you only have to slip into a dress, heels, wig and makeup. Next time you buy a vehicle, get one with tinted windows
It takes a long time with a SO and lots of patience.
A slow and inexhorable long time.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
I'm sure you could find a place in a big city that has complete transformation services, where you go in as a guy then spend a few hours dressed as a woman, go out escorted on the town then come back get showered up leave as a man and pay a heck of a lot of money. If the pink fog has not hit you too hard right now then I think you have to start laying out a plan to tell the SO but I'm not an expert on this. I'm still having a hard time going out in public without causing a tif, rif, friction with my SO and she has known about this side of me from day one but don't let me discourage you. As Beverly says, its a long, slow journey and there seems to be many different outcomes and destinations for everybody.
Going out in public sounds like a lot of fun. The OP says it's a fantasy to do it. Well for this girl, it will remain a fantasy only. Call me chicken, call me worried what others will think or say, and you'd be right! It's not for everyone. As said many times, some fantasies are better left fantasies. This is one of them for me. I live vicariously through the few here that can pass or blend. I'm smart enough to know I would not pass or blend. I am built to big to pull it off.
I have gone out to clubs that are known to accept us. I don't have a problem with that. But you won't catch me in the mall or Walmart any time soon. I even envy those that don't care what people think or say. I'm just not made that way. I care.
Last edited by BRANDYJ; 06-03-2012 at 02:21 PM. Reason: spelling
Ladies,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
BTW what is DADT?
Hmmmmm..... Thinking hard about this one
Sorry, cant afford that
[QUOTE=BRANDYJ;2863108]Going out in public sounds like a lot of fun. The OP says it's a fantasy to do it. Well for this girl, it will remain a fantasy only.QUOTE]
Im afraid Im w/ you girl on this one
I made excuses and found things that I was doing with the "guys" and went to another cd's home and dressed with her. We then went to a Tri-Ess meeting. I was supposed to be at a hockey game. Years later I came clean and it was worse than just telling her in the first place.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
Your question kinda disqualifies me, since my wife knows and is accepting. She doesn't go out with my (yet). When I really want to get dressed to the "nines" I pick an appropriate venue, such as a night at a live theater. Then I can go all out and not be conspicuously overdressed.
Don't Ask, Don't Tell. Basically, the partner knows about the dressing but doesn't want to hear about it or see it.
My wife knows, is in the DADT phase, but accepts that I will dress, and encourages it. In the past she has expressed concern about me going out, so I have not told her of my four recent day trips while she is at the daughters for the day. Going out is not something everyone needs to do to enjoy their dressing. I just want to do it, and did. that is how everyone should do whatever it is they want to.
When tit time is right you will know, and you will figure something out for your situation.
Oh, and I have no delusion that I pass, and likely not even blend. I am just me, and some will notice, but most will take no notice of little ole me.
And, going out to clubs or TG meetings qualifies as going out. Going to a club is one of my future fantasy excursions I wnt to do.
Barbara
He (she) who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand and walk and run and climb and dance.
- Friedrich Nietzche -
I may never get to fly like the other girls, but I do so want to dance, so I continue to climb.
I've gone out of town on business and went out dressed. One time I even arranged a fake business trip and went out of town for a makeover and photo session.
I've dressed locally and gone O&A when my was out of town.
I've even down it when my wife is in town, ressing before she gets home and leaving and turning back to boy mode in the car. I have a duffle bag fully stocked with 2 girl outfits, and all the required accessories. All I need is to get out of the house and a cover story
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
I'm not married, but many of my transgender friends are. This includes crossdressers & transsexuals. Those I know who have tolerant wives, always seem to have to negotiate, on her behalf, when they can go out and socialize. Things don't always go smoothly, but they also can end well too. I've seen it.
Being single had it's advantages....I can go out dressed any time I want. And I do. The down side is whenever there's a romantic prospect, I run into the same problems as everybody else.
I like this part of your post the best Barb.
Hmmmm let's see being 'out' and yet still in the closet.... yep that's me. First, find a way to 'work' from home and make sure that the SO and offspring are at a job or in school. Then race to the closet and change. I got this part down to about 20 mintues with corset, forms, pads, et all.. Then off to the mirror for a 'quick' makeup session. About an hour or so later you are ready for the out of doors. It's kind of like a well coreographed heist only I get to do it everyday.
Once out and about, I shop and do a bunch of errands 'round town making sure that the carrage is back before school lets out or it turns into a pumpkin... It's kind of like being born a superhero. My favorite is supergirl. You never get to tell the ones you care for 'cus the whole secret identity thing will come crashing down... and in my case the SO will launch the D word and then I'm spending the rest of my life in some low rent apartment by myself... Someday, supergirl will show her true colors, just not right now...
Each of us is on a different but simular journey and each is taking a slightly different path...
Hope this makes some scence...
Renne.....
I found a great way to safely dress and go out! Attend a CD/TG convention/function. Like DLV, SCC, Be All, etc., etc. Not only do u get to dress for nearly a week straight, there r SOME events where u can dress to the nines! A few where u can even dress VERY RISKY! And, not have to --- ick, ---=-yuck, ----b--I can't even say it! BbbbbbBLEND! There! AGH!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Barbs
I am shocked at your language young lady. Didnt your mother teach you not to use such language
Thera
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